Working moms are good moms, too

So why is that women are still being made to feel guilty for doing what is needed?

Working moms are good moms, too

Last week, I went in for an interview for a communications job. I was very excited about the position and the opportunity. It would have been a great experience and a chance to utilize my vast and varied experience in one position.

When I walked into the room, I was faced with a panel interview: one man and two women. It was mostly a normal interview. They told me about the job and asked me about my writing; I told them about some of my pieces. I remember the woman in the middle thanked me for writing about mental health after having a baby. It stuck out to me.

Which is why I was shocked when this woman then asked me about how my choice to have a job outside of the home could affect my family [Editor's note: Which is illegal by the way.] It took me all day to realize how fed up I am for myself and women everywhere who are faced with that question.

How have we made it to 2019 and are still battling society when it comes to mothers working outside of the home? I remember a conversation I had once with another mom about work. She said to me, "I love my children too much to leave them."

I was shocked that my work would suggest that I didn't fully love my children. I'd argue that my love for my children is why I work. I want to show them that I can work and provide for them in many ways. The hours I work gives them the opportunity to go to dance classes, it affords them treats and I am able to show them that women can be moms and professionals.

It's nobody else's business how our work relates to our family. And we shouldn't be made to feel guilty for working. But until society catches up to the fact that some of us need or like to work, we'll never be viewed as equals. We'll be viewed as hybrids: part-mom, part-professional, instead of just what we truly are: working women.

Mortgages, car payments, insurance, food. They're all so expensive that many households need two working adults to make ends meet. Companies no longer give the benefits or salaries that they used to, and life hasn't gotten more affordable. All you need to do is pull up GoFundMe and you'll see people on the brink of losing their homes due to a medical illness to know that life in America is too expensive and too unpredictable for there to not be two incomes for most households.

So why is that women are still being made to feel guilty for doing what is needed?

In my house, my husband and I work hard to divide the tasks. There's no one person who cooks, who cleans, or who handles dirty diapers. If the school calls to tell us that our daughter is sick, either one of us could pick her up. Like many families, we take equal responsibility in raising our children. So why is there still a stigma about working mothers? Fathers today are just as likely to leave work because of family emergencies.

After being put in the unacceptable and illegal position of having to defend my position in the workplace, I've come to believe that some people don't understand what it is like to be a working mom. And they've decided to ignore the fact that when working with people, there will always be reasons for someone to be late or call off. More so if there are little ones at home.

We need to change our way of thinking and stop stigmatizing women in the workplace. We are warriors. We can work and we can raise our families with ferocity. We are not lesser because we work, and we are not lesser because we stay home.

As for my job interview, I turned them down and explained why: I am a professional and I am a mother, and those are not mutually exclusive, but I will not stand for judgment of what I choose to do and when.

Time-saving formula tips our editors swear by

Less time making bottles, more time snuggling.

As a new parent, it can feel like feeding your baby is a full-time job—with a very demanding nightshift. Add in the additional steps it takes to prepare a bottle of formula and, well… we don't blame you if you're eager to save some time when you can. After all, that means more time for snuggling your baby or practicing your own well-deserved self-care.

Here's the upside: Many, many formula-feeding mamas before you have experienced the same thing, and they've developed some excellent tricks that can help you mix up a bottle in record time. Here are the best time-saving formula tips from editors here at Motherly.

1. Use room temperature water

The top suggestion that came up time and time again was to introduce bottles with room temperature water from the beginning. That way, you can make a bottle whenever you need it without worrying about warming up water—which is a total lifesaver when you have to make a bottle on the go or in the middle of the night.

2. Buy online to save shopping time

You'll need a lot of formula throughout the first year and beyond—so finding a brand like Comforts, which offers high-quality infant formula at lower prices, will help you save a substantial amount of money. Not to mention, you can order online or find the formula on shelves during your standard shopping trip—and that'll save you so much time and effort as well.

3. Pre-measure nighttime bottles

The middle of the night is the last time you'll want to spend precious minutes mixing up a bottle. Instead, our editors suggest measuring out the correct amount of powder formula into a bottle and putting the necessary portion of water on your bedside table. That way, all you have to do is roll over and combine the water and formula in the bottle before feeding your baby. Sounds so much better than hiking all the way to the kitchen and back at 3 am, right?

4. Divide serving sizes for outings

Before leaving the house with your baby, divvy up any portions of formula and water that you may need during your outing. Then, when your baby is hungry, just combine the pre-measured water and powder serving in the bottle. Our editors confirm this is much easier than trying to portion out the right amount of water or formula while riding in the car.

5. Memorize the mental math

Soon enough, you'll be able to prepare a bottle in your sleep. But, especially in the beginning or when increasing your baby's serving, the mental math can take a bit of time. If #mombrain makes it tough to commit the measurements to memory, write up a cheat sheet for yourself or anyone else who will prepare your baby's bottle.

6. Warm up chilled formula with water

If you're the savvy kind of mom who prepares and refrigerates bottles for the day in advance, you'll probably want to bring it up to room temperature before serving. Rather than purchase a bottle warmer, our editors say the old-fashioned method works incredibly well: Just plunge the sealed bottle in a bowl of warm water for a few minutes and—voila!—it's ready to serve.

Another great tip? Shop the Comforts line on to find premium baby products for a fraction of competitors' prices. Or, follow @comfortsforbaby for more information!

This article was sponsored by The Kroger Co. Thank you for supporting the brands that support Motherly and mamas.

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