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Chores are often thought of as tiring and tedious. They are seen as the duties one must complete before doing something that’s actually fun, like relaxing on the couch..


In fact, chores are good for kids! Research has found that giving children chores helps set them up for success in life. Using data collected over 25 years, Marty Rossman from the University of Mississippi found that children who had done chores since the age of three or four were more likely to be well-adjusted, have better relationships with friends and family, and be more successful in their careers.

Still, thinking of tasks as ‘chores’ can take the fun out of them. Do your chores! Did you do your chores yet? I expect you to do your chores! It sounds so negative, like a punishment akin to eating brussel sprouts or getting a shot at the doctor.

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Thinking about chores as ‘meaningful roles’ or ‘special jobs’ helps put the natural joy back into them.

Young kids tend to love jobs. While kids can learn to do tasks for themselves, such as clear their plates or get dressed, it’s also important for them to do jobs that help a collective. Children are naturally motivated by helping family members, friends, or even strangers. They love using their power and expertise in unique ways for the good of others.

Here are a few ways jobs are already naturally fun for young kids:

They love being of service to others

  • They could have the ‘job’ of wiping off wet slides at the park so other kids can use them.
  • They could be in charge of writing and coloring get well cards for friends who are sick.
  • To help the family, kids could match the family’s socks or put away the silverware (both of which help with pre-math sorting skills).
  • They could be in charge of wrapping all birthday presents or opening packages/boxes with their kiddie scissors (which strengthen fine motor skills).
  • They could put muffin cups in holders while baking, serve food with tongs, squirt ketchup for everyone, or squirt water on tables and scrub them (which improve fine motor skills or pincer grasp).

They like to move their bodies

Young children want to move it move it, and it's good for them. John Ratey, author of A User's Guide to the Brain, describes exercise as "Miracle-Gro for the brain."

Children enjoy shoveling snow, raking leaves, shoveling wood chips and vacuuming (all of which strengthen gross motor skills and build muscles). They like running laundry piles up to various rooms, sprinting to another part of an abode to fetch paper towels, or walking letters up to the mailbox.

Kids like to do things alongside their parents

When done during one-on-one special time with parents, many chores can take on deeper meaning and promote bonding and attachment. Washing the car with dad once a week, shopping with mom at the grocery store, or watering flowers with Grandma provide priceless opportunities for becoming even closer with important adults.

Kids like to have ownership, independence, and a sense of power

A need for power and control is one of four psychological human needs. Kids love to be ‘in charge.’

  • They could be the D.J., survey people for their favorite music, and choose a playlist for the family and for guests who come over.
  • They could have the job of greeting visitors and getting them a glass of water (which builds social/entertaining skills).
  • They could have the job of checking the weather in the morning and telling younger siblings to wear long sleeves/short sleeves, pants/shorts (which helps with science).

Here are a few more ways to put joy back in chores/jobs:

1. Bring fun add-ons

The smallest add-ons can make jobs way more fun. For example, if a kid's job is to wash windows, adding a small stepladder makes it more interesting. If their job is to clean up their toys, add some music. If their job is to write thank you cards, give them some stickers or stampers. If they are helping you at the hardware store, give them a clipboard with a checklist to mark things off when you get them.

2. Ask for their ideas

A key aspect of feeling like a job is engaged work (not grunt work) is if you’ve given some input. If it’s a kid’s job to decorate for a party, ask for their ideas—do they want to blow up balloons, hang streamers, make a lot of little signs or make one big banner? If they are going to help garden, what top two vegetables do they want to plant? Would they rather water them in the morning or before bed? If they are going to be the snack-packer for an outing, do they want apples or bananas?

3. Rotate

Having a rotating chart where kids do different jobs each week prevents boredom and disengagement. For example, they could switch off between setting the table, sweeping after dinner and clearing the table.

4. Thank and reinforce

Just like adults, kids appreciate being thanked. "Thanks for helping me bag up these leaves. The way you stomped them down helped us fit so many extra leaves in the bags," or, "Thanks for washing the dishes tonight. I didn't think you were going to get that goo off the frying pan, but your elbow grease really worked!"

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