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Dear Hayden Panettiere: Postpartum depression is real, and it’s not your fault

We see your pain—and we also see your future. And it is beautiful and bright.

Dear Hayden Panettiere: Postpartum depression is real, and it’s not your fault

This week, actress and new mom Hayden Panettiere entered a treatment program for postpartum depression. We commend her decision to seek supportive care and send these words:


Oh Hayden,

I want you to know that you are held.

I want you to know that you are a woman and a mother first, before the fame, before the media. And that the role of self and woman and mother will always come before all else. We see you, Hayden. We see you through our own tired eyes. We see you without judgement. We see you without the guilt that weighs upon your own shoulders. We see your pain—and we also see your future. And it is beautiful and bright. Just know that, even as it brings you to your knees.

This struggle within you is both your own, and that of the ages. It is hormonal, it is chemical, it is transitional, it is real, it is happening and it is not your fault. I’ve been there myself—so scared of admitting the spinning overwhelm. Pushing so incredibly hard to make it through one moment, even an easy one. And feeling my heart pound and my hands shake and thinking “Why?” Thinking “I can’t do this,” is heart-wrenching and all-encompassing, especially as it drags you further away from your new, perfect life with your little one.

The walls are crumbling around you, my love, just as they did around me. That is the truth. You are bare. You are sensitive and torn and your heart has never been this fragile. But you are still here. You can inhale and exhale and follow a single breath. For now, that is enough. Leave the walls in shambles, lay open your shattered self. Be broken, this once. If anything, our imperfection ties us to one another. It makes me touch a place of deep sympathy and forgiveness. It makes me a better person. And so, it is here in this rawness of being, that you will become the embodiment of strength and bravery that you always were.

There is help. There is hope.

-Hannah Garrison

Hannah Garrison is a keeper of safe spaces. Motivator of brave brilliance. Finder of authentic change. Founder of Calm-A-Mama, Wear Your Music, OMstacks and and ICF accredited coach.

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Create a school-ready capsule wardrobe for your kids

Dress for success whether virtual learning or in the classroom!

Tina Meeks

Going "back to school" this year may be less of a literal statement than in years past—but there is just as much reason for your kids to celebrate moving on to new grades. Just like in every new school year, a big part of the fun is refreshing your kids' wardrobe with clothes that allow them to express themselves.

Even if finding back to school clothes this year doesn't include a trip to the mall, you can still make an event of it by shopping H&M's kids collection from your computer. Pull up another chair for your shopping buddy and get the cart started with these fave capsule wardrobe options we've already scouted.

Here are our favorite picks:

A t-shirt made for play

H&M t-shirt

Call them essentials, not basics. A graphic t-shirt aces the test when it comes to being perfect for school. And because your little student will probably want to wear something that expresses their personal style as often as possible, it's great to know the shirts can stand up to school time, playtime, downtime and everything in between!

$4.99

Dressed-up casual shorts for total comfort

H&M boy shorts

Whether pulling up a chair for a virtual meeting with the class or heading back to the school for in-person learning, some comfortable, yet stylish, shorts will help your kid focus on the real tasks at hand: learning—and having fun while doing it!

$19.99

Layers for when seasons change

H&M sweatshirt

When it comes to feeling comfortable at school, layers are the MVPs. Whether the AC is blasting or the day started off cool and is warming up quickly, having a unique sweatshirt to shed or add will help your kid look cool while staying warm.

$9.99

A bit of flair with distressed denim

H&M distressed jeans

A school staple for generations, denim is both classic and continually fashionable with updates like distressing and new wash colors. If you're shopping online for jeans this year, take note of H&M's generous return policy—your kids can try on the orders at home and return anything that doesn't fit without a trip to the store.

$24.99

A fashion statement piece

H&M girls skirt

What's better than expressing yourself through a stylish outfit when school is back in session? Still feeling perfectly comfortable and ready to tackle anything the day holds while looking so good. With so many fashion-forward looks available at budget-friendly prices, H&M's children's collection means every kid can find an outfit that speaks to them.

$14.99

Some comfy kicks

H&M boys shoes

A sure way to put a little pep in your child's step this year, cool and cozy shoes are a staple on all back-to-school shopping lists for good reason. (Plus, it's fun to compare them to last year's shoes to see how much your kid has grown!)

$19.99

Anything-but-basic blouses

H&M girls blouse

Whether in the classroom or showing up for a video call with the class, a styling blouse or button-down shirt is a great way for your student to comfortably dress up the day. Better yet? Style doesn't have to come at the expense of comfort with so many made-to-move tops designed just for kids.

$14.99

A shirt ready to go whatever the day holds

H&M boys shirt

With "going to school" meaning anything from showing up in the classroom to doing a virtual session, it's important to have clothes that are perfect for anything the day holds. A classic, cotton shirt with a fashion-forward design is a great way to keep your student feeling ready to start the year with an A+ attitude.

$9.99

This article was sponsored by H&M. Thank you for supporting the brands that support Motherly and mamas.

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