It’s not selfish to take a break, mama

It isn’t selfish to take a shower. It isn’t selfish to brush your hair. It isn’t selfish to have dessert alone.

It’s not selfish to take a break, mama

Being a mom can be exhausting.

It starts with pregnancy— still the most tiring thing I’ve ever done. Days in a hospital, in an uncomfortable bed with people poking you and checking you, is draining. Then the baby comes home and he doesn’t like the adorable bassinet you stressed about and just wants to be in your arms, which is sweet but so tiring. I couldn’t even sit up on my own because of C-sections, let alone have the endurance for all-nighters, but somehow I made it through.

Just like I’m sure you did.

I’m sure you have no clue how you stayed awake for days and nights just watching your baby breathe, but you did. No recollection of how you made a bottle at 4 am and dinner at 5 pm, but you did.

What did this marathon of newborn care teach me?

That we need to use that newfound endurance—to take care of ourselves. It might seem impossible to find the time for self-care, but just like you found the time to fit in 12 diaper changes in one day and feedings every four hours, we must find the time to take of ourselves.

Mothers deserve the same loving attention + care we give our children.

The work itself is tiring and sometimes mind-numbing, if you count being asked about Mickey Mouse 30 times in a row before you had your coffee. Or maybe your little one didn’t even sleep last night so now your days are running together. You’re so busy that you can’t imagine when you’ll be able to get a break.

That, my friends, is the best time to take a break.

I know you think that you don’t have any time. That you have to much going on to do anything for yourself but just like you made it through those newborn nights you can find a minute just for yourself, it simply has to be a new priority.

Because. . .

It isn’t selfish to take a shower.

It isn’t selfish to brush your hair.

It isn’t selfish to have dessert alone.

It isn’t selfish to sit with your coffee alone.

It isn’t selfish to call your sitter to get a nap.

It isn’t selfish to go get your nails done.

It isn’t selfish to read a book with a cup of tea.

It isn’t selfish to treat yourself.

It isn’t selfish to go on a date and have dinner with your significant other.

Lastly, it isn’t selfish to give yourself a minute of peace.

That peace will come in handy I promise you. You’ll pull from those mini breaks when your kiddos come to you for comfort. It’s our jobs to share our calm with our kiddos and not add to their chaos. But, if you haven’t had a calming moment in months it can be hard to remember how.

Moms, we can’t forget how to care for ourselves just because we are busy raising mini humans to do just that. So, at the end of the day, after you put away the diaper cream, and the millionth toy, I hope you take a minute just for you and savor it because you not only deserve it, you need it.

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14 outdoor toys your kids will want to play with beyond summer

They transition seamlessly for indoor play.

With Labor day weekend in the rearview and back-to-school in full swing, most parents are fresh out of boxes to check on their "Fun Concierge" hit list. It's also the point of diminishing returns on investing in summer-only toys. So with that in mind, we've rounded up some of our favorite toys that are not only built to last but will easily make the transition from outdoor to indoor play. Even better, they're Montessori-friendly and largely open-ended so your kids can get a ton of use out of them.

From sunny backyard afternoons to rainy mornings stuck inside, these toys are sure to keep little ones engaged and entertained.

Meadow ring toss game

Plan Toys meadow ring toss game

Besides offering a fantastic opportunity to hone focus, coordination, determination and taking turns, lawn games are just plain fun. Set them up close together for the littles and spread them out when Mom and Dad get in on the action. With their low profile and rope rings, they're great for indoors as well.


Balance board

Plan Toys balance board

Balance boards are a fabulous way to get the wiggles out. This one comes with a rope attachment, making it suitable for even the youngest wigglers. From practicing their balance and building core strength to working on skills that translate to skateboarding and snowboarding, it's a year-round physical activity that's easy to bring inside and use between Zoom classes, too!


Detective set

Plan Toys detective setDetective Set

This set has everything your little detective needs to solve whatever mystery they might encounter: an eye glasses, walkie-talkie, camera, a red lens, a periscope and a bag. Neighborhood watch? Watch out.


Wooden doll stroller

Janod wooden doll strollerWooden Doll Stroller

Take their charges on a stroll around the block with this classic doll stroller. With the same versatility they're used to in their own ride, this heirloom quality carriage allows their doll or stuffy to face them or face the world.


Sand play set

Plan Toys sand set

Whether you're hitting the beach or the backyard sandbox, this adorable wooden sand set is ready for action. Each scoop has an embossed pattern that's perfect for sand stamping. They're also totally suitable for water play in the wild or the bathtub.


Water play set

Plan Toys water play set

Filled with sand or water, this tabletop sized activity set keeps little ones busy, quiet and happy. (A mama's ideal trifecta 😉). It's big enough to satisfy their play needs but not so big it's going to flood your floors if you bring the fun inside on a rainy day.


Mini golf set

Plan Toys mini golf set

Fore! This mini golf set is lawn and living room ready. Set up a backyard competition or incorporate into homeschooling brain breaks that shift focus and build concentration.


Vintage scooter balance bike

Janod retro scooter balance bike

Pedals are so 2010. Balance bikes are the way to go for learning to ride a bike while skipping the training wheels stage altogether. This impossibly cool retro scooter-style is built to cruise the neighborhood or open indoor space as they're learning.


Wooden rocking pegasus

plan toys wooden rocking pegasus

Your little will be ready to take flight on this fun pegasus. It gently rocks back and forth, but doesn't skimp on safety—its winged saddle, footrests and backrest ensure kids won't fall off whether they're rocking inside or outside.


Croquet set

Plan Toys croquet set

The cutest croquet set we've ever seen! With adorable animal face wooden balls and a canvas bag for easy clean up, it's also crafted to stick around awhile. Round after round, it's great for teaching kiddos math and problem-solving skills as well.


Wooden digital camera

fathers factory wooden digital camera

Kids get the chance to assemble the camera on their own then can adventure anywhere to capture the best moments. With two detachable magnetic lenses, four built-in filters and video recorder, your little photographer can tap into their creativity from summertime to the holidays.


Wooden bulldozer toy

plan toys wooden bulldozer toy

Whether they're digging up sand in the backyad or picking up toys inside, kids can get as creative as they want picking up and moving things around. Even better? Its wooden structure means it's not an eye sore to look at wherever your digger drops it.


Pull-along hippo

janod toys pull along hippo toy

There's just something so fun about a classic pull-along toy and we love that they seamlessly transition between indoor and outdoor play. Crafted from solid cherry and beechwood, it's tough enough to endure outdoor spaces your toddler takes it on.


Baby forest fox ride-on

janod toys baby fox ride on

Toddlers will love zooming around on this fox ride-on, and it's a great transition toy into traditional balance bikes. If you take it for a driveway adventure, simply use a damp cloth to wipe down the wheels before bringing back inside.


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