This viral TikTok has every mom feeling *seen*

It's the check-in we didn't know we needed: 'There's so much pressure on you right now'

VIral TikTok

Being a mom is hard. Being a mom during a global pandemic is really hard. Add on top of that the uncertainty of school, work, childcare and it's only natural that we—all of us—are feeling the pressure on our shoulders. That's probably why this one minute video on TikTok has gone incredibly viral in the last week on a platform that is mostly known for dance mash ups and funny pranks.

In it "Momma/Bestie" (as her TikTok profile describes her) @swirl_life asks all other moms on TikTok how they are doing right now. She does it in a way that had me crying three seconds after it started and had my coworker watch it 10 times in a row. She sees us. She is talking directly to us and there's something so powerful about it.

The video has over 2.7 million views on TikTok and has been shared across multiple platforms by other users. It also has over 65,000 comments from other moms thanking her for this video. "We all burst into tears when someone asks us how we are. No one asks us that question ever. Thank you" reads one comment. "So I'm 2 weeks postpartum... and I just burst into tears... I had to tell my husband I'm not OK today... and I need help. It's not easy" reads another.


This is what the viral mama says in her video:

"Hi, this video is for the mother on TikTok right now. So if you are not a mother please continue to scroll and enjoy your For You page.

Hi. Now that we are alone... How are you? Did you get any sleep last night? I know you are worried. There's so much pressure on you right now. I feel it too. But I want you to know that you are not alone. We are in this together. And you know what, we are gonna get through this. And I know nobody checks on you because you are so strong but I just want you to know that I'm here. I'm here for you sis. Keep going, you are amazing and I appreciate you."

@swirl_life This was on my heart HEAVY this morning. If you care, Share with a mom you LOVE ##fyp ##foryou ##foryoupage ##foru ##momlife ##selfcare ##momsupport ##support
♬ original sound - swirl_life

Thank you for checking in, thank you for the good cry you made me have just now, and thank you for reminding me to check in on all my mom friends to see how they are doing. That'll be my priority today.

By its very nature, motherhood requires some lifestyle adjustments: Instead of staying up late with friends, you get up early for snuggles with your baby. Instead of spontaneous date nights with your honey, you take afternoon family strolls with your little love. Instead of running out of the house with just your keys and phone, you only leave with a fully loaded diaper bag.

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Nipple Shields and Sterilization Case

Dr. Brown's nipple shields

There is a bit of a learning curve to breastfeeding—for both mamas and babies. Thankfully, even if there are some physical challenges (like inverted nipples or a baby's tongue tie) or nursing doesn't click right away, silicone nipple shields can be a huge help. With a convenient carry case that can be sterilized in the microwave, you don't have to worry about germs or bacteria either. 🙌


Silicone One-Piece Breast Pump

Dr. Brown's silicone pump

When you are feeding your baby on one breast, the other can still experience milk letdown—which means it's a golden opportunity to save some additional milk. With a silent, hands-free silicone pump, you can easily collect milk while nursing.


Breast to Bottle Pump & Store Feeding Set

After a lifetime of nursing from the breast, introducing a bottle can be a bit of a strange experience for babies. Dr. Brown's Options+™ and slow flow bottle nipples were designed with this in mind to make the introduction to bottles smooth and pleasant for parents and babies. As a set that seamlessly works together from pumping to storing milk to bottle feeding, you don't have to stress about having everything you need to keep your baby fed and happy either.


Washable Breast Pads

washable breast pads

Mamas' bodies are amazingly made to help breast milk flow when it's in demand—but occasionally also at other times. Especially as your supply is establishing or your breasts are fuller as the length between feeding sessions increase, it's helpful to use washable nursing pads to prevent breast milk from leaking through your bra.


Breast Milk Storage Bags

Dr. Brown's milk storage bags

The essential for mamas who do any pumping, breast milk storage bags allow you to easily and safely seal expressed milk in the refrigerator or freezer. Dr. Brown's™ Breast Milk Storage Bags take it even further with extra thick walls that block out scents from other food items and feature an ultra secure lock to prevent leaking.


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