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Instagram can be a double-edged sword for moms. There are so many posts of perfect families and filtered pictures, it can be hard to relate when you’re scrolling through images of perfection as you're nursing your newborn while your toddler is using you as a jungle gym, haven’t showered in 3 days, and your house looks like a war zone (clearly, I know from experience). Raising kids is NOT easy, and it doesn't have to seem to be on social media. I love a real parenting moment just as much as the next mom. That's why I've rounded up some of my favorite moms who don't shy away from sharing the difficult and hilarious aspects of motherhood.

Follow them for a good laugh and a reminder that you're not the only one with baby poop in your hair.

1. Megan Harper, @girlgonechildinnyc. Megan is an active, busy mama who appeals to the urban mom. She keeps it 100% real with a lot of funny, sometimes outrageous, things her kids do -- usually in public because why would they do them anywhere else?

2. Sophie Jaffe, @sophie.jaffe. Sophie owns multiple businesses and does a podcast with her husband; and she practices what she preaches. She’s all about connecting, mindfulness, wellness, yoga, superfoods, and living in sunny California. She is very raw and honest in all aspects including the way she raises her kids. She owns all of her emotions and encourages her kids to do the same.

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3. Nyesha and Samantha, @twomommiesandababy. Nyesha and Samantha have been married for 4 years and welcomed their first daughter last year. They wrote a children's book about two women of color and their journey to starting a family. With this first book and throughout their feed, Nyesha and Samantha continuously explore family equality, along with women of color's place in the LGBTQ community. They also gift us with a refreshingly raw peek at their everyday adventures with their little one.

4. Leticia, @letoto3. Leticia is a Miami based mom of 4. She's got serious boho vibes and focuses a lot on health and wellness. She often posts about her kids at the beach or skateboarding. Leticia is very warm and puts a lot of love into her posts and you can feel her positive energy throughout -- her captions are a big breath of fresh air.

5. Andrea Drinen, @supermommyof123. Andrea is a mom of three and letter-board enthusiast who's accessible and easy to relate to. With Andrea, there's no picture-perfect mom life -- just a lot of "WTF" parenting moments. And her posts (her letter-board posts in particular) allow you to laugh the highs and lows of motherhood. She's expecting baby number 4.

6. Deirdre Maloney, @deirdremaloney. I started following Deirdre Maloney after reading an article she wrote here on Well Rounded. She is the quintessential NYC mom, and her girls are dressed way cooler than most adults could dream of. In her posts, you can feel how much she loves her family, and I love her sense of humor. I also always tune to her Story for sweet, funny moments with her kids and to see how #momboss she is.

7. Charmaine D, @charmsie. This mom of 1 is naturally a knockout. She does YouTube videos, and her Instagram feed recounts her life with her little one, Zen, in vibrant colors. Just looking at her pictures gives you a boost of energy. She and her family travel often, and her witty captions are always on point. I also enjoy her reviews on beauty products, most of which are very affordable!

8. Ashley, @mom_uptown. Ashley is a Connecticut girl who lived in England for some years and had her daughter there before moving to the Big Apple. Ashley is a master chef and shares a lot of pictures of the foods that she makes for her family. But what I may love even more is that she keeps it real about toddler life, whether it's about potty training or the struggles that can come with living in the big city.

9. Aimi, @earthsignmama. Aimi, pronounced Eye-Me, is a San Diego-based mama of two darling little dudes. Her Instagram feed is part wellness, part beauty, part fitness and, of course, part family adventures. If you want to peek at what #momlife looks like in San Diego, she's your girl! And with her Stories, she shares her day-to-day and the mess that comes with it, and it's refreshingly retable.

10. Mary Rogevich, @marynycmom. This mama of two big kids just might be the nicest person on Instagram. She always has a kind word to say, and her support to other moms is just off the charts. I love the fact that her kids are older. It gives me a sense of what I'll be able to do once my little ones are older!

Erin McInerney is a native Brooklynite living in San Diego, CA for the past 8 years. She and her boyfriend Ryan have two sons, Bryson and Christian. She spends her time modern mommying and practicing and preaching wellness. 

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By: Justine LoMonaco


From the moment my daughter was born, I felt an innate need to care for her. The more I experienced motherhood, I realized that sometimes this was simple―after all, I was hardwired to respond to her cries and quickly came to know her better than anyone else ever could―but sometimes it came with mountains of self-doubt.

This was especially true when it came to feeding. Originally, I told myself we would breastfeed―exclusively. I had built up the idea in my mind that this was the correct way of feeding my child, and that anything else was somehow cheating. Plus, I love the connection it brought us, and so many of my favorite early memories are just my baby and me (at all hours of night), as close as two people can be as I fed her from my breast.

Over time, though, something started to shift. I realized I felt trapped by my daughter's feeding schedule. I felt isolated in the fact that she needed me―only me―and that I couldn't ask for help with this monumental task even if I truly needed it. While I was still so grateful that I was able to breastfeed without much difficulty, a growing part of me began fantasizing about the freedom and shared burden that would come if we bottle fed, even just on occasion.

I was unsure what to expect the first time we tried a bottle. I worried it would upset her stomach or cause uncomfortable gas. I worried she would reject the bottle entirely, meaning the freedom I hoped for would remain out of reach. But in just a few seconds, those worries disappeared as I watched her happily feed from the bottle.

What I really didn't expect? The guilt that came as I watched her do so. Was I robbing her of that original connection we'd had with breastfeeding? Was I setting her up for confusion if and when we did go back to nursing? Was I failing at something without even realizing it?

In discussing with my friends, I've learned this guilt is an all too common thing. But I've also learned there are so many reasons why it's time to let it go.

1) I'm letting go of guilt because...I shouldn't feel guilty about sharing the connection with my baby. It's true that now I'm no longer the only one who can feed and comfort her any time of day or night. But what that really means is that now the door is open for other people who love her (my partner, grandparents, older siblings) to take part in this incredible gift. The first time I watched my husband's eyes light up as he fed our baby, I knew that I had made the right choice.

2) I'm letting go of guilt because...the right bottle will prevent any discomfort. It took us a bit of trial and error to find the right bottle that worked for my baby, but once we did, we rarely dealt with gas or discomfort―and the convenience of being able to pack along a meal for my child meant she never had to wait to eat when she was hungry. Dr. Brown's became my partner in this process, offering a wide variety of bottles and nipples designed to mimic the flow of my own milk and reduce colic and excess spitting up. When we found the right one, it changed everything.

3) I'm letting go of guilt because...I've found my joy in motherhood again. That trapped feeling that had started to overwhelm me? It's completely gone. By removing the pressure on myself to feed my baby a certain way, I realized that it was possible to keep her nourished and healthy―while also letting myself thrive.

So now, sometimes we use the bottle. Sometimes we don't. But no matter how I keep my baby fed, I know we've found the right way―guilt free.


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If you've had a baby in a hospital you know that those first few nights can be really hard. There are so many benefits for babies sharing rooms with their mamas (as opposed to being shipped off to those old-school, glassed-in nurseries) but tired mamas have a lot of conflicting messages coming at them.

You're told to bond with your baby, but not to fall asleep with them in the bed, and to let them rest in their bassinet. But when you're recovering from something that is (at best) the most physically demanding thing a person can do or (at worst) major surgery, moving your baby back and forth from bed to bassinette all night long sure doesn't sound like fun.

That's why this photo of a co-sleeping hospital bed is going viral again, four years after it was first posted by Australian parenting site Belly Belly. The photo continues to attract attention because the bed design is enviable, but is it real? And if so, why aren't more hospitals using it?

The bed is real, and it's Dutch. The photo originated from Gelderse Vallei hospital. As GoodHouskeeping reported back in 2015, the clip-on co-sleepers were introduced as a way to help mom and baby pairs who needed extended hospital stays—anything beyond one night in the maternity ward.

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Plenty of moms stateside wish we had such beds in our maternity wards, but as but Dr. Iffath Hoskins, an OB-GYN, told Yahoo Parenting in 2015, the concept wouldn't be in line with American hospitals' safe sleeping policies.

"If the mother rolls over from exhaustion, there would be the risk of smothering the baby," she told Yahoo. "The mother's arm could go into that space in her sleep and cover the baby, or she could knock a pillow to the side and it's on the baby."

Hoskins also believes that having to get in and out of bed to get to your baby in the night is good for moms who might be otherwise reluctant to move while recovering from C-sections. If you don't move, the risk of blood clots in the legs increases. "An advantage of being forced to get up for the baby is that it forces the mother to move her legs — it's a big plus. However painful it can be, it's important for new moms to move rather than remaining in their hospital beds."

So there you have it. The viral photo is real, but don't expect those beds to show up in American maternity wards any time soon.

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A new study has some people thinking twice about kissing their bearded partners, or maybe even letting those with beards kiss the baby—but there's a lot to unpack here.

According to Swiss researchers, bearded men are carrying around more bacteria than dogs do. A lot more. But read on before you send dad off to the bathroom with a razor and ask him to pull a Jason Momoa (yes, he's recently clean-shaven. RIP Aquaman's beard).

As the BBC reports, scientists swabbed the beards of 18 men and the necks of 30 dogs. When they compared the samples, they learned beards have a higher bacterial load than dog fur.

Dudes who love their beards are already clapping back against the way the science was reported in the media though, noting that the sample size in this study was super small and, importantly, that the scientists didn't swab any beardless men.

The study wasn't even about beards, really. The point of the study, which was published in July 2018 in the journal European Radiology, was to determine if veterinarians could borrow human MRI machines to scan dogs without posing a risk to human patients.

"Our study shows that bearded men harbour significantly higher burden of microbes and more human-pathogenic strains than dogs," the authors wrote, noting that when MRI scanners are used for both dogs and humans, they're cleaned very well after veterinary use, and actually have a "lower bacterial load compared with scanners used exclusively for humans."

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Another important point to note is that most bacteria aren't actually dangerous to humans, and some can be really good for us (that's why some scientists want us to let our kids get dirty).

This little study wasn't supposed to set off a beard panic, it was just supposed to prove that dogs and people can safely share an MRI machine. There is previous research on beards and bacteria though, that suggests they're not all bad.

Another study done in 2014 and published in the Journal of Hospital Infection looked at a much larger sample of human faces (men who work in healthcare), both bearded and clean shaven, and actually found that people who shaved their faces were carrying around more Staph bacteria than those with facial hair.

"Overall, colonization is similar in male healthcare workers with and without facial hair; however, certain bacterial species were more prevalent in workers without facial hair," the researchers wrote.

A year after that, a local news station in New Mexico did its own "study" on beards, one that wasn't super scientific but did go viral and prompted a flurry of headlines insisting beards are as dirty as toilets. That claim has been debunked.

So, before you ban bearded people from kissing the baby (or yourself) consider that we all have some bacteria on our faces. Dads should certainly wash their beards well, but they're not as dirty as a toilet.

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New York's Governor Andrew Cuomo is on a mission to level the playing field for young women and provide them with the tools for success. In 2017, he implemented free two- and four-year public colleges for New Yorkers, and now Cuomo is adding a budget proposal that would provide on-site childcare at community colleges.

Under the proposal, single parents participating in the program would also have access to tutoring and help when applying to four-year schools. It's the kind of idea that could be a game changer for parents in New York state.

Currently, childcare centers are subsidized for student-parents but can still cost parents $50-$60 a week; under Cuomo's budget proposal, childcare would be free. Students who are already enrolled in similar programs acknowledge that the benefits are enormous.

"As a single parent of two children going to school full time, I wouldn't be able to come to school and afford for childcare," says Michelle Trinidad, a student at Borough of Manhattan Community College (BMCC) and parent to a 4 and 5-year-old. "Thank goodness for BMCC Early Childhood Center that is very much affordable. It gives me the opportunity to advance my career and be confident that my son is in good hands. School is hard enough on its own, having reliable child care means a lot to me and my children."

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The plan is a part of Cuomo's 2019 women's justice agenda, legislation that addresses the gender wage gap, as well as economic and social justice for all New York women. According to a 2017 report from the Institute for Women's Policy Research, 11% of undergraduates, or 2.1 million students, were single mothers as of 2012, which has doubled since 2000. Additionally, that same study found that 4 in 10 women at two-year colleges say that they are likely or very likely to drop out of school due to their dependent care obligations.

"This is an exciting initiative for New York that addresses a critical need, and if implemented, will have a far-reaching impact on various aspects of society, especially for the next generation," says Ryan Lee-James, PhD an Assistant Professor at Adelphi University. "I view this initiative as both a direct and indirect pathway to address the well-documented achievement gap between children reared in poverty and those growing up with higher income families, as it provides moms, who otherwise may not have had the opportunity, to further their education and thus, afford their children more opportunities."

Additionally, many view campus childcare as a safe haven for college students. "During my 18 years working in campus childcare, I have witnessed how the student-parents can complete their courses and stay focused by having childcare on campus," says Sori Palacio, a Head Teacher at BMCC Early Childhood Center. "Parents usually express how thankful they are for having their children traveling with them to school as well as having their children nearby while they complete their degree. They concentrate in academic work without worrying about their child's wellbeing. This service helps the entire public by preparing more people to serve the community."

Parents have so many barriers when it comes to accessing higher education, but free childcare could be a game changer that benefits multiple generations.

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Anthropologie is one of those stores you can browse around forever. From beautifully curated clothing to dreamy home items (if you don't already have this Capri Blue candle in your life, you *need* it). But sometimes the items can come with a hefty price.

This weekend only—from 4/18-4/21—, they're offering an extra 50% off sale items and 20% off furniture on sale. 🙌 (Note that all sales are final.)

Here's what we're adding to our carts:

1. Gwendolyn diaper bag, $69.96 (was $98.00)

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Beautiful and functional—what more could you ask for in a diaper bag?

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2. Tough as a mother graphic tee, $38.40 (was $48)

Tough as a mother tee

Who else is tougher than a mother?

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3. Monogram candle, $14.95 (was $24.00)

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You can never have too many candles. Once it's done, clean out the wax and use it to store smaller items around the home!

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4. Baby bella bunny,  $9.95 (was $16.00)

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This would make a gorgeous gift for a newborn, or a sweet surprise for your own little.

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5. Splendid sincerity slides, $69.96 (was $118.00)

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Say hello to your go-to summer shoe for all of the activities on your list.

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6. Voilette canister, $19.95 (was $28.00)

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We all have items that we just can't seem to find a home for (looking at you Q-tips).

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7. Karuna cleaning mud mask, $4.95 (was $8.00)

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For when you sneak away for a few minutes in the bathroom—multitask, mama.

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8. Charming critter piggy bank, $24.95 (was $38.00)

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Littles can never start saving too early—would make an adorable gift for your favorite little one.

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9. Stateside terry cloth joggers,  $69.95 (was $126.00)

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Lounge in style.

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10. Chalkboard calendar, $144.95 (was $228.00)

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The perfect item for an entryway to keep *all* of the things together.

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