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9 Must-Haves to Survive The Winter With a Newborn

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Winter may have just begun, but baby, it’s already cold outside. The cold season can be brutal for parents shlepping newborns around the city, but it’s not like you’re going to stay cooped up in your apartment until spring. The show must go on, even in freezing temps. So to help you stay warm this winter, we've rounded up our favorite cold-weather baby essentials.

Here are 9 winter must-have products to survive the winter with a newborn.

1. JJ Cole Bunting, $89.99. The number one must-have winter essential is a stroller muff! For families in the city, strollers are a main mode of transportation, but sine baby isn't doing any of the walking, it can be a cold ride without the right gear. The JJ Cole Bundleme, which fits on any stroller, keeps your little one snug as a bug and protected from the winter elements.

2. Zutano Booties, $21. Zutano booties are hands down the best booties. You may be wondering what could possibly make these different than others. Well for starters, they actually stay on baby’s feet! They feature two snaps so you can be sure to get a secure fit every time, smart! And these booties are made with the softest fleece material for keeping tiny toes toasty warm.

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3. Bugaboo Buffalo, $1,249. In a city that never sleeps, life doesn’t stop when the weather gets crazy, and neither should your stroller. You need a stroller that’s going to perform no matter the weather, and the Bugaboo Buffalo has that covered. Four large, all-terrain wheels make this stroller reliable even in the worst weather. The Buffalo is meant to handle rugged terrain and bumps all while providing your little one a smooth ride.

4. Cybex Priam with skis, starting at $1,000. When winter storms hit the city streets, you need a stroller that can truly handle the slush. We’ve all been there, struggling to push a stroller through heaps of snow that someone conveniently forgot to shovel. Leave it to Cybex to solve this problem and create the most innovative winter accessory. We’re talking about skis, yes skis, that can be used in place of the Priam’s front wheels for a smoother and more manageable stroll through the snow. The skis are $79.99.

5. b&me Booker Vest, $105. This fleece vest is the best way to keep both yourself and your little one warm while baby wearing. It completely surrounds baby, keeping her extra snug. And it’s worn under your coat to keep your body warm -- no need to buy a new oversized coat (or borrow your husband's)! Also, the Booker Vest expands as your child grows and can be used while baby is facing both inward and outward.

6. Ergo Baby Rain Cover, $39. Wet weather makes it tricky for anyone to navigate the city. Throw a baby into the equation, and it’s down right dreadful. This cover from Ergo Baby will keep your baby protected, warm and dry on those gray days even if you are still getting wet.

7. 7AM Handmuff, $39. When it's cold out and you have to push a stroller around, you can't put your hands in your pockets. And forget about gloves -- taking them on and off to tend to your little one. That's why we love 7 AM Enfant WarMMuffs. These gloves, which you can velcro on any stroller handle, provide a toasty spot for your hands and make it ultra easy to take care of your babe on the go, in freezing temps. Trust us when we say that no glove can ever keep your hands this warm!

8. Boob Design nursing turtleneck, $79. If you're a breastfeeding mama and are going around town with a newborn, you'll need easy boob access even when it's cold outside. Not to worry, with Boob Design's turtleneck, you can stay fully covered and warm while nursing your baby on the go -- a true winter fashion staple for the breastfeeding mama.

9. Comfy Baby Universal Deluxe Insulated Stroller Weather Protector, $59.99. Your stroller’s rain cover keeps baby dry, but it also keeps her warm! This universal insulated weather protector fits most strollers, including the jogging type, and shields baby from all the harsh winter elements.

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As mamas, we naturally become the magic-makers for our families. We sing the songs that make the waits seem shorter, dispense the kisses that help boo-boos hurt less, carry the seemingly bottomless bags of treasures, and find ways to turn even the most hum-drum days into something memorable.

Sometimes it's on a family vacation or when exploring a new locale, but often it's in our own backyards or living rooms. Here are 12 ways to create magical moments with kids no matter where your adventures take you.


1. Keep it simple

Mary Poppins may be practically perfect in every way, but―trust us―your most magical memories don't require perfection. Spend the morning building blanket forts or break out the cookie cutters to serve their sandwich in a fun shape and you'll quickly learn that, for kids, the most magical moments are often the simplest.

2. Get on their level

Sometimes creating a memorable moment can be as easy as getting down on the floor and playing with your children. So don't be afraid to get on your hands and knees, to swing from the monkey bars, or turn watching your favorite movie into an ultimate snuggle sesh.

3. Reimagine the ordinary

As Mary says, "the cover is not the book." Teach your child to see the world beyond initial impressions by encouraging them to imagine a whole new world as you play―a world where the laundry basket can be a pirate ship or a pile of blankets can be a castle.

4. Get a little messy

Stomp in muddy puddles. Break out the finger paint. Bake a cake and don't worry about frosting drips on the counter. The messes will wait, mama. For now, let your children―and yourself―live in these moments that will all too soon become favorite memories.

5. Throw out the plan

The best-laid plans...are rarely the most exciting. And often the most magical moments happen by accident. So let go of the plan, embrace the unexpected, and remember that your child doesn't care if the day goes according to the schedule.

6. Take it outside

There's never a wrong time of year to make magic outside. Take a stroll through a spring rainstorm, catch the first winter snowflakes on your tongue, or camp out under a meteor shower this summer. Mother Nature is a natural at creating experiences you'll both remember forever.

7. Share your childhood memories

Chances are if you found it magical as a child, then your kids will too. Introduce your favorite books and movies (pro tip: Plan a double feature with an original like Mary Poppins followed with the sequel, Mary Poppins Returns!) or book a trip to your favorite family vacation spot from the past. You could even try to recreate photos from your old childhood with your kids so you can hang on to the memory forever.

8. Just add music

Even when you're doing something as humdrum as prepping dinner or tidying up the living room, a little music has a way of upping the fun factor. Tell Alexa to cue up your favorite station for a spontaneous family dance party or use your child's favorite movie soundtrack for a quick game of "Clean and Freeze" to pick up toys at the end of the day.

9. Say "yes"

Sometimes it can feel like you're constantly telling your child "no." While it's not possible to grant every request (sorry, kiddo, still can't let you drive the car!), plan a "yes" day for a little extra magic. That means every (reasonable) request gets an affirmative response for 24 hours. Trust us―they'll never forget it.

10. Let them take the lead

A day planned by your kid―can you imagine that? Instead of trying to plan what you think will lead to the best memories, put your kid in the driver's seat by letting them make the itinerary. If you have more than one child, break up the planning so one gets to pick the activity while the other chooses your lunch menu. You just might end up with a day you never expected.

11. Ask more questions

Odds are, your child might not remember every activity you plan―but they will remember the moments you made them feel special. By focusing the conversation on your little one―their likes, dislikes, goals, or even just craziest dreams―you teach them that their perspective matters and that you are their biggest fan.

12. Turn a bad day around

Not every magical moment will start from something good. But the days where things don't go to plan can often turn out to be the greatest memories, especially when you find a way to turn even a negative experience into a positive memory. So don't get discouraged if you wake up to rain clouds on your beach day or drop the eggs on the floor before breakfast―take a cue from Mary Poppins and find a way to turn the whole day a little "turtle."

Mary Poppins Returns available now on Digital & out on Blue-ray March 19! Let the magic begin in your house with a night where everything is possible—even the impossible ✨

No parent wants to imagine their child dying. To think that your little bundle of joy would pass away before they could live a full life is unfathomable. But when a parent does lose a child, it can feel like a shock to the system, and recovering is a life-long process we need to talk about.

In 2018 Catastrophe actor Rob Delaney revealed that his 2-year-old son Henry died after a long battle with brain cancer. This week, speaking at a fundraiser for families with seriously ill children, Delaney spoke candidly about how hard the last 14 months have been, the Evening Standard reports.

"I'm a mess. My child died 14 months ago and I'm basically a bag of wet rubbish. I need a lot of help. It has been very hard. It comes in waves. I've learned to not control how the waves come. Right now I'm sad a lot," he said, explaining that he shares this openly in the hopes that "if a bereaved parent or bereaved sibling reads this, I want them to know that it's okay that they feel terrible, sad, confused and so brutally humbled."

In a previous Facebook post about Henry's death, the 42-year-old comedian shared that Henry had been diagnosed with a brain tumor shortly after his first birthday, and had undergone surgery to remove the tumor, as well as additional treatment. But the cancer returned and he passed away shortly after.

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As a way to cope with his loss, Delaney wrote that he focuses his energy on his family—his two other sons and his wife, Leah. He said in his post, “I am astonished by the love-in-action displayed by Henry's mom and his brothers. They are why I will endeavor to not go mad with grief. I don't want to miss out on their beautiful lives. I'm greedy for more experiences with them."

Delaney's message about grieving is so important, especially for other bereaved parents. In that one statement, Delaney highlights one big, undeniable truth: How a parent decides to mourn the loss of their child is a deeply personal choice.

“Mourning is the outward or public expression of grief, a means of sharing grief with people who also are grieving or who want to support you," writes oncologist Dr. Edward Creagan for the Mayo Clinic. “Religious rituals, cultural traditions and personal beliefs often shape how we mourn.

Whatever form it takes, mourning is a critical process that can help you lessen the intensity of grief and help you adapt to your loss."

For Sandy Peckinpah, a certified grief recovery specialist, mourning the loss of her 16-year-old son meant turning to a journal. In an essay for HuffPost, Peckinpah writes that after her son's death from misdiagnosed bacterial meningitis, she felt as though her pain was “visible to others, and I would forever be wearing grief as a mask and a tagline... 'I'm Sandy Peckinpah and I've lost a child.'"

"Then a friend gave me a journal and said, 'Write. Just write,'" Peckinpah continues. On the first page, she could only write one sentence: “My son died and my life will never be the same."

“The next day, I wrote a paragraph, and each day after that I found words came more easily. My journal became my safe haven to empty the well of my sorrow, pouring tears of ink onto paper. And for a little while, I could let my emotions rest," shares Peckinpah.

Whether it's pouring yourself into your family or into a journal, there's one thing for sure: Grief is not a one-way street. Grief is a twisting, never-ending highway with exits and on-ramps and merging lanes and service roads.

Over time, your feelings of grief will subside or, at least, “feel less constant as if it's moved into the background of your emotions," Creagan writes. “But long after a death," he continues, “you may also find yourself caught off guard by a moment of profound grief, for example, on the anniversary of the death, during holidays or on your loved one's birthday."

In other words: You never know when the pain of your loss will hit you—or when you're even ready to move on.

And that's okay, bereaved parents. It's okay if you don't go “mad with grief"—and it's okay if you do. It's okay if you break down in your kitchen—and if you laugh at your friend's bad dad joke. Grief is not uniform.

But just remember: You don't have to walk this journey alone.

[A version of this post was first published February 12, 2018. It has been updated.]

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Kristen Bell and Dax Shepard are like the definition of #couplegoals, but they both say this isn't a case of finding "the one", it's a case of finding someone and then working really hard at a relationship.

"We definitely had to work really hard at being a couple because we're both incredibly, painfully stubborn, and we're pretty much opposites," Shepard tells People.

Shepard didn't always believe in marriage, and early in their relationship Bell accepted that she would not be changing his mind on that. But he came to understand that marriage was important to her and did eventually propose for that reason.

"Forget the tradition or history of marriage as a concept, you knowing I was doing something that I didn't want to do because I loved you was a big sign for you," he said in an interview with Bell by his side.

Fast forward a few years and the pair are now raising two daughters, running a new baby care business, Hello Bello, and of course still working on TV shows, movies and podcasts. But more than anything, they work on connecting with each other.

"All these movies from the '80s taught us that it's love at first sight, and it is supposed to be easy and [that] all you have to do is find that person," Bell told People. "It took me a while to realize, 'Oh, that was such a lie,' because things that you work really, really, really hard for always yield the best results."

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Her comments echo her previous thoughts on her marriage and the commitment it takes to make it work.

"This isn't a special fairy tale," Bell recently told Parade.

Shepard agrees. "This is two people who worked really hard and it's attainable for you if you work really hard in your marriage too," he says.

For these two, sometimes working hard means committing to a therapy session instead of a date night, something Bell told Good Housekeeping last year.

"If something pisses you off, you've got to find the balls to bring it up immediately and say it in a way that the other person can hear," she said. "If you're still uncomfortable… you say, 'I need to have a therapy session with you.' There may be something that really hurt your feelings that you're scared to bring up. Go talk about it with a therapist who can mediate. You'll walk out of the room feeling like you're [on the same] team."

If there's one thing that's clear about Bell and Shepard, it's that they are definitely on the same team (and that team is winning).

They might not think they're #couplegoals, but we still do.

[A version of this post was originally published March 8, 2019. It has been updated.]

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The hormones surging through your body. The milk leaking through your shirt. The sleep deprivation. There are so many physiological factors that make postpartum depression (PPD) different than other types of depression, but the treatments are still the same, and unfortunately, they're slow. Traditional selective serotonin reuptake inhibitors (SSRIs) can take weeks to start working, and for new mothers who are being crushed by PPD, that might as well be a century.

But this week the FDA approved a new treatment for PPD, an intravenous treatment that can have mothers feeling better within just 24 hours.

The good news is this drug can give a mother back all the joy and meaning and hope that PPD can steal within 24 hours.

The bad news is it costs $20,000 to $35,000 per treatment and at that price will be out of reach for most mothers who need it.

It's called brexanolone, (although the manufacturer, Sage Therapeutics, plans is marketing the drug under the brand name Zulresso) and it treats PPD by treating hormonal changes, specifically those related to allopregnanolone, a metabolite of progesterone.

Allopregnanolone has been called the “anti-anxiety" hormone, and studies have linked lower levels of allopregnanolone in pregnancy to an increased risk for PPD. Typically, women's allopregnanolone levels are highest in the third trimester, but after you give birth the levels go down quick, and it's believed that crash is what causes some women to sink into depression.

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Brexanolone, which is administered intravenously, is a formulation of allopregnanolone, and trials of the drug were extremely promising.

An initial proof-of-concept study led by perinatal psychiatrist Dr. Samantha Meltzer-Brody saw four women with severe PPD given an infusion of the drug over 60 hours. They all felt better in fewer than 24 hours.

“The first patient we infused was someone who was extremely depressed, had lost 20 pounds in a short period of time postpartum because she wasn't eating at all, was very sad, didn't want to interact with the baby — didn't want to interact with anyone — and the family was extremely concerned," Meltzer-Brody told The Huffington Post. “Twenty four hours after the infusion, she came out of her room, was smiling, ate her whole lunch, was talking to everyone. It was dramatic."

Larger studies followed the first, and on Tuesday Dr. Tiffany Farchione, the acting director of the Division of Psychiatry Products in the FDA's Center for Drug Evaluation and Research, announced the FDA approved the drug as the first treatment for postpartum depression.

"Postpartum depression is a serious condition that, when severe, can be life-threatening. Women may experience thoughts about harming themselves or harming their child. Postpartum depression can also interfere with the maternal-infant bond. This approval marks the first time a drug has been specifically approved to treat postpartum depression, providing an important new treatment option," Farchione said in a press release.

As CNN reports, some mothers who have struggled with PPD, like Stephanie Hathaway, found nearly instant relief thanks to brexanolone trials.

"It was a 60-hour infusion and in the first 12 to 18 hours I felt the biggest difference," the mom of two explains. "Those intrusive thoughts that played on repeat in my head, those went away and didn't come back."

It's estimated that 400,000 babies are born to depressed mothers in America every year. This drug could be a game changer for women and their families if the cost is lowered.

Within a few months, the treatment will available through something the FDA calls the Zulresso Risk Evaluation and Mitigation Strategy (REMS) Program, which requires the drug be administered by a health care provider in a certified health care facility, but someday we could see wider use and hopefully, insurance coverage.

[Correction, March 20: An earlier version of this post stated this treatment is currently available through the Zulresso Risk Evaluation and Mitigation Strategy (REMS) Program. The treatment will not be available through that program until June 2019 at the earliest.]

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Whether you're a new parent or have multiple little ones running around, we all know parenthood is busy. To add one more thing to your list, the tax deadline—April 15—is quickly approaching. Having children changes multiple parts of your filing process, especially when it comes to new deductions and credits.

Here are what credits and deductions you may qualify for and how tax reform could impact your family's tax situation so you can save money this year.

Let's break down the deductions + credits:

Earned Income Tax Credit (EITC)

One significant credit that taxpayers sometimes miss is the Earned Income Tax Credit. According to the IRS, one out of five taxpayers who are eligible for the EITC fail to claim it. The credit is based on your earned income from working and can be worth up to $6,431 for a family with three kids so there is no reason to miss this credit if you are eligible.

Child and Dependent Care Credit

You should qualify for the Child and Dependent Care Credit if your kids are under the age of 13 (no age limit if disabled) and you regularly pay a caretaker to watch them so you can go to work. The credit can be up to 35% of dependent care costs of $3,000 ($1,050) for one child and up to 35% of dependent care costs of $6,000 ($2,100) for two or more children.

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You may even be eligible for the Child and Dependent Care Credit if you dropped your kids off at summer day camp or sports camps as long as it was so you could work—overnight camps don't count. One last thing to keep in mind when considering this credit: the caretaker of your children cannot be someone that you claim as a dependent on your return.

Child Tax Credit

The Child Tax Credit allows parents a credit up to $2,000 for each qualifying child in 2018. Some basic requirements need to be met in order to take this credit.

In order to qualify, the child needs to:

  • Be a citizen of the United States, U.S National, or U.S. Resident Alien
  • Under the age of 17
  • Filed as a dependent on your taxes
  • Receive more than half of their financial support from you
  • Have lived with you for more than half a year

What about the new tax reform law?

Passed in December 2017, the new tax laws impact the majority of taxpayers beginning with their 2018 taxes and there are a few important updates for families you should know.

  • Five of the seven tax rates were lowered beginning in 2018 so you may have already received more money in your paycheck throughout 2018.
  • The standard deduction has increased to $24,000 married filing jointly, and $12,000 for single or married filing separately so you may benefit from a bigger deduction if you were already taking the standard deduction.
  • Some deductions were either eliminated or reduced. TurboTax estimates that about 90% of taxpayers will now claim the standard deduction instead of itemizing their deductions as a result of the changes.

The tax credits above are designed to ease parents' tax bill and may even end up getting you a bigger refund. If you are still unsure about what credits you may qualify for and how best to navigate taxes as a parent, check in with your accountant or tax professional. If you're looking to file online, TurboTax blog has a built a robust Tax Reform Hub, with a wealth of helpful information on what's changed with the new tax law.

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