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What It’s Like Being Pregnant with 1.1 Million People Watching on Instagram

How Insta-star Chriselle Lim copes with being pregnant in public.

What It’s Like Being Pregnant with 1.1 Million People Watching on Instagram

She may be the most fashionable mama on Instagram. Whether she’s travelling the world or at home in L.A., digital entrepreneur Chriselle Lim, of The Chriselle Factor, is living life in front of her 1.1 million followers -- and still managing to keep it 100 percent real for her fans. On top of being a world traveller and fashion icon who works nonstop, Chriselle is mom to a toddler and now pregnant with another baby girl; and we are fangirling over her even harder!

Being in the public eye isn't always easy. But Chriselle makes it look like a walk in the park, and she faces every stage of pregnancy with such grace. We were able to steal a few moments from her while she was in Paris for Fashion Week to find out how she deals with living life in front of so many viewers -- and how those connections have helped her in some of her darkest times.

Here's what it's like for Chriselle Lim to be pregnant when everyone is watching.

How are you feeling this pregnancy?

This pregnancy was a little different than my first. I’m feeling great now, but I was nauseous and extremely tired throughout my first and second trimester! I do have to say that although this pregnancy was a bit more difficult, it seems to have flown by a lot faster.

So many mamas find pregnancy to be such a vulnerable time: gaining weight, your skin goes crazy and, like, nothing fits. How do you deal with all of this in the public eye?

I am so blessed to have the platform that I have, but the bigger the opportunity, the bigger the responsibility. I have a responsibility to my followers not only to show them my picture perfect best moments, but also the vulnerable unglamorous moments. The more you put out there, the more you get back in return. I really have no filter when it comes to sharing what I’m going through during pregnancy, and my followers appreciate that. It’s nice to know the people you are following are human too.

You've been through pregnancy in the public eye before... do you plan to do anything differently this time around?

Yes! I’m a lot more raw and real this time around. I share with my followers all the unglamorous and unfiltered moments. I recently wrote a blog post of everything I was going through and posted a bunch of unfiltered and not-so flattering photos from my camera roll. I want to normalize what women go through during pregnancy.

What are your best tips for coping with pregnancy as a public persona?

It’s ok to not feel and look your best all the time. If you want or need to check out from social media for a few days or even a few weeks to even a few months... I say go for it!! There’s no better time to do so.

Let's talk about parenting... because everyone has an opinion! How do you cope with being a mom while so many people are watching?

I do what feels best for me and my family. I’ve learned that it’s good to get advice from other moms, but at the end of the day, everyone has a different opinion on how to parent and you have to navigate through all the noise to do what’s best for you. Before I would get super hurt and sensitive to certain comments and opinions from others, but I’ve learned to tune out the negativity and only focus on the positive.

You've opened up about both miscarriages on your blog. Were those private details hard for you to share?

The first time I had my miscarriage, I wasn’t planning to share with my followers. We actually turned on the camera to film my birth announcement video, and all of a sudden my heart felt so heavy and I just started crying on camera. It was not planned and I was unsure about even uploading the video at first. But I’m so glad I did, because I was able to connect with my community on a whole different level, and there were so many women who were opening up to me about their own miscarriage stories. Some women never even came out with their own news until I shared mine. There’s beauty in being vulnerable and sharing your struggles.

Do you find strength in the community you've built?

Absolutely. My community has been following me since I was fresh out of college, and they have seen me through all my life stages. From my college days, working days, to meeting Allen, getting engaged, married, having kids, to miscarriages, and so on. They are my extended family.

And let’s talk about fashion: what's your favorite stage to dress your bump?

Actually now! I love that I’m showing so much! I’ve been wearing a lot more bodycon form-fitting dresses for that reason!

What are some of your favorite brands or pieces to rock this pregnancy?

Hatch is definitely a must for pregnancy, and I love Helmut Lang for his amazing slip dresses and stretchy one-pieces that you can grow into.

My village lives far away—but my Target baby registry helped them support me from afar

Virtual support was the next best thing to in-person hugs

They say you shouldn't make too many major life transitions at once. But when I was becoming a mama for the first time nearly five years ago, my husband and I also moved to a new town where we didn't know a soul, bought our first house and changed jobs.

To put it mildly, we didn't heed that advice. Luckily, our family and friends still made it feel like such a magical time for us by supporting our every move (literal and otherwise) from afar. They showered us with love through a virtual baby shower (expectant parents nowadays can relate!) featuring the unwrapping of gifts they were able to ship straight to me from my Target registry.

Here's one piece of advice I did take: I registered at Target so I could take advantage of the retailer's benefits for registrants, which include a welcome kit valued over $100, a universal registry function and more. Fast-forward a few years and Target has made the registration perks even better for expectant parents: As of August 2020, they've added a Year of Exclusive Deals, which gives users who also sign up for Target Circle a full year of savings after baby is born on all those new mama essentials, from formula to diapers and beyond.

Honestly, even without the significant perks of a free welcome kit with more than $100 in coupons, additional 15% off coupons to complete the registry and a full year of free returns, registering at Target wasn't a hard sell for me: Even though the experience of shopping for baby items was new, shopping with Target felt like returning home to me… and the comfort of that was such a gift.

And of course, Target's registry plays a vital role right now, as expectant parents everywhere are being forced to cancel in-person baby showers and navigate early parenthood without the help of a hands-on village. A registry like this represents a safe way for communities to come through for new parents. If you're anything like me (or any of the other mamas here at Motherly), you certainly have emotional ties and fond memories associated with Target.

What to register for at Target was also an easy talking point as I began to connect with moms in my new community. I will always remember going on a registry-building spree with my next door neighbor, who had young children of her own. As we walked the aisles of Target back in 2015, she suggested items to add… and we laid the foundation for what has since become one of my most cherished friendships.

Even as I made connections in my new hometown, I was nervous that expecting my first baby wouldn't feel as special as if I were near family and friends. But my loved ones exceeded all expectations by adding the most thoughtful notes to gifts. They hosted a beautiful virtual baby shower and even encouraged me to keep the registry going after my baby made his debut and new needs arose.

In the years since, "community" has taken on a wonderfully complex new meaning for me… and, in these times of social distancing, for the rest of the world. I've come to cherish my newfound friends in our local community alongside those long-time friends who are scattered around the county and my virtual mama friends.

Now, as my friends' families grow, I'm so grateful that I can show them the same love and support I felt during my first pregnancy. I sing the praises of Target's baby registry—especially in light of the pandemic, since I know mamas can do everything from a distance thanks to Target's website and the added benefit of getting trusted reviews and helpful registry checklists.

And now that I'm on the gift-buying side of the equation, I've found new joy in picking thoughtful gifts for my friends. (Because goodness knows Target has something for everyone!)

For my friend who is a fellow runner, I teamed up with a few others to give the jogging stroller she had on her registry.

For my friend who is a bookworm, I helped her start her baby's library with a few books that are also well-loved in our home.

For other friends, I've bundled together complete "sets" with everything they need for bathing or feeding their children.

I know from my own experience that, yes, the registry purchases are so appreciated, but the thoughtfulness and the support they represent means even more. Because although my village may have been distant, the support they showed me was the next best thing to in-person hugs.

Start your own Target Baby Registry here to experience a Year of Benefits including a Year of Exclusive Deals through Target Circle to enjoy for a full year following your baby's arrival, a year of free returns, two 15% off completion coupons and a free welcome kit ($100 value).

This article was sponsored by Target. Thank you for supporting the brands that support Motherly and mamas.

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