When we discuss mental resilience, we talk a lot about grit—that difficult-to-define quality that gives us extra sticking power and mental strength to get through the hard stuff. Mamas seem built out of grit, but how do we pass that trait on to our children? Turns out you might already be on the right track. Don’t believe us? Here are 13 things parents of mentally strong children never do.

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