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This TikTok mama's 'calming corner' is positive parenting goals 🙌

Years ago time-outs came into vogue as an alternative to spanking, but as research in child and family psychology and parenting techniques evolved, the modern generation of mamas is looking beyond punitive time-outs and more to how we can help kids find the time and place to find their calm.

That's why TikTok user, Maarte Mami is going mega-viral this week, because this mama stopped doing time outs and set up a "calming corner" for her son in her living room. It's a sensory experience, a soft rug with comfy pillows and toys he can use to center himself through relaxation and play.


"After about a year I made a choice to do away with time outs because there are such big emotions that lead up to timeouts, and it didn't seem effective to me to leave my son to sit alone with these big, scary emotions," the TikToker explains.

Instead of time out being the consequence to a behavior, the calming corner (what some parents and child psychology experts refer to as a "time-in") allows her son to regulate his own emotions and behaviors in a healthy way.

"This gives him a super comfy, safe space as an outlet to reflect, center his mind, process his thoughts, and regulate his emotions. The calming corner allows him to do this because he can meditate, do breathing exercises, or just sit and relax and calm himself via the tools that appeal to his five senses."



As Montessori teacher Christina Clemer previously explained for Motherly, "Time-in removes a child from a situation or behavior just like a time out. The difference is that you stay with your child, rather than sending them away."

Family therapist Jessie Bohnenkamp also recommends time-ins, suggesting "when a child loses their cool, take them to a quiet space (their room, outside the restaurant, the car), and then simply let them vent their emotions.

A calming corner can be that quiet space for a child to have a time-in.

"The goal is to make the space soothing, so that it fosters concentration. They also have far fewer things, both on the walls and to play with—you may find a small shelving unit with two or three shelves and just a few items on each shelf, with plenty of space between each toy," says Clemer, who adds the corner can be "somewhere for your child to rest or recover from an upsetting moment. This is often a big floor pillow in a corner for a younger child. It could be a comfy chair by a window for an older child."

For the viral TikTok mama Maarte Mami the calming corner is a rug on the floor, but it could look different in your house. Whatever works for you and your child so that they have a space to find their calm.

Want to create a calming corner of your own? Here are some of our favorites that can help.

Guided exercise and meditation cards

Boundless Blooms guided exercises and mantra cards

Ideal for solo quiet time or for learning the skills together and bringing them back to the calming corner in the future, these beautifully illustrated cards help little ones discover new ways to breathe, move, and use their senses and improve focus, build resilience and reduce anxiety.

$30

A super soft lovey

Mary Meyer putty sloth soft toy

Petting something soft and snuggly can help bring a sense of calm and relaxation to kids and adults alike. We love the buttery soft plush toys from the classic Mary Meyer which are just the right size for loving up in their calming corner or when out and about.

$15

Memory game

Modern Blocks memory game

Memory games are ideal for taking time to chill while also building focus and concentration. The wooden hand-painted set from Modern Blocks keeps it simple without overwhelming.

$35

Musical instruments

Plan Toys banjo

Music making has been used as a way to relax and unwind since the beginning of time. Outfit your corner with kid-sized instruments that provide them with tech-free ways to explore touch and sound.

$40

A snuggly blanket

Sunday Citizen paws for snuggles

A calming corner wouldn't be complete without a super snuggly blanket to unwind under. The plush kiddo-sized throws from Sunday Citizen can be washed over and over and stay as soft and perfect as ever.

$85

A woven basket

Lorena Canals zoco basket

Woven baskets make it easy for kids to clean up after themselves and keep their calming corner clutter-free.

$65

A soft rug

Lorena canals bubble rug

Define and ground the space with a kid-friendly (and washable!) rug.

$119

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By its very nature, motherhood requires some lifestyle adjustments: Instead of staying up late with friends, you get up early for snuggles with your baby. Instead of spontaneous date nights with your honey, you take afternoon family strolls with your little love. Instead of running out of the house with just your keys and phone, you only leave with a fully loaded diaper bag.

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With countless hours spent breastfeeding, pumping and bottle-feeding, the editors at Motherly know the secret to success is having dependable supplies that can help you feed your baby in a way that matches lifestyle.

Here are 9 breastfeeding and pumping products to help you no matter what the day holds.

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Manual Breast Pump with SoftShape™ Silicone Shield

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If you live a life that sometimes takes you away from electrical outlets (that's most of us!), then you'll absolutely want a manual breast pump in your arsenal. With two pumping modes to promote efficient milk expression and a comfort-fitted shield, a manual pump is simply the most convenient pump to take along and use. Although it may not get as much glory as an electric pump, we really appreciate how quick and easy this manual pump is to use—and how liberating it is not to stress about finding a power supply.

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Nipple Shields and Sterilization Case

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$9.99

Silicone One-Piece Breast Pump

Dr. Brown's silicone pump

When you are feeding your baby on one breast, the other can still experience milk letdown—which means it's a golden opportunity to save some additional milk. With a silent, hands-free silicone pump, you can easily collect milk while nursing.

$14.99

Breast to Bottle Pump & Store Feeding Set

After a lifetime of nursing from the breast, introducing a bottle can be a bit of a strange experience for babies. Dr. Brown's Options+™ and slow flow bottle nipples were designed with this in mind to make the introduction to bottles smooth and pleasant for parents and babies. As a set that seamlessly works together from pumping to storing milk to bottle feeding, you don't have to stress about having everything you need to keep your baby fed and happy either.

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Washable Breast Pads

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Breast Milk Storage Bags

Dr. Brown's milk storage bags

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Time-saving formula tips our editors swear by

Less time making bottles, more time snuggling.

As a new parent, it can feel like feeding your baby is a full-time job—with a very demanding nightshift. Add in the additional steps it takes to prepare a bottle of formula and, well… we don't blame you if you're eager to save some time when you can. After all, that means more time for snuggling your baby or practicing your own well-deserved self-care.

Here's the upside: Many, many formula-feeding mamas before you have experienced the same thing, and they've developed some excellent tricks that can help you mix up a bottle in record time. Here are the best time-saving formula tips from editors here at Motherly.

1. Use room temperature water

The top suggestion that came up time and time again was to introduce bottles with room temperature water from the beginning. That way, you can make a bottle whenever you need it without worrying about warming up water—which is a total lifesaver when you have to make a bottle on the go or in the middle of the night.

2. Buy online to save shopping time

You'll need a lot of formula throughout the first year and beyond—so finding a brand like Comforts, which offers high-quality infant formula at lower prices, will help you save a substantial amount of money. Not to mention, you can order online or find the formula on shelves during your standard shopping trip—and that'll save you so much time and effort as well.

3. Pre-measure nighttime bottles

The middle of the night is the last time you'll want to spend precious minutes mixing up a bottle. Instead, our editors suggest measuring out the correct amount of powder formula into a bottle and putting the necessary portion of water on your bedside table. That way, all you have to do is roll over and combine the water and formula in the bottle before feeding your baby. Sounds so much better than hiking all the way to the kitchen and back at 3 am, right?

4. Divide serving sizes for outings

Before leaving the house with your baby, divvy up any portions of formula and water that you may need during your outing. Then, when your baby is hungry, just combine the pre-measured water and powder serving in the bottle. Our editors confirm this is much easier than trying to portion out the right amount of water or formula while riding in the car.

5. Memorize the mental math

Soon enough, you'll be able to prepare a bottle in your sleep. But, especially in the beginning or when increasing your baby's serving, the mental math can take a bit of time. If #mombrain makes it tough to commit the measurements to memory, write up a cheat sheet for yourself or anyone else who will prepare your baby's bottle.

6. Warm up chilled formula with water

If you're the savvy kind of mom who prepares and refrigerates bottles for the day in advance, you'll probably want to bring it up to room temperature before serving. Rather than purchase a bottle warmer, our editors say the old-fashioned method works incredibly well: Just plunge the sealed bottle in a bowl of warm water for a few minutes and—voila!—it's ready to serve.



Another great tip? Shop the Comforts line on Comfortsforbaby.com to find premium baby products for a fraction of competitors' prices. Or, follow @comfortsforbaby for more information!

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