Dax Shepard shares the secret to his marriage to Kristen Bell: Hard work

“It’s often uncomfortable work, but it needs doing or we won’t stay together.”

Dax Shepard shares the secret to his marriage to Kristen Bell: Hard work

Dax Shepard and Kristen Bell have given us #couplegoals for years, but that doesn’t mean their relationships is always smiles and pure bliss. In an interview with TODAY’s One Small Thing, Shepard shares that even in the midst of their humorous videos and seemingly ideal social media feed, marriage is not always easy.

“If I had to sum it up in one word, it’s work,” he says. “Every couple has their own battles, whether that’s finding the equality balance with the parenting load in the household or trying to figure out child care. Maybe it’s handling bitterness or resentment that you don’t want to admit.”


Shepard says there are often no easy fixes, but the effort is worthwhile because of the love you have for your partner.

“Not unlike your body, which won’t just stay in shape on its own volition, you really have to be maintaining the relationship,” he says. “And it’s often uncomfortable work, but it needs doing or we won’t stay together.”

Shepard says this is worth talking about to counteract the “fairtytales and romantic comedies” we’re all familiar with. At the end of the day, he says it’s not about searching the world for this one person. Instead it’s much more about the work that is put into building the relationship.

Here’s what that work often looks like:

More communication

As much as we wish our partners could read our minds, we have to share what we really need.

Giving ourselves (and our partners) a lot more grace in our day-to-day

Yes, we’d love them to pick up their clothes off the floor. But sometimes it’s just not worth an argument

Taking time to step back when we feel frustrated to ask ourselves what is really going on

After going back and forth with Bell about the placement of a chair, Shepard recalls it helped to ask himself why he was getting so emotional about it—and answering that question helped him and Bell work through the rearrangement.

Remember what you love about them—and share it!

For Shepard, he adores Bell’s kind and generous heart, which not only made him fall in love with her, but allows him to trust her completely.

Write a sweet text message to your sweetie during the workday. Plan a date night. Or just take a few extra minutes before bed to say “thank you.” Those reminders go a long way. ❤️

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Our bags are mostly packed, diaper bag ready, and birth plan in place. Now it's essentially a waiting game. We're finishing up our online childbirth classes which I must say are quite informational and sometimes entertaining. But in between the waiting and the classes, we've had to think about how we're going to handle life after baby's birth.


I don't mean thinking and planning about the lack of sleep, feeding schedule, or just the overall changes a new baby is going to bring. I'm talking about how we're going to handle excited family members and friends who've waited just as long as we have to meet our child. That sentence sounds so bizarre, right? How we're going to handle family and friends? That sentence shouldn't even have to exist.

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Halfway through a high-risk pregnancy complicated by placenta issues, Teigen announced late Wednesday that she has suffered a pregnancy loss.

Our deepest condolences go out to Chrissy and her husband, John Legend (who has been by her side in the hospital for several days now).

In a social media post, Teigen explained she named this baby Jack.


"We are shocked and in the kind of deep pain you only hear about, the kind of pain we've never felt before. We were never able to stop the bleeding and give our baby the fluids he needed, despite bags and bags of blood transfusions. It just wasn't enough," she wrote.

She continued: "We never decide on our babies' names until the last possible moment after they're born, just before we leave the hospital. But we, for some reason, had started to call this little guy in my belly Jack. So he will always be Jack to us. Jack worked so hard to be a part of our little family, and he will be, forever."

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