This new family would like you to know they “don’t have to match!”
When we saw Sadie Sampson’s story of how her baby boy Ezra came into her life, we just had to know more about this loving new mother and her husband, Jarvis.
Their journey to parenthood was slow and then happened practically overnight. The couple went through a complicated fertility journey and had come to terms with the idea that pregnancy and parenthood would not be in their future.
But everything changes when Sadie got a random text message from a friend: “Would you guys foster/adopt a child?”
To understand their story you have to go back to the beginning of their story. After getting married in 2017, the Texas couple was determined to have a baby. When Sadie didn’t get pregnant she sought medical help, and doctors were quick to suggest her weight was the issue.
” ‘Lose weight, and you’ll get pregnant right away,’ said every doctor I saw,” Sampson wrote on Love What Matters. “I had tried to lose weight on my own for so long without success, so I started seeking out other options. In February 2019, I underwent gastric bypass surgery.”
Sampson has been chronicling her weight loss since then on her Instagram page. Jarvis joined her, getting his surgery this summer. But still, she couldn’t get pregnant.
A week after deciding she was going to put her dreams of parenthood aside, Sampson heard from a good friend of hers who had a random question for her.
“Well, a friend of mine, and her boyfriend are considering foster care or adoption for their son,” the friend said. “I told them that I thought you guys would be a great fit.”
The Sampsons said yes. They were even prepared to be only temporary foster parents for the baby, who was born prematurely. Just over a week after that phone call, a caseworker informed them that the birth mother would like them to adopt.
“We went from not having any children, to the possibility of fostering one, to, ‘You guys are parents!,’ overnight,” Sampson wrote.
Her whole family had been away on a cruise while this was happening, and returned the day before the adoption took place.
“My mom was very confused at first,” Sampson told Motherly. “But once I was able to explain everything we stood in the kitchen and jumped up and down and then ran into the living room and told everyone else.”
Because this was happening privately, they needed only a lawyer and no agency involved in the paperwork. They were able to greet baby Ezra in the NICU just an hour after he became theirs.
“The first time I saw him it was so hard for me to grasp the fact that he was mine,” Sampson told us. “It took a while for me to realize that he is my son and I am his mom.”
Ezra is the name his birth parents, who are white, had chosen for him. “When Jarvis and I looked up the meaning, which is ‘helper,’ we couldn’t think of a better fit.”
Sadie and Jarvis posed for photos proudly proclaiming their adoption story. “Not Showing Still Glowing” reads Sadie’s shirt, while Jarvis’ tee says, “Families Don’t Have to Match #Adoption.” Friends and followers on Instagram helped the new family, buying baby supplies on their registry and donating funds for their final adoption process. Now, social media is where they’re sharing all the typical milestones of new parenthood.
“We had one plan and God changed the game completely,” she wrote on Instagram. “Ezra has given us a larger purpose and we’ve learned so much from him in the short two weeks he’s been with us. Families DON’T have to match! They are built on LOVE!”