When can you sleep train a baby? There's only one hard-and-fast rule, according to experts

A baby sleep consultant breaks down how old your baby should be before starting.

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With a new baby, it can feel like all you're thinking about is sleep—usually what you're not getting. In the first few months of life, babies have their days and nights mixed up, so sleep tends to be disorganized and unpredictable. And while this is developmentally normal for infants, this is part of the reason that many new parents experience sleep deprivation on some level in the newborn stage.

Thankfully though, this is a passing phase, and you'll find that your baby's sleep will start to follow a more consistent pattern and rhythm as they graduate from this period. Some babies naturally start to take longer naps and sleep through the night, but the majority of babies require some level of sleep training, or "teaching," as I like to call it.

Sleep training is a concept that helps teach babies how to sleep independently so that you, as their parent, don't need to be a part of the equation every time they rouse from sleep during naps or throughout the night (sounds nice, right?). Despite what most people think, it's completely normal for babies—and actually all of us—to partially rouse throughout the night. However, the challenge comes in when babies are unable to put themselves back to sleep because they lack the skills to do so.

This is where sleep training comes in. If the concept is new to you, you likely have lots of questions—starting with when you can start!


When can I start sleep training with my baby?

When it comes to sleep training, I recommend waiting until your baby is between four to five months old before you start officially sleep training/teaching. Prior to four to five months of age, your baby may not developmentally be ready to start learning to self-soothe, and many parents find that when they start the process too soon, it causes a lot of stress for both the baby and the parents. Around 4 months or so, your baby's circadian rhythm has kicked in, melatonin production has started, and your baby's sleep naturally becomes more organized, which helps promote your baby's internal sleep clock and will make the sleep training process much more realistic and effective.

Of course, there isn't one magic age at which your baby will be ready for sleep training. Some parents have success at six months or even nine months.

But there are two other ways you can determine that your child is ready for some level of sleep training.

1. You're ready and have time to commit to the process. I find that many parents dive headfirst into sleep training only to realize that they aren't ready themselves to commit and stay consistent, which is crucial when sleep training. If you have any big upcoming changes, such as a move, the arrival of a new baby, increased workload, etc., it may not be the right time for your family to focus on sleep training. In order to see progress with your baby, this process requires a level of commitment and consistency. And while you don't have to be home-bound during the process, you should ensure that you have the time and energy to stay the course.

2. You have laid a healthy foundation of sleep with your baby. Many exhausted parents are eager to jump right into sleep training once their child reaches a certain age—and I get it! However, sleep training requires some prep work to ensure your child is ready to learn independent skills. Without first establishing healthy habits with your baby, sleep training is typically ineffective or may not withstand future regressions and/or developmental leaps.

For example, if your child is chronically overtired because their awake windows (the time period in which they are awake) are too long, trying to teach them how to self-soothe is going to be near impossible—and will likely involve a lot of crying.

Focusing on the key areas of healthy sleep with your infant will better prepare them and ensure the process with your baby is much smoother.

The four areas you want to focus on when laying healthy foundations with your baby are:

  • Sleep environment: You want to ensure that your child's sleep environment is sleep-promoting by keeping the room as dark as possible for all naps and night sleep, using white noise, keeping the room between 68-72 degrees Fahrenheit, and ensuring that for naps and night sleep they are consistently in their own crib or bassinet.
  • Nutrition: Whether your baby is breastfed or formula-fed, the goal is for your baby to take in full feeds (approx. 4.5 to 6.5 ounces) every three hours during the day, and one to two feeds at night if needed, and depending on age. If your baby is already on solids when you start the process, that's fine too, as long as milk still takes priority.
  • Routine: Following a nap and nightly routine with your baby is key in promoting healthy sleep as it helps them make positive associations and become familiar with what's coming next. Your routine will likely range between 15 to 20 minutes prior to their nap and 20 to 30 minutes before bedtime, and can be anywhere from three to six simple steps to prepare your baby for rest. Try adding in books, songs and plenty of snuggling.
  • Awake windows: Following age-appropriate awake windows is incredibly important when working on your baby's sleep, as they can easily become overtired when they aren't put down at the appropriate time for their age range. (It's helpful to learn the awake window recommendations by age.)

What if my baby is older—is it too late to sleep train?

You might be worried that you "missed the age cutoff" with your baby, but the truth is, it's never too late to sleep train your child and implement healthy sleep habits. You just want to keep in mind that the older your baby gets, the longer it's going to take.

Teaching a five-month-old baby how to self-soothe is a very different process than teaching your 18-month-old toddler. And while it certainly can be done, there will be other things to consider at this stage, such as mobility, behavioral factors, and prolonged habits that have been in place for a while.

How do I sleep train?

Once you are confident that it's time to start the sleep training process, you'll likely want to do some research to determine the right approach for your child.

There are many different methods to try—from gentle sleep training to cry-it-out—and plenty in between. I encourage you to focus on what you think is most realistic for your family and not to compare your baby to anyone else's child or experience.

All babies are different, and each child will require a slightly different approach, so it's important that you consider your little one's unique traits and base your sleep training approach on that.

Determining your child's sleep profile is one way you can figure out the best approach to take with your child during the sleep training process.

Seek additional support if you need it.

Sleep training may seem like a daunting process, but it doesn't have to be! As long as you wait until the right time, focus on implementing healthy habits first, follow the approach that's right for your baby and stay committed and consistent, you'll see progress—and all of you will start getting the rest you truly need.

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    The HATCH Mama collection is everything your pregnant body needs right now

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    Motherly created the flexible online birth class moms need

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    Taking a birth class is a pregnancy milestone. Whether you've been excited to take a birth class for a long time or have just recently decided that you wanted to take one, sitting down for that first lesson feels big—spoiler alert, this is really happening! But finding time for a birth class isn't as easy as it would seem.

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    14 toys that will keep your kids entertained inside *and* outside

    They transition seamlessly for indoor play.

    Keeping kids entertained is a battle for all seasons. When it's warm and sunny, the options seem endless. Get them outside and get them moving. When it's cold or rainy, it gets a little tricker.

    So with that in mind, we've rounded up some of the best toys for toddlers and kids that are not only built to last but will easily make the transition from outdoor to indoor play. Even better, many are Montessori-friendly and largely open-ended so your kids can get a ton of use out of them.

    From sunny backyard afternoons to rainy mornings stuck inside, these indoor outdoor toys are sure to keep little ones engaged and entertained.


    Secret Agent play set

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    This set has everything your little secret agent needs to solve whatever case they might encounter: an ID badge, finger scanner, walkie-talkie handset, L-shaped scale and coloring comic (a printable file is also available for online download) along with a handy belt to carry it all along. Neighborhood watch? Watch out.

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    Mini golf set

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    Fore! This mini golf set is lawn and living room ready. Set up a backyard competition or incorporate into homeschooling brain breaks that shift focus and build concentration.

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    Stepping Stones

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    Kiddos can jump, stretch, climb and balance with these non-slip stepping stones. The 20-piece set can be arranged in countless configurations to create obstacle courses, games or whatever they can dream up.

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    Wooden doll stroller

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    Sand play set

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    The ultimate back-to-school shopping list for busy moms

    Use this list to prep for the best first day ever!

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    After spending a summer reconnecting with friends and family, enjoying the outdoors and (hopefully!) making time for vacation, it's time for kids to head back to school. They're ready to learn, grow and get out of your hair again! But they'll need some help to get there. Before the exciting first day of school, you'll need to get all the gear together to make school a success.

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    Personal Planner

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    #2 Pencils

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    Black Ink Pens

    Teachers grade in red ink pens so their notes stand out as study tools. Your student should use black ink pens that don't bleed on the paper. Their work will stand out and never smudge if you use a tried-and-true brand that knows how to make a quality pen, like BIC.

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    Highlighters in Different Colors

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    Big Pink Erasers

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    New Headphones

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    Lined Notebooks

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    Three-Ring Binders

    Students collect their loose-leaf notes in three-ring binders because they snap everything shut and keep notes safe. Find back-to-school binders that match your child's personality so they can stack everything safely in their locker without bending or crushing papers.

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    Locker Decorations

    Most kids love decorating their lockers when they start middle school or junior high. Add locker decorations to your school supply list so they can personalize their storage unit and feel more at home.

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    New Lunch Box

    Spoiled food ruins the first day of school. But a dual-compartment lunch box ensures your child's food stays fresh throughout the day by designating a special section for an ice pack. Your purchase could also start a new tradition of getting a different lunch box when the school year begins, easing your kids' nerves about beginning a new grade.

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    Upgraded Backpack

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    Colorful Markers

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    Reusable Water Bottle

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    Calculator

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    Mom relieves baby's gas like a pro in viral TikTok

    "How was he not floating around like a balloon?!" asked one commenter.

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    We all know the struggles of having a gassy baby. It can be rough—for baby and for you! Since babies don't actually come out of the womb knowing how to pass their own gas without a little assistance, there are so many different techniques and tips out there to help your baby feel more comfortable when they're a little...flatulent.

    "Bicycle legs" is one common technique that can help get things moving for baby gas relief, and no one does it better than this mom on TikTok.

    Her video has more than 10 million likes, and it's not hard to see why—it's mesmerizing, informative, and, of course, downright hilarious!


    Her little baby has a wicked case of the toots and even mom cracks up by the end.

    Someone give this mom, @kaseybuscemi TikTok, a gold medal, because she just placed first in the Farting Your Baby Olympics. No joke. When I first learned about the "bicycle legs" technique (after my baby spit the gripe water right back at me and, I kid you not, laughed in my face while making direct eye contact), I felt awkward and had no idea what kind of rhythm was required to effectively fart my own baby.

    This mom? TOTAL PRO.

    The comments on this video are as funny and entertaining as you'd expect them to be, too:

    Never in my 30 years of living have I ever seen someone fart a baby. This is so cool.

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    *baby all grown up* "So what's a fun fact of yours?" "Oh 6 million people saw me fart."

    How was he not floating around like a balloon??

    Farting a baby is just as important as burping a baby!

    As far as the importance of farting a baby goes, yes, in case you're wondering, it is important. Some gassiness in babies is totally normal—just like with adults. Regular farting and burping are a sign of good gastrointestinal health, according to Healthline. In addition to bicycle legs, changing the baby's position, gently massaging the baby or bouncing the baby a little bit can also help alleviate trapped gas.

    Your baby could also be intaking a tad too much air from your nipple or the nipples of a bottle if they're extra gassy. If you're concerned about your own baby's gassiness, contact your pediatrician or healthcare provider for more information.

    If you're looking to master the bicycle legs technique, though, look no further than this video right here!

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