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There's no question that preparing for giving birth the first time can come with a lot of questions. For many, the first time they experience birth is when they are giving birth themselves (except for watching it on TV—which, PS, is almost never accurate). When it comes to giving birth for the second time, you may find that you still have a lot of questions. Sure, you've done it before but giving birth is always a big deal, and it's natural if you find yourself wondering what your second birth experience might be like.
Every birth is different. This is especially true if the "type" of birth differs—for example, if you had a Cesarean birth the first time and are planning a VBAC (vaginal birth after Cesarean)for your second birth. If you are having a second vaginal birth, it will likely be at least a little different than your first—though it's impossible to say for certain how your second birth will differ.
Here is what you might experience giving birth the second time around.
1. Your second labor might go faster.
While first labors usually last an average of 18 to 24 hours, second labors tend to clock in much shorter, with an average of about 8 hours. Certainly, this will vary but most do experience a faster birth the second time around. Once you've given birth, your muscles and ligaments will sort of relax into the process more readily, since everything has been stretched already, so the baby will move down more easily. Your cervix can also dilate(open) faster.
2. Pushing is often faster in a second birth, too.
The muscles and ligaments in your pelvis and vagina have already done the work of making room for and pushing out a baby, so the second time generally goes faster. This varies too, but first-time moms can push anywhere between 20 minutes and 3 hours, while second-time moms are usually done within an hour (often even faster). And, learning how to push can be a little awkward at first. But second-time moms already know how to do it, so they will push more effectively from the get-go.
3. You may go into labor sooner with your second birth.
Your baby's due date is at the 40-week mark of pregnancy. You've probably heard by now that your baby's due date is just an estimate based on the first day of your last period. The average first mom will give birth at 40 weeks and 5 days. Second-time moms' average delivery date is 40 weeks and 3 days—that is an entire week earlier! Because your body has already gone through labor, it's likely that it will respond to the labor hormones a little faster this time around, sending you into labor sooner. Waiting for the baby to come never gets easier though. If you're at your due date and want to try to get things going, here are some ideas. But as you know, once it starts there is no turning back, so try to enjoy these last moments as a mama of one!
4. You might feel more crampy postpartum this time around.
Many experience cramping for the first three to five days when they breast or chestfeed. When the baby latches, your body releases the hormone oxytocin, which helps you fall in love with your baby, but also makes your uterus cramp in order to stop the postpartum bleeding and to shrink back down to its pre-pregnancy size.
5. You might feel more confident—in birth and motherhood.
Even though your second birth will be different than your first, you have been through the process, and know a bit more about what to expect. You'll trust that your body can do it, and above all, you know what you get out of it all—the sweetest little reward ever. And, you have already been rocking motherhood. Many moms find that they enjoy motherhood more the second time around, because they worry less and trust themselves more. And if you don't, remember you can always reach out for help. You've got this, mama!
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