A couple of months ago an old friend (and mama of a two-year-old) sent me a message.
"Hey, at my baby shower you gave me earrings and said it will be important to take care of myself because it's easy to get lost and always think of your baby first. I didn't get it at the time, but I 100% get it now and I'm so grateful you said that. Not enough people real talk about parenthood and how hard it can be. Thanks for encouraging self-care and being real."
I admit, I teared up. I've been a mom for fifteen years. Mothering without losing yourself is the hill I will die on over and over again. To know I helped even one new mama feel comfortable making herself a priority is truly a gift.
I know not everyone feels comfortable straying from the ever-important baby registry, but the truth is, offering a baby shower gift for mom can be a powerful gesture.
Moms-to-be fill their baby registries with all the gear and products that will make their little one cozy and comfortable, which of course. But what about her?
If you want to go off-script and gift something special that's just for her, we've rounded up a collection of beautiful, useful and thoughtful gifts that any new mama will be sure to love.
Curated by moms, for moms, Fourth Phase After Birth Boxes are packed with natural products like nipple salve, flower-based elixir, and belly wrap to help new mamas heal from childbirth. Choose from vaginal or c-section boxes which are specifically curated for each type of recovery and beautifully packaged in a gift-ready box. What's more, each purchase of a Fourth Phase afterbirth care gift box helps support their charitable partners: African Health Now and their curated Maternity Go Box, which serves a mother and child living in Sub-Saharan Africa, and Passion Meets Purpose and their Every One Matters bag, which serves new moms experiencing homelessness in the United States.
Prices start at $150
She's likely amassed a pile of diaper creams and baby washes, but her skin can use a little extra pampering too. The To Mama, With Love box from Pipette is a self-care body ritual kit set that's designed with pregnant and postpartum mamas in mind. Inside she'll find body wash, body lotion and belly butter which are all made with clean, science-backed ingredients and a soothing dry brush to help her get that post-baby glow shining.
In the first weeks post-baby, she's going to need all the soothing comfort she can get. The convenient and reusable hot and cold packs from Private Packs are designed like a menstrual pad to sit right where it counts, offering sweet relief from postpartum discomforts.
If a little self-care luxury is in order, the dreamy body oil from Isa Lazo delivers. The symphony of gorgeous oils like rose damascene, primrose and grapefruit seed come together to hydrate and calm the skin while offering a soft floral scent that doesn't overpower. It's the perfect post-bath indulgence for a new mama. (Or any mama for that matter.)
Cashew butter, oats, flaxseeds, and dates come together as the perfect post-birth snack. These energy balls not only taste delicious but also aid new mothers in lactation. Good for mama and even better for baby, they're perfect for those pinned-under-a-sleeping-baby-and-need-sustenance-now moments. Each box contains a one-week supply with four balls in each sleeve.
Honestly, who doesn't love a good candle? Here for the Burn's high-end mantra candles feature all kinds of fun sayings and can even be customized with your own special quote. Choose from one of their three signature scents—a fruity mango guava, a rich Moroccan amber and my personal favorite (which sells out on the regular) a fresh bergamot, grass, tonka bean that I want every room to smell like 24/7.
Yes, she can get a gown at the hospital, but as any mom who's been there knows, they're the opposite of comfy. They're rough on sore nipples and with only ties at the back, you're more exposed than not. Instead, this gown has buttons down the back for easy access with plenty of coverage. Buttons on the shoulders are perfect for breastfeeding and skin-to-skin access and it's something she can keep using once she's settled back in at home.
If the threat of postpartum hair loss is stressing her out, you can be her personal hero with this discovery set from Vegamour. Packed with powerful plant-based actives, their vegan formulas help nourish, repair and protect her postpartum strands and can even help with growth. This 3-piece set includes serum, foam and her new BFF—dry shampoo.
What better way to honor and recognize her than with a piece of jewelry she's guaranteed to treasure? A gorgeous Mama necklace is always a slam-dunk gift. We've rounded up some favorites here , including this heirloom solid gold version from Kinn.
She deserves to feel safe, comforted, and relaxed. Help her wake up feeling energized, rejuvenated, and ready to take on any adventure. This isn't just any ordinary weighted blanket; it's filled with clear quartz, rose quartz, and amethyst to harness natural healing energy to lower anxiety, and in some cases, alleviate chronic pain.
Hospital essentials, but make them luxe and butter-soft. This dreamy box from the maternity wardrobe pros at Hatch will make her transition into motherhood feel comfy and luxurious with a pair of undies, robe and nightgown all made from organic bamboo. Top it off with cozy organic cotton socks and she'll feel wrapped in love from head to toe.
If you love her, but her this. If you love LOVE her, don't even wrap it. Just slip it in her fridge and let her know it's waiting for her. The cooling blend of herbs is a literal lifesaver when recovering from a vaginal birth.
How incredible that we live in a time where we can legit gift new moms ROBOTS to clean the house? Not only does the Roomba keep her floors clean, it also buys her more time to snuggle that adorable bundle without thinking about all the chores piling up around her.
Spare her the stress of being another mom with a bazillion photos in the cloud and zero IRL. This wireless mini printer connects via Bluetooth to any iOS or Android phone so she can instantly print her favorites. (Which will be all of them .)
When the Meal Train runs out, she's still going to need some help. Instant Pot to the rescue! The 7-in-1 pressure cooker, sterilizer, slow cooker, yogurt maker, saute pan, rice cooker, and warmer delivers more kitchen help than Door Dash (well, almost.) This particular model is one of the best-selling on Amazon with 4.5 stars and almost 159K reviews, so you don't have to take my word for it. (And she can even use it to make baby food in a few months!)
Who doesn't love a massage? After giving birth, this could be one of the most refreshing gifts for a new mama. A Spa Finder gift card allows her to choose a local place she loves at date and time that works best for her (once she's healed). Want to double down (and even sneak in some baby snuggles?) Offer to help take care of the baby during her spa time.