Alex Kornswiet

Alex is a SAHM to three amazing little boys. Her path to motherhood includes IVF, surrogacy, recurrent pregnancy loss, and more. She shares her experiences openly through @ourbeautifulsurprise and feels passionately about helping others to feel less alone. Alex has a book to help people offer support in meaningful ways.


To my village: Don’t let my infertility struggles affect our friendships

"I felt that my infertility made other people uncomfortable. So, the invites stopped. But, please, next time, invite me."

Motherly Stories

5 things I don’t do as a stay-at-home mom

I’m here to say that you don’t have to be perfect.

Women's Health

Feeling dismissed by your doctor? Medical gaslighting can be common in women’s health

And it happened to me. Here are the red flags to look out for.


Gentle parenting sets impossible standards—these gentle-ish philosophies work for me

Parents, especially mothers, put so much pressure on themselves to be perfect for their children—but that’s an impossible standard.


A brief history of the C-section

‘House of the Dragon’ highlights the fact that C-sections used to look very different from how they look today.

Motherly Stories

Breastfeeding isn’t free, but kindness is

Breastfeeding is not free, but kindness can be.

Motherly Stories

What overturning Roe v. Wade could mean for women who experience miscarriage and pregnancy loss

Roe v. Wade is about more than just abortion. It is about reproductive rights. It is about health care for women.

Mental Health

I didn’t know it was possible to have postpartum anxiety without delivering a baby—until it happened to me

On top of my anxiety, I felt an intense amount of guilt for feeling this way.

Motherly Stories

Friendly reminder: Childbirth doesn’t ‘ruin’ your body

You are beautiful. Your body is beautiful.