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The Mighty is a digital health community that connects people facing health challenges and empowers them to share their stories of living with mental illness, chronic illness, disability and rare disease.
But in case you are one of the few like me that feel better knowing as much of the truth as possible, here are some things I wish I would have expected when I stopped expecting.
“My mental illness doesn’t define me or how I take care of my child.”
I am a work in progress, just like everyone else.
Although I knew losing a baby would be emotional, I don’t think I realized just how many triggers I would encounter in the months that followed my pregnancy loss.
I have had mental health problems all my life, but I did not grasp the severity of them until after I had started a family.
First and foremost, you did not cause your child’s mental illness.
What my therapist told me blew me away: bipolar disorder, he told me, is something we can manage.
Burnout impacts nearly three-fourths of all working adults, and it definitely intersects with other aspects of our identities too.
So let me be frank: I’m not “doing it all.” I’m not operating at full capacity in every area of my life. I’m no longer trying to be a perfect mom.
There are many parents out there with children that have all kinds of different medical needs, but as their parents, we may have many things in common.
“My child’s needs won’t go away. What can I realistically do to work on my own mental health?”
It’s important to know what you want and to not sacrifice your own wants and needs for the sake of peer pressure (or the sake of giving your parents grandkids!)