Self-discipline + organization: How to teach kids these lifelong skills

2. Teach them the steps needed to finish a daunting job.

Self-discipline + organization: How to teach kids these lifelong skills

Parenting is a process of preparation and teaching our children increasing self-management skills that will enable them to function independently as adults. This ability to self-manage requires the capacity to do work—to accomplish tasks that often feel hard to complete or are unappealing.

We can begin to build this capacity when our children are very young by teaching two skillsets vital to successfully completing work: self-discipline and organization. The capability to make ourselves work is self-discipline and the ability to impose order to get work done is organization.

Early childhood is a great time to begin teaching both skills because it ensures that these skills become second nature and enables children to internalize these abilities before their lives become more demanding and complicated. Once they are juggling an ever-increasing load of work, such as personal (self-care), family (chores), social (volunteering), school (assignments), and employment (job) responsibilities, organization and self-discipline become necessary to effective self-management.


Here are tips on how to teach these lifelong skills to kids:

1. Encourage them to do an unappealing chore.

From an early age, parents can begin to have children do work that isn't necessarily exciting. One example is to ask them to take care of belongings and tidy up their personal space. If they become easily distracted, help by alternating work and breaks. This might mean that if they tire of cleaning up, you might offer a play or snack break before resuming the work. Over time, gradually increase the time spent on unappealing tasks (in this case, cleaning a room) as their ability to focus on the work at hand increases.

2. Teach them the steps needed to finish a daunting job.

Kids can easily be discouraged by the work given to them. If the mess that play has created is completely overwhelming, help them focus on one thing at a time by breaking down the work into more manageable tasks. This could be picking up the biggest toys first, then working their way to the smaller ones, teaching them to organize an order of operation.

3. Insist on keeping promises.

If kids abandon the work that was asked of them, it's important to ensure that they see it to the end—and understand why. If the room is still left in disarray, you can say, "In our family, we keep our promises and make sure we finish what we start," and then go over the remaining steps necessary to complete the task at hand. By establishing this family rule, you teach your children that it is important that we do what it takes to get the job done.

4. Ensure work gets done in a timely manner.

Learning how to order work effort within a time frame is an important self-disciplinary and organizational skill. If kids dawdle and aren't motivated to get the task done efficiently, consider offering a few tools to help them get work done in a timely manner. One idea is to use a timer.

You can say, "We need to get our work done so that we have enough time to play. I'm setting the timer so you know how much time you have to get your work done." Let them know how they are progressing, such as, "You have five minutes left to put your trucks in the toy box," or "you have two minutes left to put your Legos in their bin." In this way, you begin to teach kids an understanding of time and how to manage it.

5. Model good self-discipline and organization.

It likely goes without saying, but kids will do as we do. What we model is the most powerful instruction that we give to kids, who are closely observing our powerful example.

What is the state of our homes? Are we always running late? Is our dining room table overflowing with unfinished crafting projects from last December? If we want our kids to be self-disciplined and organized, we need to show them how it's done.

Teaching kids self-discipline and organization not only primes them for a successful future, it also helps them learn important lessons about the value of work and the rewards that come from it. They learn that, while work is not always fun to do, it can feel satisfying to see what results from it. Work can also make them feel stronger and more capable, and most importantly, work enables them to complete the tasks of living so that they can thrive, both in childhood and in adulthood.

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With Labor day weekend in the rearview and back-to-school in full swing, most parents are fresh out of boxes to check on their "Fun Concierge" hit list. It's also the point of diminishing returns on investing in summer-only toys. So with that in mind, we've rounded up some of our favorite toys that are not only built to last but will easily make the transition from outdoor to indoor play. Even better, they're Montessori-friendly and largely open-ended so your kids can get a ton of use out of them.

From sunny backyard afternoons to rainy mornings stuck inside, these toys are sure to keep little ones engaged and entertained.

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Besides offering a fantastic opportunity to hone focus, coordination, determination and taking turns, lawn games are just plain fun. Set them up close together for the littles and spread them out when Mom and Dad get in on the action. With their low profile and rope rings, they're great for indoors as well.


Balance board

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Balance boards are a fabulous way to get the wiggles out. This one comes with a rope attachment, making it suitable for even the youngest wigglers. From practicing their balance and building core strength to working on skills that translate to skateboarding and snowboarding, it's a year-round physical activity that's easy to bring inside and use between Zoom classes, too!


Detective set

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This set has everything your little detective needs to solve whatever mystery they might encounter: an eye glasses, walkie-talkie, camera, a red lens, a periscope and a bag. Neighborhood watch? Watch out.


Wooden doll stroller

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Take their charges on a stroll around the block with this classic doll stroller. With the same versatility they're used to in their own ride, this heirloom quality carriage allows their doll or stuffy to face them or face the world.


Sand play set

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Whether you're hitting the beach or the backyard sandbox, this adorable wooden sand set is ready for action. Each scoop has an embossed pattern that's perfect for sand stamping. They're also totally suitable for water play in the wild or the bathtub.


Water play set

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Filled with sand or water, this tabletop sized activity set keeps little ones busy, quiet and happy. (A mama's ideal trifecta 😉). It's big enough to satisfy their play needs but not so big it's going to flood your floors if you bring the fun inside on a rainy day.


Mini golf set

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Fore! This mini golf set is lawn and living room ready. Set up a backyard competition or incorporate into homeschooling brain breaks that shift focus and build concentration.


Vintage scooter balance bike

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Wooden rocking pegasus

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Your little will be ready to take flight on this fun pegasus. It gently rocks back and forth, but doesn't skimp on safety—its winged saddle, footrests and backrest ensure kids won't fall off whether they're rocking inside or outside.


Croquet set

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The cutest croquet set we've ever seen! With adorable animal face wooden balls and a canvas bag for easy clean up, it's also crafted to stick around awhile. Round after round, it's great for teaching kiddos math and problem-solving skills as well.


Wooden digital camera

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Wooden bulldozer toy

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Pull-along hippo

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Baby forest fox ride-on

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Motherly editors’ 7 favorite hacks for organizing their diaper bags

Make frantically fishing around for a diaper a thing of the past!

As any parent knows, the term "diaper bag" only scratches the surface. In reality, this catchall holds so much more: a change of clothes, bottles, snacks, wipes and probably about a dozen more essential items.

Which makes finding the exact item you need, when you need it (read: A diaper when you're in public with a blowout on your hands) kind of tricky.

That's why organization is the name of the game when it comes to outings with your littles. We pooled the Motherly team of editors to learn some favorite hacks for organizing diaper bags. Here are our top tips.

1. Divide and conquer with small bags

Here's a tip we heard more than a few times: Use smaller storage bags to organize your stuff. Not only is this helpful for keeping related items together, but it can also help keep things from floating around in the expanse of the larger diaper bag. These bags don't have to be anything particularly fancy: an unused toiletry bag, pencil case or even plastic baggies will work.

2. Have an emergency changing kit

When you're dealing with a diaper blowout situation, it's not the time to go searching for a pack of wipes. Instead, assemble an emergency changing kit ahead of time by bundling a change of baby clothes, a fresh diaper, plenty of wipes and hand sanitizer in a bag you can quickly grab. We're partial to pop-top wipes that don't dry out or get dirty inside the diaper bag.

3. Simplify bottle prep

Organization isn't just being able to find what you need, but also having what you need. For formula-feeding on the go, keep an extra bottle with the formula you need measured out along with water to mix it up. You never know when your outing will take longer than expected—especially with a baby in the mix!

4. Get resealable snacks

When getting out with toddlers and older kids, snacks are the key to success. Still, it isn't fun to constantly dig crumbs out of the bottom of your diaper bag. Our editors love pouches with resealable caps and snacks that come in their own sealable containers. Travel-sized snacks like freeze-dried fruit crisps or meal-ready pouches can get an unfair reputation for being more expensive, but that isn't the case with the budget-friendly Comforts line.

5. Keep a carabiner on your keychain

You'll think a lot about what your child needs for an outing, but you can't forget this must-have: your keys. Add a carabiner to your keychain so you can hook them onto a loop inside your diaper bag. Trust us when we say it's a much better option than dumping out the bag's contents on your front step to find your house key!

6. Bundle your essentials

If your diaper bag doubles as your purse (and we bet it does) you're going to want easy access to your essentials, too. Dedicate a smaller storage bag of your diaper bag to items like your phone, wallet and lip balm. Then, when you're ready to transfer your items to a real purse, you don't have to look for them individually.

7. Keep wipes in an outer compartment

Baby wipes aren't just for diaper changes: They're also great for cleaning up messy faces, wiping off smudges, touching up your makeup and more. Since you'll be reaching for them time and time again, keep a container of sensitive baby wipes in an easily accessible outer compartment of your bag.

Another great tip? Shop the Comforts line on to find premium baby products for a fraction of competitors' prices. Or, follow @comfortsforbaby for more information!

This article was sponsored by The Kroger Co. Thank you for supporting the brands that supporting Motherly and mamas.

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