Balancing work, marriage and parenthood is a tough task for just about anyone, even Ashton Kutcher and Mila Kunis. That’s why, in new comments, Kutcher says he prioritizes—and feels no shame that “work” is last on the list.

“The number one thing I work on in the entire world is my relationship with my wife and my relationship with my kids,” Kutcher said during a keynote address at the Third Annual City Summit in Hollywood last weekend. “It’s the most important factor and thing that I have in life.”

The best way he’s found to do this, Kutcher added, is by blocking out some non-negotiable time on his calendar. “One thing I do is schedule my intimate life. I schedule my time with my kids. I make those blocks, hard and fast in my calendar, and I don’t move them,” he said. “Generally speaking, my weekends are off-limits. I spend that time with my kids.”


For him, that really means off-limits—complete with the phone set to “Do Not Disturb,” which allows him to be fully present for the sweetest parenting moments.

“Watching my daughter make a decision about whether or not she’s going to share a cookie is a weird thing,” he said. “I’m like, ‘Cool, you just made a sacrifice.’ If nothing [else] comes from my kids, [let it be] understanding how to make sacrifices and be generous. To me, those are the most memorable things.”

As proud as it can make any parent to watch those lessons sink in with our kids, Kutcher said nothing can top the greatest accomplishment of his life: “I married my wife.” ?

As a couple both on-screen and in real-life, Kutcher and Kunis have been giving us #relationshipgoals for years. Now we can add parenting goals, too.

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Jalyssa says she learned to embrace agility throughout her motherhood journey. Here's more from this incredible mama of five boys.

What is the most challenging part of your day as a mom of five?

Time management! I want to meet each of the boys' individual needs—plus show up for myself—but I often feel like someone gets overlooked.

What's the best part of being a mom of five?

The little moments of love. The hugs, the kisses, the cuddles, the smiles... they all serve as little reminders that I am blessed and I'm doing okay.

Are there misconceptions about raising boys?

There are so many misconceptions about raising boys. I think the biggest one is that boys don't have many emotions and they're just so active all the time. My boys display many emotions and they also love to be sweet and cuddly a lot of the time.

What do you think would surprise people the most about being a mom of five?

How much I enjoy it. I never knew I wanted to be a mom until I was pregnant with my first. My desire only grew and the numbers did! I am surprised with every single baby as my capacity to love and nurture grows. It's incredible.

How do you create balance and make time for yourself?

Balance for me looks like intentional planning and scheduling because I never want my boys to feel like they aren't my first priority, but it is extremely difficult. What I try to do is not fit it all into one day. I have work days because motherhood is my first priority. I fit in segments of self-care after the kids' bedtime so I don't grow weary.

What's the biggest lesson you have learned from motherhood?

I have learned that sacrifice is actually beautiful. I was terrified of the selflessness motherhood would require, but I've grown so much through the sacrifice. There is nothing better than living for something bigger than myself.

When did you first feel like a mom? How has your motherhood evolved?

I first felt like a mom when I was pregnant with my first son and I intentionally chose to change my eating habits so my body could be strong and healthy for him. I didn't have to think twice—I just did what I thought would be best for him. That decision being so effortless made me realize I was made for motherhood.

My perspective has changed with each baby as I've realized motherhood doesn't have to be one-size-fits-all. With my first son, I was a by-the-book mama and it was so stressful. With each baby, I have felt more freedom and it has made motherhood so much more beautiful. I have evolved into the mother that they need, I am perfect for these boys.

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