The loneliness of being a 'special needs' parent is real

What 'special needs' parents want other parents to know.

The loneliness of being a 'special needs' parent is real
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For many people, becoming a parent opens the door to new communities. A secret language is unlocked through shared experiences and you find you have so much in common with these fellow parents that used to be strangers. Your kids are different people, but they are doing the same things. You're on the same path.

But when you're parenting a child whose brain or body works differently it can feel like the shared language of parenting is a foreign tongue. A diagnosis can feel like your membership card is being revoked or like you're being forced to walk alone.

As a mom in Australia recently put it, "the hardest part of being a special needs parent is the isolation." That mother went viral for opening up about the overwhelming loneliness she felt after her son was diagnosed with Autism Spectrum Disorder (ASD). What she felt is a common experience for parents of kids with disabilities—and we need to talk about that.


It starts early because even the term "special needs" sets parents and their kids apart from their peers. It suggests that the child's needs are so different that parents of typically developing children could not relate. But really, these parents and their kids need the same thing every family does: Support and community. Unfortunately, too many parents lose those when they need them the most.

Autism can make parents feel isolated in a room full of fellow parents

When Amanda Closs's now 10-year-old son was born he had many health issues and was eventually diagnosed with Autism, an intellectual disability, language impairment, a mild traumatic brain injury and left sixth nerve palsy. "Even though I knew in my heart he was different than other children, once diagnosed I struggled when I got the looks and muttering from others," says Closs, who is also parenting a 7-year-old with sensory processing disorder.

Closs describes feeling like she was walking down a lonely road, something mother of three Jessica Schurman can relate to. "It is probably one of the hardest parts of having a child who is beautifully different," explains Schurman, whose middle child has ASD and is considered an "emerging speaker" at age 11, requiring support in several areas of her life.

Schurman explains: "Don't feel sorry for me, she is delightfully chaotic, a beautiful mess, and loving her is a wonderful adventure—that's a quote I saw somewhere but I always felt like it summed up my girl beautifully."

When her daughter was younger Schurman wished she knew a group of parents with kids going through the same things her daughter was, but says, "I also yearned for her to be understood by all her typically developing peers, and their parents."

One of the reasons why the door to the parenting club seems to shut on parents of kids who are disabled or developing differently is because parents of typically developing kids can feel like they don't know what to say or do, so they do nothing because they are afraid of doing the wrong thing. But parents of non-typically developing kids say being welcomed would mean so much.

"Even though we may not be able to participate in the same activities, sometimes there's ways to modify the activity so that everyone can be included," says Danielle G. Her 6-year-old has Autism, childhood apraxia of speech and ADHD. "I know it might seem like a pain, but it means the world to our family when you ask us how something can be adjusted to allow us to participate a bit more easily."

Fellow ASD parent Allison just wants parents of typically developing kids to understand that "it's okay to ask questions," on the road to inclusion.

Inclusion doesn't mean ignoring disabilities + differences

Angela S. is mom to a 7-year-old diagnosed with ASD, ADHD & Sensory Processing Disorder. While he "requires support maneuvering social situations as he gets easily frustrated and has meltdowns", these disabilities are somewhat invisible.

"I'm sure that other parents mean well, but being told that he's just a 'normal kid' isn't encouraging," she explains. "It feels dismissive & like they don't believe me about the struggles kiddo and I share."

Karla H. has two sons, ages 5 and 6. Her oldest has Sensory Processing Disorder, a receptive language delay, ADHD with severe symptoms, and an intellectual disability. She says that milestones may be different for her oldest child and his typically developing peers, but that doesn't need to keep parents apart. "I want to celebrate your kid riding a two-wheel bike, but it's A-okay to also celebrate that my kid is still working up the courage to even pedal." she says.

Abbey C, a fellow parent of a child diagnosed with ASD, agrees. "Understand that our milestones are different but just as worthy of celebration," says Abbey, who recommends parents of typically developing children just ask as many questions as they need to and teach their children to do the same. Instead of assuming a kid can or can't do something, ask their parent how they can be included.

The cure for parental isolation is inclusivity

Jessica W. is a mom of two. Her son, age 5, is non-verbal, diagnosed with ASD and a global developmental delay. Her 3-year-old daughter has a speech delay and learned behaviors from her older sibling. There have been times when she hasn't left her house in months because it was too hard to take her kids anywhere, knowing that activities and attitudes would not be welcoming. She advocates for inclusivity for this reason, and because it's good not just for her kids but for all kids.

"By including us, you help set up our entire community for success," she explains. "By modeling and teaching our children inclusion, compassion and friendship we can help them to grow into well rounded individuals and create communities that look after each other."

One of the ways we can create inclusive communities is by reducing mom shaming and accepting that certain parenting techniques don't work for every kid.

"Parenting a kid with 'short and sweet' direction needs, I can sometimes sound harsh," Karla explains. "It's not my kid being bad, it's that the thinks differently than every other person in this room."

How to support parents whose child has a disability

It is totally awesome for parents dealing with disabilities or health conditions to seek out communities of other parents dealing with the same diagnosis, but that doesn't mean they should not also be welcomed and celebrated in larger parenting communities.

"This was harder, this meant being vulnerable and open with men and women who were not like me, and didn't have children with disabilities," says Jessica Schurman.

She continues: "It meant always, always celebrating her and no matter how I was feeling walking into whatever building she was in and owning and being okay with every part of her differences, even the messy hard ones. I had to be okay with who she is and acknowledge that she is always growing into the person she is supposed to be, because if I wasn't okay with it then I give everyone around her a reason to not be okay with who she is."

Parents of typically developing kids can help parents like Schurman by joining in the celebration of their child, so that they don't have to walk into every situation as the only advocate for their child and so that they have a safe person to feel their feelings with.

Fellow ASD parent Pam M. wants families of kids with disabilities to be given the opportunity "to join other families in activities that they normally do, such as, bike riding, going swimming or to the beach with another family."

But finding those connections can be hard, because as Naomi S. points out, it can be so hard for to connect with other moms in social groups when children are young (and often pre-diagnosis) and don't behave like the other children. That's why we need less mom shame in parenting circles and more acceptance that kids don't always sit quietly in story time.

Sometimes they cry, sometimes they flap, sometimes they melt down. But we can still befriend those mamas—it can be as easy as asking her how you can help or reminding her that she is doing a great job.

Autism mamas are loved + so are their babies

Mothers of kids with ASD have the same human needs all mothers do.

When asked what she wished she'd had on her loneliest days, Amanda Closs said, "Someone to tell me it's okay and I'm doing it right. Wipe my tears as I struggle thinking I'm doing it all wrong. Reassurance that we will be okay."

All parents need that. And all parents can provide it to each other, even if their kids are not developing in the exact same way.

Karla H. says on her loneliest days she wished for ,"A nap. And someone to just sit quietly and cry with me. And someone to tell my child that he is so loved, because I need other people to say it, so I can hear it."

To all the ASD mamas out there and other parents raising children with disabilities, hear us when we say your child is loved and so are you.


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    One of the greatest joys of parenting is getting to introduce your baby to the great, big world. Even from a young age, travel can open our eyes to new environments, teach resilience and adaptability and create a meaningful bond between family members.

    The problem? The logistics of traveling with a baby can be, well, challenging. For too long, one of the biggest obstacles standing between parents and their traveling plans has been the hassle of managing an infant car seat on our journey.

    The new Nuna PIPA lite rx is changing all that. The Nuna PIPA lite rx is an infant car seat made for everyday life and more enjoyable adventures. With a combination of features that make travel easier, you can skip the question of "how" to go with your baby and move onto asking "where" to go.

    From trips around the corner to trips across the country, the new Nuna PIPA lite rx car seat solves so many pain points of traveling with a baby. Here's why you'll love it...

    It is amazingly light-weight

    We're all for a good workout—just not every time we need to carry the car seat. Weighing in at just 6.9 lbs., the PIPA lite rx truly earns the title of lightweight champion. Combined with a luxe leatherette handle for comfortably carrying in your hand or the crook of your arm, this dreamy travel car seat is great at getting from Point A to Point B—whether you're in the car or not.

    It is incredibly safe and secure from day one

    With an additional GOTS™ certified infant insert and harness covers, 7-position height-adjustable no-rethread headrest, Aeroflex™ foam and side-impact protection, you can travel with the confidence that your baby is well-protected from your baby's first ride and beyond. And because any parent knows the trickiest part of travel is getting baby in and out of the car seat, the PIPA lite rx simplifies the task: The 5-point no-rethread harness can be held to the side with magnetic buckle holders while you're getting your baby in or out of the seat. (Meaning no more searching for straps under a wiggly baby!)

    Your baby will be cozy for longer excursions

    When it comes to keeping your little travel companion content, comfort is the name of the game. With foam cushions and a memory foam headrest, your little explorer will have the best seat in the car when buckled in. For a little extra privacy, pull down the breathable Dream Drape and quietly attach it to the side of the car seat with magnets. Or, enjoy some time in the sun without concerns about harsh rays with the full-coverage UPF 50+ canopy.

    Base or belt... the decision is yours

    The Nuna PIPA lite rx offers two ways to secure the seat to the car: with the (included) PIPA RELX base or by buckling in through the belt path on the infant car seat with the vehicle's seat belt, meaning one less thing to take along when you travel by taxi or airplane. Better yet, the car seat securely installs in just seconds so you can get on with the adventure.

    Stroll on with the full travel system

    Compatible with Nuna's extensive line of strollers, the Nuna PIPA lite rx lets you create a travel system that works for your lifestyle. From single strollers to rides that can grow with your family, you can click the Nuna PIPA lite rx into place and go—wherever your travels might take you.

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    10 Montessori phrases for kids who are struggling with back to school

    The first day of school can be hard for everyone, mama. Here's how to use the Montessori method to help your child adjust.

    No matter how excited your child was to pick out a new lunchbox and backpack this year, there will likely be days when they just don't want to go to school. Whether they're saying "I don't like school" when you're home playing together or having a meltdown on the way to the classroom, there are things you can say to help ease their back-to-school nerves.

    More than the exact words you use, the most important thing is your attitude, which your child is most definitely aware of. It's important to validate their feelings while conveying a calm confidence that school is the right place for them to be and that they can handle it.

    Here are some phrases that will encourage your child to go to school.


    1. "You're safe here."

    If you have a young child, they may be genuinely frightened of leaving you and going to school. Tell them that school is a safe place full of people who care about them. If you say this with calm confidence, they'll believe you. No matter what words you say, if your child senses your hesitation, your own fear of leaving them, they will not feel safe. How can they be safe if you're clearly scared of leaving them? Try to work through your own feelings about dropping them off before the actual day so you can be a calm presence and support.

    2. "I love you and I know you can do this."

    It's best to keep your goodbye short, even if your child is crying or clinging to you, and trust that you have chosen a good place for them to be. Most children recover from hard goodbyes quickly after the parent leaves.

    If your child is having a hard time saying goodbye, give one good strong hug and tell them that you love them and know they can do this. Saying something like, "It's just school, you'll be fine" belittles their feelings. Instead, acknowledge that this is hard, but that you're confident they're up to the task. This validates the anxiety they're feeling while ending on a positive note.

    After a quick reassurance, make your exit, take a deep breath and trust that they will be okay.

    3. "First you'll have circle time, then work time, and then you'll play on the playground."

    Talk your child through the daily schedule at school, including as many details as possible. Talk about what will happen when you drop them off, what kinds of work they will do, when they will eat lunch and play outside, and who will come to get them in the afternoon.

    It can help to do this many times so that they become comfortable with the new daily rhythm.

    4. "I'll pick you up after playground time."

    Give your child a frame of reference for when you will be returning.

    If your child can tell time, you can tell them you'll see them at 3:30pm. If they're younger, tell them what will happen right before you pick them up. Perhaps you'll come get them right after lunch, or maybe it's after math class.

    Giving this reference point can help reassure them you are indeed coming back and that there is a specific plan for when they will see you again. As the days pass, they'll realize that you come consistently every day when you said you would and their anxieties will ease.

    5. "What book do you think your teacher will read when you get to school this morning?"

    Find out what happens first in your child's school day and help them mentally transition to that task. In a Montessori school, the children choose their own work, so you might ask about which work your child plans to do first.

    If they're in a more traditional school, find an aspect of the school morning they enjoy and talk about that.

    Thinking about the whole school day can seem daunting, but helping your child focus on a specific thing that will happen can make it seem more manageable.

    6. "Do you think Johnny will be there today?"

    Remind your child of the friends they will see when they get to school.

    If you're not sure who your child is bonding with, ask the teacher. On the way to school, talk about the children they can expect to see and try asking what they might do together.

    If your child is new to the school, it might help to arrange a playdate with a child in their class to help them form strong relationships.

    7. "That's a hard feeling. Tell me about it."

    While school drop-off is not the time to wallow in the hard feelings of not wanting to go to school, if your child brings up concerns after school or on the weekend, take some time to listen to them.

    Children can very easily be swayed by our leading questions, so keep your questions very general and neutral so that your child can tell you what they're really feeling.

    They may reveal that they just miss you while they're gone, or may tell you that a certain person or kind of work is giving them anxiety.

    Let them know that you empathize with how they feel, but try not to react too dramatically. If you think there is an issue of real concern, talk to the teacher about it, but your reaction can certainly impact the already tentative feelings about going to school.

    8. "What can we do to help you feel better?"

    Help your child brainstorm some solutions to make them more comfortable with going to school.

    Choose a time at home when they are calm. Get out a pen and paper to show that you are serious about this.

    If they miss you, would a special note in their pocket each morning help? If another child is bothering them, what could they say or who could they ask for help? If they're too tired in the morning, could an earlier bedtime make them feel better?

    Make it a collaborative process, rather than a situation where you're rescuing them, to build their confidence.

    9. "What was the best part of your school day?"

    Choose a time when your child is not talking about school and start talking about your day. Tell them the best part of your day, then try asking about the best part of their day. Practice this every day.

    It's easy to focus on the hardest parts of an experience because they tend to stick out in our minds. Help your child recognize that, even if they don't always want to go, there are likely parts of school they really enjoy.

    10. "I can't wait to go to the park together when we get home."

    If your child is having a hard time saying goodbye, remind them of what you will do together after you pick them up from school.

    Even if this is just going home and making dinner, what your child likely craves is time together with you, so help them remember that it's coming.

    It is totally normal for children to go through phases when they don't want to go to school. If you're concerned, talk to your child's teacher and ask if they seem happy and engaged once they're in the classroom.

    To your child, be there to listen, to help when you can, and to reassure them that their feelings are natural and that they are so capable of facing the challenges of the school day, even when it seems hard.

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    15 toys that will keep your kids entertained inside *and* outside

    They transition seamlessly for indoor play.

    Keeping kids entertained is a battle for all seasons. When it's warm and sunny, the options seem endless. Get them outside and get them moving. When it's cold or rainy, it gets a little tricker.

    So with that in mind, we've rounded up some of the best toys for toddlers and kids that are not only built to last but will easily make the transition from outdoor to indoor play. Even better, many are Montessori-friendly and largely open-ended so your kids can get a ton of use out of them.

    From sunny backyard afternoons to rainy mornings stuck inside, these indoor outdoor toys are sure to keep little ones engaged and entertained.


    Stomp Racers

    As longtime fans of Stomp Rockets, we're pretty excited about their latest launch–Stomp Racers. Honestly, the thrill of sending things flying through the air never gets old. Parents and kids alike can spend hours launching these kid-powered cars which take off via a stompable pad and hose.

    $19.99

    Step2 Up and Down Rollercoaster

    Step2 Up and Down Rollercoaster

    Tiny thrill-seekers will love this kid-powered coaster which will send them (safely) sailing across the backyard or play space. The durable set comes with a high back coaster car and 10.75 feet of track, providing endless opportunities for developing gross motor skills, balance and learning to take turns. The track is made up of three separate pieces which are easy to assemble and take apart for storage (but we don't think it will be put away too often!)

    $139

    Secret Agent play set

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    This set has everything your little secret agent needs to solve whatever case they might encounter: an ID badge, finger scanner, walkie-talkie handset, L-shaped scale and coloring comic (a printable file is also available for online download) along with a handy belt to carry it all along. Neighborhood watch? Watch out.

    $40

    Stepping Stones

    Stepping-stones

    Kiddos can jump, stretch, climb and balance with these non-slip stepping stones. The 20-piece set can be arranged in countless configurations to create obstacle courses, games or whatever they can dream up.

    $99.99

    Sand play set

    B. toys Wagon & Beach Playset - Wavy-Wagon Red

    For the littlest ones, it's easy to keep it simple. Take their sand box toys and use them in the bath! This 12-piece set includes a variety of scoops, molds and sifters that can all be stored in sweet little wagon.

    $17.95

    Sensory play set

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    Filled with sand or water, this compact-sized activity set keeps little ones busy, quiet and happy. (A mama's ideal trifecta 😉). It's big enough to satisfy their play needs but not so big it's going to flood your floors if you bring the fun inside on a rainy day.

    $19.95

    Vintage scooter balance bike

    Janod retro scooter balance bike

    Pedals are so 2010. Balance bikes are the way to go for learning to ride a bike while skipping the training wheels stage altogether. This impossibly cool retro scooter-style is built to cruise the neighborhood or open indoor space as they're learning.

    $121

    Foam pogo stick

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    Designed for ages 3 and up, My First Flybar offers kiddos who are too young for a pogo stick a frustration-free way to get their jump on. The wide foam base and stretchy bungee cord "stick" is sturdy enough to withstand indoor and outdoor use and makes a super fun addition to driveway obstacle courses and backyard races. Full disclosure—it squeaks when they bounce, but don't let that be a deterrent. One clever reviewer noted that with a pair of needle-nose pliers, you can surgically remove that sucker without damaging the base.

    $16.99

    Dumptruck 

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    Whether they're digging up sand in the backyard or picking up toys inside, kids can get as creative as they want picking up and moving things around. Even better? It's made from recycled plastic milk cartons.

    $22

    Hopper ball

    Hopper ball

    Burn off all that extra energy hippity hopping across the lawn or the living room! This hopper ball is one of the top rated versions on Amazon as it's thicker and more durable than most. It also comes with a hand pump to make inflation quick and easy.

    $14.99

    Pull-along ducks

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    There's just something so fun about a classic pull-along toy and we love that they seamlessly transition between indoor and outdoor play. Crafted from solid cherry and beechwood, it's tough enough to endure outdoor spaces your toddler takes it on.

    $16.99

    Rocking chair seesaw

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    This built-to-last rocking seesaw is a fun way to get the wiggles out in the grass or in the playroom. The sturdy design can support up to 77 pounds, so even older kiddos can get in on the action.

    $79.99

    Baby forest fox ride-on

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    Toddlers will love zooming around on this fox ride-on, and it's a great transition toy into traditional balance bikes. If you take it for a driveway adventure, simply use a damp cloth to wipe down the wheels before bringing back inside.

    $79.99

    Meadow ring toss game

    Plan Toys meadow ring toss game

    Besides offering a fantastic opportunity to hone focus, coordination, determination and taking turns, lawn games are just plain fun. Set them up close together for the littles and spread them out when Mom and Dad get in on the action. With their low profile and rope rings, they're great for indoors as well.

    $24.75

    Mini golf set

    Plan Toys mini golf set

    Fore! This mini golf set is lawn and living room ready. Set up a backyard competition or incorporate into homeschooling brain breaks that shift focus and build concentration.

    $40

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    The Rock's at-home nail salon gives 'the best mani in town'

    His daughter's face in this sweet photo is everything.

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    The Rock is always open and honest about his dedication to being the best "girl dad" he can be, and his latest Instagram post is no exception. Did you know, for example, that if you want "the best mani in town," you have to go to The Rock's house? According to the sweet photo he just shared, it's true.

    "At least these calloused dinosaur hands are good for something," he writes in the caption."


    The Rock's daughter, Tia, is all smiles as her daddy gets to work on giving her "the best mani in town."

    The Rock has been a girl dad for 19 years, ever since his oldest daughter Simone was born. In the last few years, he's added daughters Jasmine, 5, and Tia, to the family he now shares with his wife, songwriter Lauren Hashian.

    In an interview with PEOPLE earlier this year, he talks about how he's learned to be the best dad he can be to his daughters.

    "Just be there," he says. "You can be wired, as a lot of fathers are, to fix things. Just having an expanded capacity to listen and be more tender and gentle really gave me that ability to solve whatever the issue is, but with them compared to for them."

    We love it when he gives us a glimpse into his life as a proud girl dad, and he's generous enough to share many of those adorable moments with us via Instagram.

    "Every man wants a son, but every man NEEDS a daughter," he said in a video he shared back in June. "Thank God for that quote because I have a house of ALL GIRLS and FULL of ESTROGEN."

    If he really wants to make his at-home salon come full circle, he'll add in some hairstyling—just saying. Either way, we love to watch him be a dad to his gorgeous girls!

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    To my friends who had kids before me: I am sorry I didn’t know

    But now that I'm a mother, I do know. And I promise to pay it forward.

    I have never felt more fiercely loved than in the days, weeks and months after my baby girl was born. I felt immense love from everyone in my life, but the love I felt from other mothers was different. It came from deep-seeded understanding and empathy. It came from heartfelt celebration and excitement.

    It came from a place that only another mother can relate to.


    I recall one very emotional day when my daughter was about a week old. I had been going through the throes of triple feeding coupled with the height of what I assume you would call the baby blues.

    My sister sat on the couch with me as I painstakingly tried to pump through severe engorgement, and as she rubbed my shoulders, encouraging me to make it through just one more feeding session, I broke down in tears and told her I was so sorry.

    She looked at me shocked. Why, exactly, was I apologizing?

    It is so simple to see now—in those moments of raw motherhood, my sister was able to love me in a way that no one else could because she had been there before.

    While feeling overwhelmed with gratitude to have her in my life, I suddenly felt so much sadness that I hadn't been able to love my sister in the same way when she was walking through early motherhood.

    And so many moments followed that one, moments that made me feel immensely lucky to be surrounded by what can only be described as the best humans on earth, followed by the realization that I wish I could have done so much more, and felt so much more, for my dear friends in their early days of motherhood.

    So, to my friends who had kids before me: I am sorry.

    To my sister who tried for months to breastfeed her son and spent countless hours with lactation consultants and feeding groups, I am sorry I didn't understand how something as simple as feeding your child could make you feel like a failure. I am sorry that I did not wrap you in the biggest hug every day and tell you that you are a great mom and that if you need to cry about it, it is okay.

    To my friend with the baby in the NICU, I am sorry I didn't realize that behind the text saying you were "okay" and "didn't need anything," that nothing would've made a bigger difference than a warm meal and hot coffee dropped off to the front desk of the hospital. I knew you were a strong warrior mom (all NICU moms are), but now I know that even warrior moms need someone listening to what they aren't saying.

    To my friends who lost their sweet babies before they arrived, I am so sorry that I never knew how much you could love someone you have never met. I am sorry that I couldn't even come close to imagining your pain and sadness until I felt my own daughter wiggle in my belly, and even then, I still couldn't. Saying I am sorry will never be enough to encompass the pain you are feeling, so I hope saying "I love you" will let you know I am here.

    To my friends with the sick children, I am sorry I never fully understood the heart-wrenching agony of seeing your child in pain until I saw my own heart beating outside my body in my beautiful daughter. You are the bravest type of mom there is, and I know there is nothing you wouldn't sacrifice for your child. You hold up the world, but when you need someone to hold you up, I am here.

    To my friend who confided in me that she was struggling with postpartum depression, I am sorry I did not know just how heavy that anxiety felt on your heart. I am sorry I didn't understand the darkness you experienced every night when you went to bed and the desperation of wondering when it would all go away.

    To my friend who sent me the Starbucks card and heartfelt message on my first day back from maternity leave, I am sorry I didn't take more time to check in with you when you came back to work. I loved looking at photos of your beautiful baby and hearing about her life, but I should've spent more time checking in on you and making sure you felt loved and appreciated, especially as you made the adjustment back to work.

    These wonderful, beautiful women have taught me so much. And while I didn't know, I do now. My understanding was almost instantaneous the moment I became a mom, and the sisterhood of motherhood has carried me through the difficult times and celebrated alongside me during the good.

    To be loved without pretense or judgment is what this sisterhood is all about, and you just don't know until you experience it for yourself.

    I am sorry I didn't know, but I promise to pay it forward each and every day.

    This this story was originally published on May 24, 2018. It has been updated.

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