essays

My husband took on the housework after the birth of our son—and it bettered our relationship

In the words of Sarah MacLean, “The best partnerships aren't dependent on a mere common goal but on a shared path of equality, desire, and no small amount of passion.”

How 4th of July traditions defined my childhood

To some, it may have seemed like just a day, just another backyard picnic. But to me, it was everything my childhood was about.

I’m the mom of a child with autism. Here are 3 things I want people to know

Like most mothers, I will fight to create opportunities for my son to thrive.

SCOTUS’s decision to allow prayer in public school isn’t religious liberty

As a (non-Christian) person of faith, this decision absolutely terrifies me.

My postpartum body made me feel less sexy—and I’m not alone

I was so proud of what my body had just done—yet I couldn’t seem to welcome my new form with grace. I was all-knowing of her strength—yet uncertain of her beauty. 

To the woman deciding what to do after a traumatic pregnancy or birth

"I know how tremendously isolating this experience is and how many judgements, questions or opinions you have faced and will face."

What a high-anxiety pregnancy taught me about supporting my son

"There is nothing you can do to stop it, but your mind over processes everything as if you were in slow motion."

Overturning Roe v. Wade is about so much more than abortion

I am weeping for all the women who have lost access to the care I received all those years ago.

Let’s agree that new moms shouldn’t be expected to send thank you notes

The real gift lies in letting a new mom know that it’s okay to shed outdated and unrealistic expectations put on moms. 

To my children: What I want you to remember about me when I’m gone

However much I would like to, I cannot stop time from slowly robbing us of these precious years. And when I look back, I want them to remind me of happiness—not hardship.

If your kids act differently with you than dad, you’re not imagining it

In your presence, your child feels an emotional security that allows them to be vulnerable, unguarded and exposed.

Considering whether to get Botox? Ask yourself these questions

Why are women's looks constantly open for judgment and in need of improvement? Where does it all end? Why can’t we just let women be, for goodness sake?

7 ways to navigate your sibling relationships as an adult

While there is no one-and-done guide on how to improve sibling relationships as adults, there is a lot of great advice out there that can help you all build stronger connections.

My secret to parenting with borderline personality disorder

If you need support right now, call the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline…

6 things I’ve learned about supporting my daughter with ADHD and SPD

"Labels should be used to help your child, not to define your child."

Forcing employees back to the office is insulting and harmful to working parents

Unfortunately, some employers are clinging to obsolete, dysfunctional and, quite frankly, toxic attitudes about what it means to be a good and productive employee. And working moms are suffering as a result.

It’s time to address the lack of maternal mental health resources for AAPI moms

"We must do more to support Asian moms."

10 unexpected changes that happened after I quit drinking

While some sobriety benefits came right away, new ones continue to emerge even three years later.

I’m finally proud to say I’m Korean—thanks to my daughter

I am finally embracing the skin that I'm in, and it is all because of her—and she doesn't even know it yet.

My husband gets praised for traveling alone with our kids—I don’t

Why the double standards for mothers and fathers? And who is calling out the costs to mothers that come with these double standards?