essays

The Texas school shooting is a harsh reminder of the cruel world we are raising our children in

And that reality is heavy. It's unsettling. In so many ways, it's unfair.

I’m a mom and the primary breadwinner—and I’m trying so hard to stop being the default parent

As the number of primary income earners rises, their shouldering of tasks and the ‘invisible load’ doesn’t lessen.

From a husband’s perspective: My love, I see you

No matter how crazy our lives get from here on out, just remember that I see you. Yes, as a mom, but also as a person. The most beautiful and wonderful person.

If news of pregnancy loss stirs up miscarriage grief, you aren’t alone

When celebrities share their stories of miscarriage, it is helpful on societal level, but painful on a personal level.

The mental load of feeding a family is heavy—and moms often carry it

Organizing the family’s food is unrelenting. Like laundry, there’s no “getting caught up” in cooking.

When it comes to developmental milestones, earlier isn’t better

I’ve learned what will matter are my kids’ lived experiences. Earlier is not better; personal growth is.

As an Asian mom, here’s how I’m teaching my kid to be proud of their identity

It’s one thing to know that you’re Korean; it’s another thing to feel Korean.

’90s summers were the best summers—here’s how to recreate the magic

When we talk about the summers of our youth, we often do so with the wistful sigh of nostalgia. We want our kids to experience that same magic. And they can.

What overturning Roe v. Wade could mean for women who experience miscarriage and pregnancy loss

Roe v. Wade is about more than just abortion. It is about reproductive rights. It is about health care for women.

Yes my body has changed—but it’s not open for your comments

This is my “mom-bod." And I am beyond proud of it. After all, I played the part. So why not look it, too?

A love letter to my postpartum body

I am learning the language of loving you. Because after all, you made me a mother.

The village is there, but you might have to look for it

I knew that if I wanted my village to show up, I needed to send out a call.

I’m the primary breadwinner—and I still shoulder most of the housework

According to this year's State of Motherhood survey, I'm not alone.

To the mom raising a child with a rare disease—I see you

You are not alone. None of this is your fault, and there are people out there who can relate to what you are going through.

It’s time to stop asking women when they’re having a(nother) baby

Let’s open the dialogue about women’s experiences with pregnancy loss, infertility and ideas around family and motherhood.

The decision to announce your pregnancy early is complex

Reading Britney Spears’ statement of “Perhaps we should have waited until we were further along…,” my thoughts are this: No. She did it the way that felt right for her. She wanted to share the news. The idea of loss didn’t stop her, and I find that courageous.

Dear husband: Thank you for showing our kids how to be a great dad

They learned from the best—you.

To my mom friends: Thank you for letting me lean on you through motherhood

And for leaning on me, too.

Sex after kids: You’ll have less, then more, then less—it’s all normal

Just because you’re having less sex now doesn’t mean it will always be like that.

Nicole Phelps on raising resilient kids—’It’s giving yourself grace’

Along with husband, Michael Phelps, and their foundation, they are helping parents everywhere with their new video series