5 wins to celebrate during your first month being a mama of 2 🙌

In so many ways, adding a second baby to our family was easier than I expected. Truly sleeping through the night was but a distant memory―what were a few extra wake-ups here and there? My firstborn had recently stopped using diapers, so it was easy to keep up with changes for just one baby again. And I was used to having a house littered with toys.

Of course, I would never say life got easier. Getting out of the house, for example, still seemed to take hours of preparation. Making sure I had snacks, a change of clothes, and whatever else we might need should disaster strike while we were out often meant carrying more than you can imagine.

Those first few weeks as a mom of two can often feel a bit like you're in survival mode. With my firstborn, I loved my ergobaby carrier for soothing tantrums and finishing up errands around the house with a fussy baby. With my second, my carrier became a crucial part of getting us out of the house while leaving my hands free to manage everything else. I love ergobaby's new lifetime warranty, which means the brand I trusted to carry my first baby will safely carry my second baby, too.

And when you're in the throes of motherhood, it's so important to remember the amazing work you're doing every day and celebrate yourself for getting it done, mama.

Here are five 'tiny' wins you' should celebrate loud and proud during the first month as a mom of two:

1. Taking a shower.

Let's be real: The first few weeks of newborn life usually come with some kind of mess. Between spit-up and hormonal night sweats, there's nothing like a shower to make you feel like a whole new person. Throw in the fact that you managed to time it between naps? (Even if it's only 5 minutes long!) You deserve major props, mama. Got your hair blow dried too? You just might be Superwoman.

2. Getting out of the house.

Leaving the house with one baby can be a challenge. Two? It's like the mama version of a decathlon. Make it easier by keeping your hands free by putting your new baby in an ergobaby carrier (they now come with a lifetime warranty, meaning your new baby will benefit from the comfy, convenient design you loved with your first!) so you can push your older child in a stroller or simply hold their hand as you walk to the park. You've got this, mama!

3. Cooking anything other than frozen pizza.

We'd never knock our favorite freezer meal, but we are majorly impressed with any new mom who throws together a more elaborate meal in that first month (yes, two ingredients count!). Pro tip: Prep the ingredients for a few sheet pan meals before baby arrives and keep them in a large zipper bag in the freezer. When it's time to cook, simply defrost, dump on a baking sheet and cook. Dinner is served!

4. Tackling that to-do list.

We strongly encourage you to take those first few weeks as easy as you can, but we also get that sometimes you just have to clean up a bit. Check off chores while still getting in snuggle time by wearing your baby in a cozy ergobaby carrier as you wipe counters or throw in a load of laundry. Then relax, please. You've more than earned it.

5. Handling baths and bedtime solo.

Managing the bedtime routine on your own always feels a bit like running a gauntlet. Doing it with two kids? They should hand out trophies. But trust us that the first time you get both babies bathed and to bed, you will definitely feel like celebrating. (After a nap. Because #momlife is tiring, folks.)

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10 must-have registry items that will change your life, mama

The baby gear heavy hitters that should be top of your list

Calling all mamas-to-be! It's a fundamental truth of (impending) motherhood that your prepping-for-baby To Do list can feel a mile long, but really the best way to feel organized is to sort out the most important item at the top of your list: your registry. Sure the items you choose to include will end up running the gamut from nice-to-haves to absolutely essential game-changers, but mamas in the know quickly learn one thing: Not all baby gear is created equal.

So while you can and should pepper your registry with adorable inclusions that aren't necessarily can't-live-withouts (go ahead, add 'em!), you should make sure you're ticking the boxes on those pieces of baby gear that can be absolute life savers once you're in full-blown mama mode. From car seats to bouncers and playmats, your play and travel gear will be some of the most obvious important items on your list, but so can unexpected things, like a super comfy baby carrier and a snooze-inducing white noise machine. So to help you sort through the must-have options, we turned to the holy grail of motherhood that is buybuy BABY and handpicked 10 of the very best essential pieces that will change your life, we promise.

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I never wanted to be a mom. It wasn't something I ever thought would happen until I fell madly in love with my husband—who knew very well he wanted children. While he was a natural at entertaining our nephews or our friends' kids, I would awkwardly try to interact with them, not really knowing what to say or do.

Our first pregnancy was a surprise, a much-wanted one but also a unicorn, "first try" kind of pregnancy. As my belly grew bigger, so did my insecurities. How do you even mom when you never saw motherhood in your future? I focused all my uncertainties on coming up with a plan for the delivery of my baby—which proved to be a terrible idea when my dreamed-of unmedicated vaginal birth turned into an emergency C-section. I couldn't even start motherhood the way I wanted, I thought. And that feeling happened again when I couldn't breastfeed and instead had to pump and bottle-feed. And once more, when all the stress from things not going my way turned into debilitating postpartum anxiety that left me not really enjoying my brand new baby.

As my baby grew, slowly so did my confidence that I could do this. When he would tumble to the ground while learning how to walk and only my hugs could calm him, I felt invincible. But on the nights he wouldn't sleep—whether because he was going through a regression, a leap, a teeth eruption or just a full moon—I would break down in tears to my husband telling him that he was a better parent than me.

Then I found out I was pregnant again, and that this time it was twins. I panicked. I really cannot do two babies at the same time. I kept repeating that to myself (and to my poor husband) at every single appointment we had because I was just terrified. He, of course, thought I could absolutely do it, and he got me through a very hard pregnancy.

When the twins were born at full term and just as big as singleton babies, I still felt inadequate, despite the monumental effort I had made to grow these healthy babies and go through a repeat C-section to make sure they were both okay. I still felt my skin crawl when they cried and thought, What if I can't calm them down? I still turned to my husband for diaper changes because I wasn't a good enough mom for twins.

My husband reminded me (and still does) that I am exactly what my babies need. That I am enough. A phrase that has now become my mantra, both in motherhood and beyond, because as my husband likes to say, I'm the queen of selling myself short on everything.

So when my babies start crying, I tell myself that I am enough to calm them down.

When my toddler has a tantrum, I remind myself that I am enough to get through to him.

When I go out with the three kids by myself and start sweating about everything that could go wrong (poop explosions times three), I remind myself that I am enough to handle it all, even with a little humor.

And then one day I found this bracelet. Initially, I thought how cheesy it'd be to wear a reminder like this on my wrist, but I bought it anyway because something about it was calling my name. I'm so glad I did because since day one I haven't stopped wearing it.

Every time I look down, there it is, shining back at me. I am enough.

I Am Enough bracelet 

SONTAKEY  I Am Enough Bracelet

May this Oath Bracelet be your reminder that you are perfect just the way you are. That you are enough for your children, you are enough for your friends & family, you are enough for everything that you do. You are enough, mama <3


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Talking to kids can come so easily. They have thoughts about everything and stories for miles. They see the world in a completely different light, and could ask enough questions to fill an afternoon.

But sometimes finding the right words for talking to kids can be really, really challenging. When choosing how to respond to the marker on the wall, or the seemingly unending why-can't-I battle, or in simply keeping healthy communication open with kids who don't want to talk, the words don't seem to come so easily.

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