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Mama, it doesn’t get better than this

These are the days, decades from now, that I’ll remember. These are the days that I no longer want to wish away. 

Mama, it doesn’t get better than this

When motherhood was hard, I would mentally escape. For years, when tantrums overtook my afternoon, I’d count the hours until bedtime.


I’d spend mornings plotting what I’d do if I could just have my freedom back for a few days.

I spent weeks imagining that life would get lighter, less burdensome—someday, somehow.

I spent weekends wishing that my husband wouldn’t have to go to work on Monday, that I wouldn’t be left alone to do the hard work of taking care of all the things, all the time.

I ached for a better time, a future time, because it all felt like too much.

And then one day, I stopped.

I was holding my third baby in my arms and scrolling on my phone while nursing. We spent many hours that way. She trying to feed and me pretending to be anywhere but there.

Finally, finally, finally—after years of wishing my house could be cleaner, my kids could sleep later, my workload could get easier, my bank account could be heftier, or that my belly could be flatter—these true words etched themselves in my brain as I breastfed my third baby: “THIS. This here right now. It doesn’t get better than this.”

Suddenly I knew that there was nothing on my phone that was more beautiful, more entertaining, or more miraculous than the little person laying on my lap.

So I stopped all the future-dreaming and decided to stop wishing my babies’ childhoods away.

Because I have three beautiful babies. And though the struggle is real, every single day, it’s also such a beautiful gift—once I chose to see it that way. (It’s all about perspective, isn’t it?)

When I’m awoken at 3 a.m. by the cries of “MAMA!” because my little girl had a bad dream and the only thing that can make her feel better is being embraced in my arms, it can be exhausting. And when that little miss pops back up at 6 a.m. ready to go for the day, I’m aching to stay in bed.

But getting to comfort and guide her is the privilege of motherhood and I feel so grateful every single day that she’s mine. Even at 3 a.m., it doesn’t get better than this.

When my son is throwing a fit because I put his socks on “wrong,” or freaks out after I put away his empty breakfast bowl, or refuses to sit in the right car seat, I’ll be honest, it can be really annoying.

But now I also know that these moments of struggle are my chance to help him learn emotional regulation, to experience the security of boundaries, and to know he is loved no matter what. It doesn’t get better than this.

When we are paying to repair the fence that broke in the snowstorm, and fix the drafty door frame, and replace the lightbulbs that have gone out again, it can feel like adulthood is nothing but a bunch of bills to pay.

But now I also know that being able to create a safe and secure home for my children is a gift. For these solid walls, warm beds, and bright lights, I am grateful. It doesn’t get better than this.

Feeding my kids can feel like a never-ending chore. It feels like as soon as I finished a breastfeeding session for my baby, a new one needs to begin. The moment I finished cleaning up breakfast, it was time to make lunch. And don’t get me started on the picky eating.

But having enough food to eat is a privilege and I have learned to not see mealtime as a battle, but instead as a classroom for modeling, exploration and empathy. Feeding my kids is no longer a chore. It doesn’t get better than this.

The pick up/drop off shuttle. I hear it just goes on for. ever. (Like, decades.) And every day, by the time I’ve rearranged my kids’ car seats, buckled them in, and convinced everyone to please stop crying, it feels like we’re always running late—wherever we’re heading.

But when we arrive somewhere safely, or when another school day ends with my babies buckled back in with me, heading back home, my heart is full. It doesn’t get better than this.

Not a single day is perfect. It will never be. So I’m soaking it up. I’m breathing them in. I’m embracing the heartache and the struggle (and the snuggle). These are the days I’ll hold on to. These are the days, decades from now, that I’ll remember. These are the days I no longer want to wish away. These are the days, mama.

It doesn’t get better than this.

This 'mama' necklace is a bestseller for a powerful reason

There's a lot going on in the world right now, but one thing that's certain? You're still mama.

There's a lot going on in the world right now, but one thing that's certain? You're still mama. No matter what is going on at work, what decision you make about heading back to school, or how you're caring for your family right now, we know you're the best mama for your family.

So in case you need a little reminder of just how incredible you are, we love this sweet necklace from Tiny Tags. And other mamas do, too, because it's been one of our top sellers for weeks.

Whether you're coveting it for yourself or want to gift it to your favorite mama, it's one of those gifts that'll keep on giving years later. It's dainty enough to easily layer with just about anything you have in your jewelry collection, but is just as beautiful as a standalone piece to wear daily. And in these tough seasons, it's honestly a gentle, much-needed reminder that you were made for this. You can do hard things. You are doing the best you can even when it feels like you can't make one more decision.

Tiny Tags script 'mama' necklace

tiny tags mama necklace

The charm is 1/2" long and the chain is 16", falling just above most mama's collarbones. All Tiny Tags personalized jewelry is laser engraved by highly skilled artisans to make the most elegant pieces.

$105

And, don't worry, it's totally low-maintenance. Simply polish with a polishing cloth every now and then for extra shine. Now to decide: gold or silver?

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5 brilliant products that encourage toddler independence

Help your little one help themselves.

One of our main goals as mothers is to encourage our children to learn, grow and play. They start out as our tiny, adorable babies who need us for everything, and somehow, before you know it, they grow into toddlers with ideas and opinions and desires of their own.

You may be hearing a lot more of "I do it!" or maybe they're pushing your hand away as a signal to let you know, I don't need your help, Mama. That's okay. They're just telling you they're ready for more independence. They want to be in charge of their bodies, and any little bit of control their lives and abilities allow.

So, instead of challenging your toddler's desire for autonomy, we found five of our favorite products to help encourage independence—and eliminate frustration in the process.

EKOBO Bamboo 4-piece kid set

EKOBO bamboo 4-piece kid set

This colorful set includes a plate, cup, bowl and spoon and is just right for your child's meal experience. Keep them in an easy-to-reach cabinet so they'll feel encouraged (and excited!) to get their own place setting each time they eat.

$25

Puj PhillUp hangable kids cups

Puj PhillUp hangable kids cups

Before you know it, your little one will be asking (okay, maybe demanding) to fill their own water cups. This amazing 4-pack of cups attaches directly to the fridge (or any glass, metal, tile or fiberglass surface) making it easier for your child to grab a cup themselves. Just be sure a water pitcher or dispenser is nearby, and—boom!—one task off your plate.

$29

Wise Elk puzzle tower blocks

Wise Elk puzzle tower blocks

These beautiful blocks, made from sustainably-sourced wood and water-based, non-toxic, lead-free paint, will keep your little one focused on their creation while they're also busy working on their fine-motor skills. The puzzle design will encourage patience as your kiddo creates their own building, fitting one block in after the next.

$18

Lorena Canals basket

Lorena Canals Basket

This *gorgeous* braided cotton basket is the perfect, accessible home for their blocks (and whatever else you want to hide away!) so your kiddo can grab them (and clean them up) whenever their heart desires.

$29

BABYBJÖRN step stool

BABYBJ\u00d6RN Step Stool

Your kiddo might be ready to take on the world, but they might need an extra boost to do so—cue, a step stool! An easy-to-move lightweight stool is the must-have confidence-boosting tool you need in your home so your growing tot can reach, well... the world.

$20

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Two weeks. I cannot believe that it has been two weeks since my second son was brought into this world. Two weeks since my husband and I welcomed baby Simon, the final piece of our little family.

But, here is the whopper: It has been two weeks since I have been the mom of a toddler and a newborn. I am now responsible for taking care of two tiny humans.

It absolutely blows my mind how much my life has changed in the last two weeks. It's definitely not all rainbows and unicorns around here, but things are going pretty well. This is me being cautiously optimistic.

What I have done is learned a lot about myself, my kids and my new life in the last two weeks.

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