There’s a very important upside to your baby’s fussy moments

“The fussy moments were where my strength was born. They showed me how I was born for this mama challenge.”

There’s a very important upside to your
baby’s fussy moments

The first few weeks of motherhood will probably always blend in my brain, a smudged smear of sleeplessness, sharp learning curves, and intense love and happiness, yes, but also so many feelings of just being overwhelmed.

What I didn’t know was that these moments were paving the way for me to find my own mama strength.

The ups and downs of new mom life can feel so overwhelming in the moment (not to mention the effect of those flooding hormones have on your emotions!), and for me, one of the hardest things to manage was my daughter’s fussiness.

Those moments when I felt like I had tried everything—nursing myself dry, rocking and bouncing until it felt like my arms would fall off, singing my throat raw—and still she cried. In those moments, I would stare at her tiny, distressed face and feel wholly unequipped to be her mama.

But as low as the moments of helplessness are, the wins of new mama life are restoring. When I would finally find the solution, or even just wait out some developmental storm, I would feel the confidence come rushing back.

The fussy moments were where my strength was born. The fussy moments showed me how I was born for this mama challenge.

It wasn’t always easy to remember in the moment, though. So if I could go back, this is what I would tell my new mama self:

When you feel like you can’t take five more minutes of fussiness…remember asking for help is not a sign of weakness. I had a village of love and support around me, and I felt like it was cheating somehow to take advantage of it. So. Wrong. Call a friend, hand the baby to your partner, ask your mom to sit for even half an hour so you can nap or take a walk to recharge. You are still learning how to be a mama, but you will get it.

When your usual solutions for fussiness stop working…remember that motherhood is a constant learning experience and be open to new information that can help make life with this new little one easier. Did you know that babies who get too warm tend to be fussier and spend less time in one place? That’s what makes solutions like the DreamComfort Bouncer and Swing/Rocker combo from Ingenuity so helpful— not only do they keep your little one soothed, they also feature mesh panels that create a cooler environment for babies. (Genius.) When my baby is calm, I can’t help but feel calmer too.

When you feel like you just can’t figure it out…remember that sometimes babies just need to work out an emotion on their own. A mom friend once told me that all babies need to go from zero to ten at least once a day, and it was immensely helpful to remind myself during a fussy breakdown, “This is her ten for the day. It has to happen, and then it will be over.”

When you feel like you’ve hit the mama wall…remember that sometime in the not too distant future, you will look back on this moment and see how strong you’ve become since. There is beauty in the fussy moments, and sometimes that beauty is the strength you gain.

The fussy moments will probably never be our favorite to remember, but they are the ones that show us what we’re made of. You’ve got this, mama.

These are only the vitamins I give my children and here's why

It's hard to say who loves these more—my kids or me.

When I became a mama five years ago, I didn't put too much thought into whether my son was getting the right vitamins and minerals. From breastfeeding to steaming and pureeing his first bites of solid food, I was confident I was giving him everything to support his growth and development.

But then the toddler years—and the suddenly picky palate that accompanied them—came along. Between that challenge and two additional children in the mix… well, I knew my oldest son's eating plan was falling short in some vitamin and mineral categories.

I also knew how quickly he was growing, so I wanted to make sure he was getting the nutrients he needed (even on those days when he said "no, thank you" to any veggie I offered).

So when I discovered the new line of children's supplements from Nature's Way®, it felt like a serious weight off my chest. Thanks to supplements that support my children's musculoskeletal growth, their brain function, their immune systems, their eyes and more, I'm taken back to that simpler time when I was so confident my kids' vitamin needs were met.*

It wasn't just the variety of supplements offered by Nature's Way that won me over: As a vegetarian mama, I'm the picky one in the family when it comes to scanning labels and making sure they meet our standards. The trick is that most gummy vitamins are made with gelatin, which is not vegetarian friendly.

But just like the other offerings from Nature's Way that I've already come to know and love, the children's supplement line is held to a high standard. That means there's no high-fructose corn syrup, gelatin or common allergens to be found in the supplements. The best part? My two oldest kids ensure we never miss their daily vitamins—they are so in love with the gummy flavors, which include tropical fruit punch, lemonade and wild berry.

Nature's Way Kids Mulitvitamin

Meanwhile, my pharmacist husband has different criteria when evaluating supplements, especially when it comes to those for our kids. He appreciates the variety of options from Nature's Way, which gives us the ability to rotate the vitamins based on our kids' daily needs. By keeping various children's supplements from Nature's Way on hand, I can customize a regimen to suit my kids' individual requirements.

Of course, high-quality products often come at a higher price point. But (to my immense gratitude!) that isn't the case with Nature's Way, which retails for a competitive value when compared to the other items on the shelf.

Like all mamas, my chief concern is supporting my children's health in any way I can. While I see evidence of their growth every time I pack away clothes they've outgrown, I know there is much more growth that doesn't meet the eye. That's why, for my oldest son, I like stacking the Brain Builder gummy with the Growing Bones & Muscles gummy and the Happy & Healthy Multi. My 3-year-old also enjoys getting her own mix to include the Healthy Eyes gummy. And both of my older kids are quick to request the Tummy Soothe tablet when something isn't sitting right in their stomachs.* And I'll admit it: I've tried it myself and the berry blast flavor really is tasty!

Although my current phase of motherhood may not be as "simple" as it once was, there is so much to appreciate about it—like watching my kids play and sing and create with their incredible imaginations. Along the way, I've eased up on some of my need for control, but it does help to have this range of supplements in my motherhood tool kit. So while I may not be able to convince my son to try kale, having the Nature's Way supplements on hand means I do know he's right on track.*These statements have not been evaluated by the Food & Drug Administration. This product is not intended to diagnose, treat, cure or prevent any disease.

This article was sponsored by Nature's Way. Thank you for supporting the brands that support Motherly and mamas.

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