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I started simplifying my life when my daughter was 12. Our family lived in a big house with a yard, garage, attic and storage shed in the backyard. All the space was filled with stuff. Our home and closets weren't the only full spaces. Our calendars and brains were full, too—overloaded actually. We didn't have enough time for each other. Even when we were together, we seemed to be preoccupied with other "stuff."

After I was diagnosed with Multiple Sclerosis in 2006, I realized I had created a very full, busy, stressful life and decided to make a change. I wanted to feel well and have time for what mattered most to me.

I slowly began to make space and time by getting rid of things that I didn't use or need. As a working wife and mom, I knew the big changes I wanted to make were going to take some time. Slow and steady was my approach as I jumped gently into minimalism.

Some minimalists have successfully turned their lives around and decided to live out of a backpack in the blink of an eye, but most of us (especially moms) need a more gentle transition. If you have a spouse, children, pets, or all three (like I did), be patient. Respect the fact that it took you many years to get where you are today, and it may take time to get somewhere new.

Here are realistic ways you can incorporate minimalism into your life as a mom.

1. Prioritize your mental and physical health.

Make your health and wellness the top priority. Eat simply, prioritize sleep and move every day. It will feel selfish at first, but know that you can better serve the people around you when you start with you.

2. Own less for more space, love and connection.

Our homes are not containers for stuff, but rather a place for love and connection. By removing the excess stuff from our homes we make more physical space and create less distraction to allow us to really live the way we want to live. Start removing items that you don't really need and focus on holding onto things that bring your family joy.

3. Dress with less for more time, money and clarity.

If you've ever looked in your closet and thought "I have nothing to wear" while staring at hundreds of choices, I can promise you relief from dressing with less. Thanks to minimalist fashion challenge Project 333, I spend less time and money shopping and experience less decision fatigue choosing from a small capsule collection. You can reduce a significant amount of stress in your life simply by reducing the number of items in your closet. If you haven't worn it in the last year, let it go.

4. Owe less for more freedom.

Dump your debt. Having no monthly payments will free you up to do things that matter. It may lead to making different decisions about work or provide more time to spend with your family. Consult with a financial advisor to help if you're unsure where to begin.

5. Do less for more productivity and creativity.

I accomplish more and do better work by doing less of it. You know how it feels to try to get something done when you are burnt out from trying to do it all. Your work suffers. Your health suffers. Your people suffer. There will always be more to do. Choose less and do it well. Only add what's most important to your calendar.

6. Worry less for more peace and sleep.

Worry keeps us up at night and weighs us down. Worry encourages fear and makes us tired, cranky and scared. Worry is a trap. Simplicity helps you stop that cycle.. I used to worry about making ends meet, then I started working on fewer ends. With less around, there was less to worry. Be discerning about what you choose to surround yourself with. Hold on to what matters. Let go of the rest.

7. Say yes less for more time to do things you love with people you love.

We've all said yes, when we wanted to say no. Whether we say it out of guilt, for fear of missing out, or out of habit, it's important to note that saying yes, when your heart says no is a disservice not only to you, but to everyone you say yes to. If your heart says no, it will fight the yes all the way through. You won't be excited to contribute. You won't give your best, and you may end up resenting the commitment or the person who asked you to commit. If you don't have time for what matters, stop doing things that don't.

8. Connect less to your devices for more connection with who yourself and loved ones.

If you want real connection and honest answers, check your heart more than you check your phone. Start by sitting quietly for a few minutes with your hands on your heart, and your eyes closed. Listen. Your heart knows who you are—now you just need a little time to know your heart.

9. Less drama results in more ease and equanimity.

Choose to under-react when possible. Take a few (hundred) deep breaths or go on a long walk. Whatever you need to ensure you don't let the drama in. Just because everything is crazy around you doesn't mean everything has to be crazy within you.

10. Remember what matters.

I remember times when I gave my phone more attention than I gave my daughter, or said, "one sec" and took much longer. When everything is important, nothing really is because you're always distracted or thinking about what's next. Always consider what matters most to you and act accordingly.

11. Create a version of minimalism that works best for you and your family.

There is a big difference between less and nothing and it's up to you to determine what's best for you. If you love to bake, you may have more baking items than someone who loves to ski or hike. Take stock of what adds value to your unique family situation. And don't feel guilty for keeping those items.

As you incorporate minimalism into your life as a mom, you won't just be changing your wellbeing, but your whole family's. Living with less has helped me to restore my health, engage in work I truly care about and show all the way up for the people I love.

Living with less can lead to so much more.

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Baby stuff comes in such cute prints these days. Gone are the days when everything was pink and blue and covered in ducks or teddy bears. Today's baby gear features stylish prints that appeal to mom.

That's why it's totally understandable how a mama could mistake a car seat cover for a cute midi skirt. It happened to Lori Farrell, and when she shared her mishap on Facebook she went viral before she was even home from work. Fellow moms can totally see the humor in Farrell's mishap, and thankfully, so can she.

As for how a car seat cover could be mistaken for a skirt—it's pretty simple, Farrell tells Motherly.

"A friend of mine had given me a huge lot of baby stuff, from clothes to baby carriers to a rocker and blankets and when I pulled it out I was not sure what it was," she explains. "I debated it but washed it anyway then decided because of the way it pulled on the side it must be a maternity skirt."

Farrell still wasn't 100% sure if she was right by the time she headed out the door to work, but she rocked the ambiguous attire anyway.

"When I got to work I googled the brand and realized not only do they not sell clothing but it was a car seat cover."

The brand, Itzy Ritzy, finds the whole thing pretty funny too, sharing Farell's viral moment to its official Instagram.

It may be a car seat cover, but that print looks really good on this mama.

And if you want to copy Farell's style, the Itzy Ritzy 4-in-1 Nursing Cover, Car Seat Cover, Shopping Cart Cover and Infinity Scarf (and skirt!) is available on Amazon for $24.94.

Motherly is your daily #momlife manual; we are here to help you easily find the best, most beautiful products for your life that actually work. We share what we love—and we may receive a commission if you choose to buy.You've got this.

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Daycare for infants is expensive across the country, and California has one of the worst states for parents seeking care for a baby. Putting an infant in daycare in California costs $2,914 more than in-state tuition for four years of college, according to the Economic Policy Institute.

Paying north of $1,000 for daycare each month is an incredible burden, especially on single-parent families. The U.S. Department of Health and Human Services defines affordable childcare as costing no more than 10% of a family's income—by that definition, less than 29% of families in California can afford infant care. Some single parents spend half their income on day care. It is an incredible burden on working parents.

But that burden may soon get lighter. CBS Sacramento reports California may put between $25 and $35 million into child care programs to make day care more affordable for parents with kids under 3 years old.

Assembly Bill 452, introduced this week, could see $10 million dollars funneled into Early Head Start (which currently gets no money from the state but does get federal funding) and tens of millions more would be spent on childcare for kids under three.

The bill seeks to rectify a broken childcare system. Right now, only about 14% of eligible infants and toddlers are enrolled in subsidized programs in California, and in 2017, only 7% of eligible children younger than three years of age accessed Early Head Start.

An influx of between $25 to $35 million dollars could see more spaces open up for kids under three, as Bill 452, if passed, would see the creation of "grants to develop childcare facilities that serve children from birth to three years of age."

This piece of proposed legislation comes weeks after California's governor announced an ambitious plan for paid parental leave, and as another bill, AB 123, seeks to strengthen the state's pre-kindergarten program.

Right now, it is difficult for some working parents to make a life in California, but by investing in families, the state's lawmakers could change that and change California's future for the better.

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When a mama gets married, in most cases she wants her children to be part of her big day. Photographers are used to hearing bride-to-be moms request lots of pictures of their big day, but when wedding photographer Laura Schaefer of Fire and Gold Photography heard her client Dalton Mort planned to wear her 2-year-old daughter Ellora instead of a veil, she was thrilled.

A fellow mama who understands the benefits of baby-wearing, Schaefer was keen to capture the photos Mort requested. "When I asked Dalton about what some of her 'must get' shots would be for her wedding, she specifically asked for ones of her wearing Ellie, kneeling and praying in the church before the tabernacle," Schaefer tells Motherly.

She got those shots and so many more, and now Mort's toddler-wearing wedding day pics are going viral.

"Dalton wore Ellie down the aisle and nursed her to sleep during the readings," Schaefer wrote on her blog, explaining that Ellie then slept through the whole wedding mass.

"As a fellow mother of an active toddler, this is a HUGE win! Dalton told me after that she was SO grateful that Ellie slept the whole time because she was able to focus and really pray through the Mass," Schaefer explains.

Dalton was able to concentrate on her wedding day because she made her baby girl a part of it (and that obviously tired Ellie right out).

Ellie was part of the commitment and family Dalton if forging with her husband, Jimmy Joe. "There is no better behaved toddler than a sleeping toddler, and she was still involved, even though I ended up unwrapping her to nurse her. I held her in my arms while my husband and I said our vows. It was really special for us," Dalton told POPSUGAR.

This is a wedding trend we are totally here for!

Congrats to Dalton and Jimmy Joe (and to Ellie)! 🎉

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The internet is freaking out about how Peppa Pig is changing the way toddlers speak, but parents don't need to be too worried.

As Romper first reported, plenty of American parents have noticed that preschoolers are picking up a bit of a British accent thanks to Peppa. Romper's Janet Manley calls it "the Peppa effect," noting that her daughter started calling her "Mummy" after an in-flight Peppa marathon.


Plenty of other parents report sharing Manley's experience, but the British accent is not likely to stick, experts say.

Toronto-based speech and language pathologist Melissa James says this isn't a new thing—kids have always been testing out the accents they hear on TV and in the real world, long before Peppa oinked her way into our Netflix queues.

"Kids have this amazing ability to pick up language," James told Global News. "Their brains are ripe for the learning of language and it's a special window of opportunity that adults don't possess."

Global News reports that back in the day there were concerns about Dora The Explorer potentially teaching kids Spanish words before the kids had learned the English counterparts, and over in the U.K., parents have noticed British babies picking up American accents from TV, too.

But it's not a bad thing, James explains. When an American adult hears "Mummy" their brain translates it to "Mommy," but little kids don't yet make as concrete a connection. "When a child, two, three or four, is watching a show with a British accent and hears [words] for the first time, they are mapping out the speech and sound for that word in the British way."

So if your baby is oinking at you, calling you "Mummy" or testing out a new pronunciation of "toh-mah-toe," know that this is totally natural, and they're not going to end up with a life-long British pig accent.

As Dr, Susannah Levi, associate professor of communicative sciences and disorders at New York University, tells The Guardian, "it's really unlikely that they'd be acquiring an entire second dialect from just watching a TV show."

It sure is cute though.

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