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What runs through his head when he finds out you’re pregnant

As I waited, I half felt very manly and proud of myself and I half felt like there was no way this was happening.

What runs through his head when he finds out you’re pregnant

The moment you learn you’re going to become a father or mother is one you’ll never forget.


Let’s set the scene. ?

I was on the couch in our tiny cottage in Santa Monica, California. We had moved from San Francisco to Los Angeles only two years earlier. When we landed in L.A. we knew trying for a baby was the right move for us as a couple. We got a dog the first week we moved into our cottage, we were finding work regularly and we were really starting to feel like we’d found some sort of “home.” A baby was the next step in our adulting journey.

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It happened pretty quickly. ?

My wife and I had discussed having children and we’d decided that there was no time like the present. So we spent about two or three months trying, and boom! One evening I remember my wife sort of casually saying to me, “I think I need to take a pregnancy test.” I vaguely remember saying something along the lines of, “Oh, really? Okay.”

As I waited, I was half feeling excited for this potential new life-changing experience and half feeling like there was no way this was happening.

There was a drugstore about a block and a half away from us. My wife walked with our dog to the store and I sat on the couch trying to calm myself. If I’m going to be completely honest with oh, everyone on the internet, well—I was bugging out.

How are we going to figure this stuff out? ?

The whole time she was gone I was playing scenarios in my head. I was comfortable being a freelance, contract-based employee, but would that have to change now? Does this mean we have to move? Where are we going to live? We’re happy where we are, and we can’t afford a larger place. Is this the end of our simple lives as we know them?

These thoughts ran through my head over and over and over and over.

When she came out of the bathroom to deliver the news, I was nervous and anxious in anticipation.

I’m going to be a dad? ?

The words “I’m pregnant!” came out of her mouth and a flood of emotions washed over me. Excitement, happiness, anxiety and of course fear.

Looking back at this point, I scoff at the fear I felt in the moment. However, this reaction is most certainly valid.

I was a contractor with a client base that constantly shifted. I bought and paid for my own health care. We lived in a tiny cottage with barely enough room for the two of us, let alone a baby. I was worried about how to make enough money for a baby. What schools he or she would get into. If we would be able to give the baby all that we got as children, only better (because that’s what you want to do as a parent).

There were so many unanswered questions in the moment—some questions that wouldn’t be answered for years and years. I had worries that I wouldn’t even have to think about until five or 10 years down the line, but I was worrying about them right away. But this is something I’ve learned to keep in check over time. Now, when I’m worried about something in the future, I remind myself that we have five or 10 years to figure them out.

In this life, nothing is answered immediately. If it takes years to define who you are as a person, it will also take years to define who you are as a parent. The only question that you need to answer in the moment is: Are you ready for these challenges?

I’m going to be a dad! ?

If you are ready, then make sure you focus strictly on the moment you’re currently experiencing—a shared passion with your partner about becoming parents.

Those feelings and questions that will surely come up for you, too: Express them to your partner. Tell her what you’re excited and happy about. Tell her about your fears and your worries. Tell her what has you stressed.

Being a parent will be the most important thing you do in your life. Make sure you’re able to share in all the things that being a parent brings with the person you’re sharing this journey with. Then, get SUPER excited! You’re going to be the best version of yourself for your child. You’re going to show them all the things you’ve learned and give them all the love you have to give.

Be human for your child. Show them excitement, empathy, appropriate emotional responses and that you are trying your best.

Just keep reminding yourself of this, and you’re going to be perfect.

Welcome to fatherhood.

These are the best bath time products you can get for under $20

These budget-friendly products really make a splash.

With babies and toddlers, bath time is about so much more than washing off: It's an opportunity for fun, sensory play and sweet bonding moments—with the added benefit of a cuddly, clean baby afterward.

Because bathing your baby is part business, part playtime, you're going to want products that can help with both of those activities. After countless bath times, here are the products that our editors think really make a splash. (Better yet, each item is less than $20!)

Comforts Bath Wash & Shampoo

Comforts Baby Wash & Shampoo

Made with oat extract, this bath wash and shampoo combo is designed to leave delicate skin cleansed and nourished. You and your baby will both appreciate the tear-free formula—so you can really focus on the bath time fun.

Munckin Soft Spot Bath Mat

Munchkin slip mat

When your little one is splish-splashing in the bath, help keep them from also sliding around with a soft, anti-slip bath mat. With strong suction cups to keep it in place and extra cushion to make bath time even more comfortable for your little one, this is an essential in our books.

Comforts Baby Lotion

Comforts baby lotion

For most of us, the bath time ritual continues when your baby is out of the tub when you want to moisturize their freshly cleaned skin. We look for lotions that are hypoallergenic, nourishing and designed to protect their skin.

The First Years Stack Up Cups

First year stack cups

When it comes to bath toys, nothing beats the classic set of stackable cups: Sort them by size, practice pouring water, pile them high—your little one will have fun with these every single bath time.

Comforts Baby Oil

Comforts baby oil

For dry skin that needs a little extra TLC, our team loves Comforts' fast-absorbing baby oil aloe vera and vitamin E. Pro tip: When applied right after drying off your baby, the absorption is even more effective.

KidCo Bath Toy Organizer

KidCo Bath Organizer

Between bathing supplies, wash rags, toys and more, the tub sure can get crowded in a hurry. We like that this organizer gives your little one space to play and bathe while still keeping everything you need within reach.

Another great tip? Shopping the Comforts line on Comfortsforbaby.com to find premium baby products for a fraction of competitors' prices—and follow along on social media to see product releases and news at @comfortsforbaby.

This article was sponsored by The Kroger Co. Thank you for supporting the brands that support Motherly and mamas.

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Motherly editors’ 7 favorite hacks for organizing their diaper bags

Make frantically fishing around for a diaper a thing of the past!

As any parent knows, the term "diaper bag" only scratches the surface. In reality, this catchall holds so much more: a change of clothes, bottles, snacks, wipes and probably about a dozen more essential items.

Which makes finding the exact item you need, when you need it (read: A diaper when you're in public with a blowout on your hands) kind of tricky.

That's why organization is the name of the game when it comes to outings with your littles. We pooled the Motherly team of editors to learn some favorite hacks for organizing diaper bags. Here are our top tips.

1. Divide and conquer with small bags

Here's a tip we heard more than a few times: Use smaller storage bags to organize your stuff. Not only is this helpful for keeping related items together, but it can also help keep things from floating around in the expanse of the larger diaper bag. These bags don't have to be anything particularly fancy: an unused toiletry bag, pencil case or even plastic baggies will work.

2. Have an emergency changing kit

When you're dealing with a diaper blowout situation, it's not the time to go searching for a pack of wipes. Instead, assemble an emergency changing kit ahead of time by bundling a change of baby clothes, a fresh diaper, plenty of wipes and hand sanitizer in a bag you can quickly grab. We're partial to pop-top wipes that don't dry out or get dirty inside the diaper bag.

3. Simplify bottle prep

Organization isn't just being able to find what you need, but also having what you need. For formula-feeding on the go, keep an extra bottle with the formula you need measured out along with water to mix it up. You never know when your outing will take longer than expected—especially with a baby in the mix!

4. Get resealable snacks

When getting out with toddlers and older kids, snacks are the key to success. Still, it isn't fun to constantly dig crumbs out of the bottom of your diaper bag. Our editors love pouches with resealable caps and snacks that come in their own sealable containers. Travel-sized snacks like freeze-dried fruit crisps or meal-ready pouches can get an unfair reputation for being more expensive, but that isn't the case with the budget-friendly Comforts line.

5. Keep a carabiner on your keychain

You'll think a lot about what your child needs for an outing, but you can't forget this must-have: your keys. Add a carabiner to your keychain so you can hook them onto a loop inside your diaper bag. Trust us when we say it's a much better option than dumping out the bag's contents on your front step to find your house key!

6. Bundle your essentials

If your diaper bag doubles as your purse (and we bet it does) you're going to want easy access to your essentials, too. Dedicate a smaller storage bag of your diaper bag to items like your phone, wallet and lip balm. Then, when you're ready to transfer your items to a real purse, you don't have to look for them individually.

7. Keep wipes in an outer compartment

Baby wipes aren't just for diaper changes: They're also great for cleaning up messy faces, wiping off smudges, touching up your makeup and more. Since you'll be reaching for them time and time again, keep a container of sensitive baby wipes in an easily accessible outer compartment of your bag.

Another great tip? Shop the Comforts line on www.comfortsforbaby.com to find premium baby products for a fraction of competitors' prices. Or, follow @comfortsforbaby for more information!

This article was sponsored by The Kroger Co. Thank you for supporting the brands that supporting Motherly and mamas.

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Becoming a mother has been life-changing. It's been hard, tiring, gratifying, beautiful, challenging, scary and a thousand other things that only a parent would ever understand.

It is these life-changing experiences that have inspired me to draw my everyday life as a stay at home mom. Whether it's the mundane tasks like doing laundry or the exciting moments of James', my baby boy's, first steps, I want to put it down on paper so that I can better cherish these fleeting moments that are often overlooked.

Being a stay-at-home-mom can be incredibly lonely. I like to think that by drawing life's simple moments, I can connect with other mothers and help them feel less alone. By doing this, I feel less alone, too. It's a win-win situation and I have been able to connect with many lovely parents and fellow parent-illustrators through my Instagram account.

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