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Hilary Duff asked Instagram for colic advice—and they responded with support

"Unfortunetly [sic], no tricks," one mama wrote. "It just ends one day for no apparent reason. So sorry you're going through it. But, it isn't forever. Promise."

Hilary Duff asked Instagram for colic advice—and they responded with support

Since welcoming her daughter Banks via home birth back in October, Hilary Duff has been open about her experience as a second time mama, and proves that having had one baby doesn't make sleepless nights and unexplained crying any easier.

Duff recently asked her Instagram followers for advice regarding colic—aka excessive and unexplained crying that up to 19% of infants experience. We don't know what exactly causes colic in little babies, but we do know it is not fun for them, or for us, as colic is often defined as crying for a least three hours a day for at least three days a week for at least three weeks. (So much for good things coming in threes.)

Dealing with colic (or the PURPLE period of crying, in which crying may not hit that three-hour mark but is equally frustrating) is so hard, as Duff explains in her Instagram post.

"Calling all parents of colic babies… this ends right?" she wrote. "Can you ever set them down without them screaming OR waking up?"

In her caption Duff noted that this is something she and boyfriend Matthew Koma have looked into extensively, but (like many parents) they haven't found a solution to help soothe little Banks.

"We have read everything the internet has to offer… nothing besides nursing basically every hour or less helps! We have done all the obvious things… please leave magic tricks in comments."

Duff's followers certainly did comment—her post has more than 20, 291 comments as of this writing. We reposted her question on our Instagram, and #TeamMotherly came through with plenty of advice for Duff.

Many commenters recommended talking to a pediatrician to rule out reflux or allergies. Probiotics, bouncing, swaddling and baby-wearing were also frequent recommendations, as were herbal teas and drops and chiropractic adjustment (although research published in the journal Pediatrics suggests these alternative treatments are not supported by enough evidence).

In our Instagram comments, several mamas pointed out that time is the surest remedy.

"Unfortunetly [sic], no tricks," one mama wrote. "It just ends one day for no apparent reason. So sorry you're going through it. But, it isn't forever. Promise."

Another empathetic mother described how colic really took her by surprise with her second. Her advice for Duff? Take care of yourself, too.

"Colic is hard and with multiple children and work obligations/lack of sleep, it can be really overwhelming. [Take] warm baths, massages, a glass of wine or tea and any help you can get," she suggested.

Experts agree with #TeamMotherly: It is important for parents to take care of themselves during this period, and to know that having a baby who cries so much doesn't mean there is anything wrong with your parenting.

According to Emily Willingham, Ph.D. co-author of The Informed Parent: A Science-Based Resource for Your Child's First Four Years, this kind of crying "can be exhausting and alarming, but it's fairly common."

Willingham notes that it is okay to give yourself a time out when the crying is just too much. This may mean leaving the baby in the care of a co-parent (or helpful grandparent or babysitter) as our IG commenter suggested, but in the shorter term, it may mean just taking a temporary moment for yourself if you find your frustration level getting high.

"Putting the baby down and just walking away for a break is okay," Willingham previously explained for Motherly.

Remember this, mama: 

This kind of crying usually peaks between 2 weeks and 4 months, and tapers off around 5 months.

This will pass.

You're doing great.

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Time-saving formula tips our editors swear by

Less time making bottles, more time snuggling.

As a new parent, it can feel like feeding your baby is a full-time job—with a very demanding nightshift. Add in the additional steps it takes to prepare a bottle of formula and, well… we don't blame you if you're eager to save some time when you can. After all, that means more time for snuggling your baby or practicing your own well-deserved self-care.

Here's the upside: Many, many formula-feeding mamas before you have experienced the same thing, and they've developed some excellent tricks that can help you mix up a bottle in record time. Here are the best time-saving formula tips from editors here at Motherly.

1. Use room temperature water

The top suggestion that came up time and time again was to introduce bottles with room temperature water from the beginning. That way, you can make a bottle whenever you need it without worrying about warming up water—which is a total lifesaver when you have to make a bottle on the go or in the middle of the night.

2. Buy online to save shopping time

You'll need a lot of formula throughout the first year and beyond—so finding a brand like Comforts, which offers high-quality infant formula at lower prices, will help you save a substantial amount of money. Not to mention, you can order online or find the formula on shelves during your standard shopping trip—and that'll save you so much time and effort as well.

3. Pre-measure nighttime bottles

The middle of the night is the last time you'll want to spend precious minutes mixing up a bottle. Instead, our editors suggest measuring out the correct amount of powder formula into a bottle and putting the necessary portion of water on your bedside table. That way, all you have to do is roll over and combine the water and formula in the bottle before feeding your baby. Sounds so much better than hiking all the way to the kitchen and back at 3 am, right?

4. Divide serving sizes for outings

Before leaving the house with your baby, divvy up any portions of formula and water that you may need during your outing. Then, when your baby is hungry, just combine the pre-measured water and powder serving in the bottle. Our editors confirm this is much easier than trying to portion out the right amount of water or formula while riding in the car.

5. Memorize the mental math

Soon enough, you'll be able to prepare a bottle in your sleep. But, especially in the beginning or when increasing your baby's serving, the mental math can take a bit of time. If #mombrain makes it tough to commit the measurements to memory, write up a cheat sheet for yourself or anyone else who will prepare your baby's bottle.

6. Warm up chilled formula with water

If you're the savvy kind of mom who prepares and refrigerates bottles for the day in advance, you'll probably want to bring it up to room temperature before serving. Rather than purchase a bottle warmer, our editors say the old-fashioned method works incredibly well: Just plunge the sealed bottle in a bowl of warm water for a few minutes and—voila!—it's ready to serve.

Another great tip? Shop the Comforts line on Comfortsforbaby.com to find premium baby products for a fraction of competitors' prices. Or, follow @comfortsforbaby for more information!

This article was sponsored by The Kroger Co. Thank you for supporting the brands that support Motherly and mamas.

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Motherly editors’ 7 favorite hacks for organizing their diaper bags

Make frantically fishing around for a diaper a thing of the past!

As any parent knows, the term "diaper bag" only scratches the surface. In reality, this catchall holds so much more: a change of clothes, bottles, snacks, wipes and probably about a dozen more essential items.

Which makes finding the exact item you need, when you need it (read: A diaper when you're in public with a blowout on your hands) kind of tricky.

That's why organization is the name of the game when it comes to outings with your littles. We pooled the Motherly team of editors to learn some favorite hacks for organizing diaper bags. Here are our top tips.

1. Divide and conquer with small bags

Here's a tip we heard more than a few times: Use smaller storage bags to organize your stuff. Not only is this helpful for keeping related items together, but it can also help keep things from floating around in the expanse of the larger diaper bag. These bags don't have to be anything particularly fancy: an unused toiletry bag, pencil case or even plastic baggies will work.

2. Have an emergency changing kit

When you're dealing with a diaper blowout situation, it's not the time to go searching for a pack of wipes. Instead, assemble an emergency changing kit ahead of time by bundling a change of baby clothes, a fresh diaper, plenty of wipes and hand sanitizer in a bag you can quickly grab. We're partial to pop-top wipes that don't dry out or get dirty inside the diaper bag.

3. Simplify bottle prep

Organization isn't just being able to find what you need, but also having what you need. For formula-feeding on the go, keep an extra bottle with the formula you need measured out along with water to mix it up. You never know when your outing will take longer than expected—especially with a baby in the mix!

4. Get resealable snacks

When getting out with toddlers and older kids, snacks are the key to success. Still, it isn't fun to constantly dig crumbs out of the bottom of your diaper bag. Our editors love pouches with resealable caps and snacks that come in their own sealable containers. Travel-sized snacks like freeze-dried fruit crisps or meal-ready pouches can get an unfair reputation for being more expensive, but that isn't the case with the budget-friendly Comforts line.

5. Keep a carabiner on your keychain

You'll think a lot about what your child needs for an outing, but you can't forget this must-have: your keys. Add a carabiner to your keychain so you can hook them onto a loop inside your diaper bag. Trust us when we say it's a much better option than dumping out the bag's contents on your front step to find your house key!

6. Bundle your essentials

If your diaper bag doubles as your purse (and we bet it does) you're going to want easy access to your essentials, too. Dedicate a smaller storage bag of your diaper bag to items like your phone, wallet and lip balm. Then, when you're ready to transfer your items to a real purse, you don't have to look for them individually.

7. Keep wipes in an outer compartment

Baby wipes aren't just for diaper changes: They're also great for cleaning up messy faces, wiping off smudges, touching up your makeup and more. Since you'll be reaching for them time and time again, keep a container of sensitive baby wipes in an easily accessible outer compartment of your bag.

Another great tip? Shop the Comforts line on www.comfortsforbaby.com to find premium baby products for a fraction of competitors' prices. Or, follow @comfortsforbaby for more information!

This article was sponsored by The Kroger Co. Thank you for supporting the brands that supporting Motherly and mamas.

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It's science: Why your baby stops crying when you stand up

A fascinating study explains why.

When your baby is crying, it feels nearly instinctual to stand up to rock, sway and soothe them. That's because standing up to calm babies is instinctual—driven by centuries of positive feedback from calmed babies, researchers have found.

"Infants under 6 months of age carried by a walking mother immediately stopped voluntary movement and crying and exhibited a rapid heart rate decrease, compared with holding by a sitting mother," say authors of a 2013 study published in Current Biology.

Even more striking: This coordinated set of actions—the mother standing and the baby calming—is observed in other mammal species, too. Using pharmacologic and genetic interventions with mice, the authors say, "We identified strikingly similar responses in mouse pups as defined by immobility and diminished ultrasonic vocalizations and heart rate."

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