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To the person who told Susan Sarandon motherhood would ‘ruin’ her career...

She’s an icon and an Oscar winner, but Susan Sarandon is also a mother—a role that she seems to value above all else. That’s why Sarandon is baffled to look back on the advice someone gave her 30-some years ago: Don’t have a baby. Motherhood will ruin your career. (Spoiler: It didn’t.)


In a recent interview with Good Housekeeping, Sarandon recalled when a fellow mom warned her that becoming a parent would deflate her stock in Hollywood.

“I think it was ‘Don’t have the baby,’ as though it would ruin my career, and I was so old anyway,” said Sarandon, 71, whose oldest child is now 32.

History has shown just how bad that bit of advice was—ever heard of Thelma & Louise—which came out when Sarandon was a mother of two? But that didn’t stop people from repeating it to Sarandon through the years.

“I had my first baby at 39 and my third at 45, and with each child, [people were] like, ‘Are you crazy? Don’t!’”

The mother of three has been proving the naysayers wrong for decades, enjoying the role of mom without sacrificing her acting career.

While that isn’t to say maintaining a career and navigating parenthood is an easy task (who knows what kind of day that other mom was having when she shared the advice?) it certainly is possible. In fact, experts say the skills we pick up as parents can actually help, not hinder, our careers. And studies show that children of working moms benefit in many ways.

Bottom line: No one “has it all,” but we can have the lives we want.

For Sarandon, building the life she wanted meant not buying into the idea of perfection. As she says, that “requires too much energy, so I gave it up a while ago.”

These days, Sarandon’s imperfect life includes two grandchildren, who call her “Honey” instead of “Grandma.” The rest of us can just call her an inspiration.

10 must-have registry items that will change your life, mama

The baby gear heavy hitters that should be top of your list

Calling all mamas-to-be! It's a fundamental truth of (impending) motherhood that your prepping-for-baby To Do list can feel a mile long, but really the best way to feel organized is to sort out the most important item at the top of your list: your registry. Sure the items you choose to include will end up running the gamut from nice-to-haves to absolutely essential game-changers, but mamas in the know quickly learn one thing: Not all baby gear is created equal.

So while you can and should pepper your registry with adorable inclusions that aren't necessarily can't-live-withouts (go ahead, add 'em!), you should make sure you're ticking the boxes on those pieces of baby gear that can be absolute life savers once you're in full-blown mama mode. From car seats to bouncers and playmats, your play and travel gear will be some of the most obvious important items on your list, but so can unexpected things, like a super comfy baby carrier and a snooze-inducing white noise machine. So to help you sort through the must-have options, we turned to the holy grail of motherhood that is buybuy BABY and handpicked 10 of the very best essential pieces that will change your life, we promise.

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Earth Mama: Effective, natural herbal care for mamas and babies

Founded and grown in her own garage in 2002, Earth Mama started as an operation of one, creating salves, tinctures, teas and soaps with homegrown herbs. With a deep desire to bring the healing powers of nature that have been relied on for thousands of years to as many mamas as possible, Melinda Olson's formulas quickly grew into Earth Mama Organics. Since then, the brand has remained committed to manufacturing clean, safe and effective herbal solutions for the entire journey of motherhood, including pregnancy, breastfeeding and baby care, and even the loss of a baby.

Bravado Designs: Soothing sounds for a good night's sleep

With 28 years of serving pregnant and postpartum mamas under their belt, Bravado Designs is a true authority on the needs of changing bodies. It's true that we have them to thank for rescuing us from the uncomfortable and frumpy designs our own moms had to live with. Launched in Canada by two young mamas, they designed the first prototypes with extra leopard print fabric certain that a better bra was possible. Throughout the years they've maintained their commitment to ethical manufacturing while creating long-lasting products that truly work.

The Sill: Instagram-ready potted plants

We've long admired this female-founded brand and the brilliant mind behind it, Eliza Blank. (She even joined Motherly co-founder Liz Tenety on and episode of The Motherly Podcast!) The mission behind the business was simple: To make the process of bringing plants into your home as easy as possible, and as wonderful as the plant themselves. With their in-house, exclusively designed minimalist planters, the end result makes plant parenthood just a few clicks away.

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The 6 biggest lies I believed before having kids

Just about all of us had set assumptions about raising kids before we became parents ourselves.

Just about all of us had set assumptions about raising kids before we became parents ourselves. Some of these ideas might have been based on our own ideas of how we would absolutely do things differently than everyone else. Others, we believed what everyone else told us would happen would apply to our littles, too. But, that's not always the case, mama.

Below are six of the biggest lies I believed before having kids—and the reality of what actually happened for me.

1. Put your baby down drowsy, but awake

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