What children’s gender reveal reactions teach us about big feelings

Let’s face it: You can’t always get what you want. And a viral TikTok video by @skylarquinn.hair is showing that in a sweetly relatable way when she reveals her third baby’s gender to her daughter and son―resulting in a mix of reactions. 

And while her children’s varied response is certainly eliciting chuckles across the internet, it also highlights a common occurrence when adding a new baby to the family. While some children express excitement, others may show disappointment or confusion, bringing to light the complex emotions that can arise during significant family changes.

These reactions are more than just entertaining moments; they offer insight into how children process big changes. Understanding these responses can help parents navigate the emotional landscape of family transitions.

Why big sibling news can spark everything from excitement to meltdown

Children’s reactions to the news of a new sibling can vary widely. Some may feel joy and anticipation, while others might experience jealousy or insecurity. These mixed emotions are a normal part of the adjustment process. Experts suggest that acknowledging and validating these feelings can help children cope with the changes.

It’s important for parents to recognize that these reactions are not necessarily negative but are part of the child’s way of processing the upcoming changes. By providing support and understanding, parents can help their children navigate these emotions.

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Expert insight on validating kids’ feelings (even if they’re disappointed)

Psychologists emphasize the importance of validating children’s emotions during times of change. Acknowledging feelings of disappointment or jealousy can help children feel understood and supported. This validation can lead to better emotional adjustment and a smoother transition into the new family dynamic―especially when they’re adapting to sharing parents with their new nine-pound housemate.

Parents are encouraged to listen actively to their children’s concerns, offer reassurance, and provide consistent routines to help children feel secure. By fostering open communication, parents can strengthen their relationship with their children and ease the adjustment process.

Practical ways parents can prepare older children for a new sibling

Preparation is key to helping older children adjust to the arrival of a new sibling. Experts recommend involving children in the process early on. This can include discussing the upcoming changes, allowing children to express their feelings, and involving them in preparations for the new baby. Books, children’s shows, and imaginative play can also help a young child prepare for their new sibling in easy-to-grasp ways that help them feel involved in the process.

Additionally, maintaining special one-on-one time with the older child and establishing consistent routines can help them feel secure and valued. Providing opportunities for the child to take on new responsibilities, such as helping with baby care, can also foster a sense of inclusion and importance. And you’ll love having the extra pair of hands when you’re nap-trapped with a newborn.

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Turning viral moments into meaningful conversations

While the viral TikTok video showcases a child’s immediate reaction to a gender reveal, it also opens the door for meaningful conversations about emotions and family changes. Parents can use such moments to discuss feelings, expectations, and the upcoming changes in a supportive and understanding manner.

By approaching these conversations with empathy and openness, parents can help their children navigate the complexities of becoming an older sibling and foster a positive family dynamic. 

Sources:

1. Child Mind Institute. “Preparing Your Child for a New Sibling.”
2. National Library of Medicine. 2012. “Sibling Relationships and Empathy Across the Transition to Adolescence.”
3. Raising Children. “New baby: preparing other children.”