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Some days, particularly the very frazzled ones, I fantasize about being able to do one thing at a time. To start a task, think it through, complete it—check it off the list. (What a life I lead, where single-tasking are what my dreams are made of...)

Just think about it for a second. You decide, hmm yes, I think I'll try a new recipe for dinner tonight.

So, you:

1. Go to Pinterest (without being interrupted)

2. Find awesome stuffed peppers recipe (without being interrupted)

3. Gather your ingredients (without being interrupted)

4. Prep and focus on cooking the meal (without being interrupted)

5. Happily, calmly eat the delicious meal together (without being interrupted)

(Sexy fantasy, right??)

OK, so maybe in this season of my life, this dreamworld is akin to that of me hopping on the next flight to Hawaii for a romantic vacation with my husband. It's not going to happen.

But that's OK, right? Because...multitasking.

Multitasking sometimes gets a bad rap because it may be “killing productivity" or “causing us stress," blah blah blah. Yes, those may be legitimate, valid concerns.

BUT, moms multitask. It's how we roll.

How else would we get all the things done?

How else would we stay sane if multitasking wasn't also acting as a really helpful life skill that keeps all the wheels turning?


How else would we take on world domination?

So instead of condemning multitasking, mama, I'm here to salute you and your superpower.

Because of multitasking we can run businesses from our homes with babies and toddlers running and jumping and crawling on us and trying to get in on our virtual team meetings. (“Mommy, my turn? Can I say hi?")

Because of multitasking we can cook dinner while unloading the dishwasher, settling an argument and finally texting our friend back. (We might be three days late on that text, but look—we remembered! See? Our brains are fine.)

Because of multitasking we can reply to that email, finish listening to a podcast while hydrating our skin with a face mask. (Is it still considered self-caring if you're multitasking while self-caring?)

Because of multitasking we can rock our baby to sleep in their rock 'n' play with our foot while reading on the couch and finally getting a few sips of hot (okay, luke-warm) coffee. ☕

Because of multitasking we can take a shower while brainstorming ideas for work while also singing 'The Wheels on the Bus' so our child doesn't yell at us. (They can be scary.)

Because of multitasking we can apply mascara while catching up with our mom on speakerphone and watching our toddler out of the corner of our eye. (“Hold on one sec, Mom. Honey get down from the counter! Stop eating the toilet paper! And get your diaper back on!")

Because of multitasking we can solve world problems with our kiddo while using the toilet because kids don't believe in privacy and anyway we need to leave the bathroom door open because we're listening for the other one to make sure they're not doing anything destructive in the 30 seconds you need. (And 30 seconds is all they need, too. )

Because of multitasking we can book a venue for our child's birthday party while searching for a cute outfit for them to wear on Etsy and browsing for something cute for you, too. (Internet shopping FTW. )

Because of multitasking we can vacuum while taking bites of our lunch and picking up toys (and coins and hair ties and Lego and other non-vacuumable items) along the way. ✨

Because of multitasking we can lay with our babies until they fall asleep while sneaking earbuds in and catching up on our favorite show (with that brightness setting down low, obvs.)

Because of multitasking we can drive our kids around with their music keeping them happily singing in their seats while we earbud it again (safely in only one ear), listening to a book on our phone.

Because of multitasking we can make out with our husband while adding items to the running grocery list in our head. (Cheerios...bringing the sexy back since 1941. )

Because of multitasking we can breastfeed our baby while interviewing a prominent doctor for an article we're writing while also calming our annoyed toddler by finding their favorite episode of Beat Bugs on Netflix (thank you God for the mute button on our phones!).

To our fried brains, we're sorry. We will eventually take it all down a notch—promise.

But for now, this is mostly how it is. We've got to keep that train a' rollin'.

We've got to keep wearing all our different hats. All at the same time.

So, Mama—please know that you're doing your best, and so am I. One day we won't feel like we're going crazy every couple of days (or hours...or minutes…) Seriously.

One day we'll master single-tasking.

But for now? Multitasking? We're here for it.

Who said motherhood doesn't come with a manual?

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If there's one thing you learn as a new mama, it's that routine is your friend. Routine keeps your world spinning, even when you're trucking along on less than four hours of sleep. Routine fends off tantrums by making sure bellies are always full and errands aren't run when everyone's patience is wearing thin. And routine means naps are taken when they're supposed to, helping everyone get through the day with needed breaks.

The only problem? Life doesn't always go perfectly with the routine. When my daughter was born, I realized quickly that, while her naps were the key to a successful (and nearly tear-free!) day, living my life according to her nap schedule wasn't always possible. There were groceries to fetch, dry cleaning to pick up, and―if I wanted to maintain any kind of social life―lunch dates with friends to enjoy.

Which is why the Ergobaby Metro Compact City Stroller was such a life-saver. While I loved that it was just 14 pounds (perfect for hoisting up the stairs to the subway or in the park) and folds down small enough to fit in an airplane overhead compartment (you know, when I'm brave enough to travel again!), the real genius of this pint-sized powerhouse is that it doesn't skimp on comfort.

Nearly every surface your baby touches is padded with plush cushions to provide side and lumbar support to everything from their sweet head to their tiny tush―it has 40% more padding than other compact strollers. When nap time rolls around, I could simply switch the seat to its reclined position with an adjustable leg rest to create an instant cozy nest for my little one.

There's even a large UV 50 sun canopy to throw a little shade on those sleepy eyes. And my baby wasn't the only one benefiting from the comfortable design― the Metro is the only stroller certified "back healthy" by the AGR of Germany, meaning mamas get a much-needed break too.

I also appreciate how the Metro fits comfortably into my life. The sleek profile fits through narrow store aisles as easily as it slides up to a table when I'm able to meet a pal for brunch. Plus, the spring suspension means the tires absorb any bumps along our way―helping baby stay asleep no matter where life takes us. When it's time to take my daughter out, it folds easily with one hand and has an ergonomic carry handle to travel anywhere we want to go.

Life will probably never be as predictable as I'd like, but at least with our Metro stroller, I know my child will be cradled with care no matter what crosses our path.

This article is sponsored by Ergobaby. Thank you for supporting the brands that support Motherly and mamas.


It's been more than a year since Khloé Kardashian welcomed her daughter True Thompson into the world, and like a lot of new moms, Khloé didn't just learn how to to be a mom this year, she also learned how to co-parent with someone who is no longer her partner. According to the Pew Research Center, co-parenting and the likelihood that a child will spend part of their childhood living with just one parent is on the rise.

There was a ton of media attention on Khloé's relationship with True's father Tristan Thompson in her early days of motherhood, and in a new interview on the podcast "Divorce Sucks!," Khloé explained that co-parenting with someone you have a complicated relationship with isn't always easy, but when she looks at True she knows it's worth it.

"For me, Tristan and I broke up not too long ago so it's really raw," Khloé tells divorce attorney Laura Wasser on the podcast. She explains that even though it does "suck" at times, she's committed to having a good relationship with her ex because she doesn't want True to pick up on any negative energy, even at her young age.

That's why she invited Tristan to True's recent first birthday bash, even though she knew True wouldn't remember that party. "I know she's going to want to look back at all of her childhood memories like we all do," Khloé explained. "I know her dad is a great person, and I know how much he loves her and cares about her, so I want him to be there."


We totally get why being around Tristan is hard for Khloé, but it sounds like she's approaching co-parenting with a positive attitude that will benefit True in the long run. Studies have found that shared parenting is good for kids and that former couples who have "ongoing personal and emotional involvement with their former spouse" are more likely to rate their co-parenting relationship positively.

Khloé says her relationship with Tristan right now is "civilized," and hopefully it can get even better with time. As Suzanne Hayes noted in her six guiding principles for a co-parenting relationship, there's no magic bullet for moving past the painful feelings that come when a relationship ends and into a healthy co-parenting relationship, but treating your ex with respect and (non-romantic) love is a good place to start. Hayes describes it as "human-to-human, parent-to-parent, we-share-amazing-children-and-always-will love."

It's a great place to start, and it sounds like Khloé has already figured that out.

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Kim Kardashian West welcomed her fourth child into the world. The expectancy and arrival of this boy (her second child from surrogacy) has garnered much attention.

In a surrogacy pregnancy, a woman carries a pregnancy for another family and then after giving birth she relinquishes her rights of the child.

On her website, Kim wrote that she had medical complications with her previous pregnancy leading her to this decision. “I have always been really honest about my struggles with pregnancy. Preeclampsia and placenta accreta are high-risk conditions, so when I wanted to have a third baby, doctors said that it wasn't safe for my—or the baby's—health to carry on my own."

While the experience was challenging for her, “The connection with our baby came instantly and it's as if she was with us the whole time. Having a gestational carrier was so special for us and she made our dreams of expanding our family come true. We are so excited to finally welcome home our baby girl."

A Snapchat video hinted that Kim may have planned to breastfeed her third child. What she chooses to do is of course none of our business. But is has raised the very interesting question, “Wait, can you breastfeed when you use a surrogate?"


The answer is yes, you sure can! (And you can when you adopt a baby, too!)

When a women is pregnant, she begins a process called lactogenesis in which her body prepares itself to start making milk. This usually starts around the twenty week mark of pregnancy (half way through). Then, when the baby is born, the second phase of lactogenesis occurs, and milk actually starts to fill the breasts.

All of this occurs in response to hormones. When women do not carry a pregnancy, but wish to breastfeed, they can induce lactation, where they replicate the same hormonal process that happens during pregnancy.

A woman who wants to induce lactation can work with a doctor or midwife, and start taking the hormones estrogen and progesterone (which grow breast tissue)—often in the form of birth control pills—along with a medication called domperidone (which increases milk production).

Several weeks before the baby will be born, the woman stops taking the birth control pill but continues to take the domperidone to simulate the hormonal changes that would happen in a pregnancy. She'll also start pumping multiple times per day, and will likely add herbal supplements, like fenugreek and blessed thistle.

Women can also try to induce lactation without the hormones, by using pumping and herbs, it may be harder but some women feel more comfortable with that route.

Inducing lactation takes a lot of dedication—but then again, so does everything related to be a mama. It's a super personal decision, and not right for everyone.

The important thing to remember is that we need to support women and mothers through their entire journey, no matter what decisions they make about themselves and their families—whether Kardashian or the rest of us.

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