As a society, we are generally pretty good at minding our own beeswax. But something happens around conceiving and pregnancy; people seemingly come out of the woodwork to ask really personal questions about your lady parts (and the possible babies within them).

We’re here to help you navigate the social awkwardness that can sometimes come along with trying to conceive, and early pregnancy.

Scenario: You’re trying to get pregnant, and your best friend’s wedding is during your two-week-wait (in other words, the alcohol issue)

Cutting out alcohol is one of the first things women who are trying to get pregnant (or are newly pregnant) do. And rightly so; alcohol can decrease your chance of getting pregnant, and cause health problems for your baby. But this can make social situations a little tricky; if you are part of the 87% of adults who drink alcohol, and suddenly you stop drinking, people might catch on and start asking questions. Just know this: seltzer in a rocks glass looks an awful lot like a cocktail, and searching for “mocktail” in Pinterest will make you forget about alcohol all together.

Scenario: You just found out you’re pregnant, and you have a business trip scheduled next week.

With a few exceptions, traveling while you are pregnant is fine. Here are a few tips to keep you and your new little passenger extra safe on your trip:

  • Make sure your destination is safe for pregnant women. Check for risks of infections (like Zika), personal safety, climate, and clean drinking water.
  • Buckle your seatbelt (ALWAYS, please).
  • If flying, stay hydrated, consider wearing support stockings, and get up and walk around to prevent blood clots.
  • Get the ok from your midwife or doctor before you get on a plane or travel long distances; some pre-existing medical conditions will prevent you from being able to travel.

Scenario: You work in an office and your morning sickness is forcing you to make frequent unpleasant trips to the bathroom.

They’re only going to buy the “I have a little stomach bug” line for so long. Check out our tips for keeping morning sickness at bay.

Scenario: Your boss isn’t quite your bff, and the thought of telling her you’re pregnant doesn’t exactly thrill you

Breaking the news to your boss can be an uncomfortable, yet super important step. But don’t worry, we’ve got your back: read our guide here. Most people choose to tell their work places around the end of the first trimester, but there may be times to consider talking to them sooner (if you’re feeling really sick or if your job involves something that might be hazardous to you and your pregnancy, for example).

Scenario: You can’t button your pants, but you’re just not ready to hit the maternity department yet

Leggings. They’re they motherhood dress code. Also see our first trimester fashion guide.

Remember, this is YOUR journey and YOUR pregnancy. And while you may feel pressured to share your news with the people around you, just wait until you feel ready; they’ll have plenty of time to dote on you and your growing belly soon enough.