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Two year olds aren't maniacal. They're magical. ✨

Sure, they may test your patience by deciding to take their diaper off and pee on the living room floor, or insist on throwing a tantrum while you're trying to rush through Target to “grab a few things"—but they don't mean to.

Quite the opposite. They want to make you happy; to give and receive love unconditionally. But they are experiencing so many new emotions and are doing their best to navigate these waters.

They're learning and growing and making mistakes and becoming tiny humans.

I get frustrated sometimes. Mama is only human. But I aspire to always remind myself that my 2-year-old bundle of love is not trying to intentionally frustrate me. She is not trying to push my buttons.

She is trying to show me who she is.

And at the same time, she's reminding me every day that the toddler years—especially two!—are a magical time in our lives.

Here's why.

1. Toddlers will love you at your worst.

Your morning breath can smell really, really bad, but they will still kiss you enthusiastically. You may not have showered for a day or two but they still tell you you're beautiful. When you cry after a terrible day at work, they'll give you a big hug and comfort you—no judgement.

Their love is loyal and forgiving and fierce and affectionate—which is good for your ego and your heart.

2. They remind us how to be in the moment.

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Running around with my daughter in the evening, before winding down for bed—actin' a fool and getting caught up in the moment—is one of the best feelings on this planet. It's true happiness.

In these times I realize I'm not worrying about anything, my stressors have momentarily disappeared, and my to-do list is saved somewhere in the cloud—out of sight, and out of mind.

3. They keep your silliness alive.

You can act like a kid with your kid.

And what a refreshing feeling that is!

Being silly with your two-year-old can immediately transport you back in time with one loud burp, followed by happy, deep belly laughs. The harder you laugh, the harder your two-year-old laughs. And what's better than laughing about farts and burps and boogers? Not much, mama, not much.

4. They help you appreciate the simple things.

Little toddler eyes are always watching, always observing—pointing out things you might normally miss. "Yes honey, that cardinal flying by is beautiful!" "You're right, that was a train in the distance. Where do you think it's going?" They are often equally excited for a new $1 sticker book as they are to help you vacuum.

Their perspective of life and the world around them rubs off on you. They force you to stop and look around—to appreciate what's right in front of you.

5. They reignite your imagination.

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Before having kids, how much did you exercise your imagination muscles? Probably not nearly as much as you do now!

Pretending you're a fairy princess who has to go milk cows on the farm, or a pirate who has to fight off a shark in the scary ocean will remind you that playing is FUN! And these moments can inspire you in many ways.

6. They are able to communicate and understand.

Watching your baby grow up right before your eyes is amazing and scary and sort of heartbreaking in a way. I think we will always miss our babies—but what a joy it is to watch them develop into a walking-talking-assertive child. At this stage, you can basically have a conversation with them—maybe with a lot of words, or maybe by their ability to show you what they want or need.

I can ask for my daughter's help when I run out of wipes, but am stuck with her sister on my lap with an explosive diaper situation. Most of the times she actually comes back with the wipes! (And somehow her Rapunzel doll, Thomas the train, and a random granola bar she found, too…)

They are maturing and understanding more and more every day, right before our eyes.

7. They keep it real.

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These little ones know how to tell it like it is, and they aren't afraid to do so. They don't have a filter, so they don't really have the ability to hold back. And in a world where other adults may want to protect your feelings or are afraid to tell you something, you're going to get the straight up truth from your toddler.

There's something on my face? Thank you, honey. I smell funny? Much appreciated.

8. They still take naps. (Hopefully.)

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If you're still #blessed to have a child who naps for you, we salute you. We fear that this time is fleeting, and never want it to go away. Enjoy those moments of peace and quiet when your little one is sleeping. Read a book, do the laundry, answer emails, catch up on your DVR, or take a nap yourself—your time, your choice.

Because one day you'll have a four-year-old in your face who will declare: No more naps, mommy. And yes, that day is coming.

9. They say and do funny things, and think you're hilarious!

I'm going to venture a guess that it's just not as cute when an adult says something like "I'm nudie, I'm nudie!" or "One minute. I'm doing a poopie" versus when a 2-year-old says it.

Toddlers come up with the most random things to say and do and it is impossible not to laugh.

Plus, small humans almost always laugh at your funny faces and your corny jokes. You're basically Amy Schumer to them (minus the one-night-stand jokes and swearing), and it can do wonders for your self-esteem.

10. They will always be your baby.

No matter how much they've grown and changed over time, they still look like your innocent little baby at times (especially when they're sleeping!) and you know what—I don't think that will ever change.

They will always be your baby, and they still need you right now.

You feel it when they've scraped their knee and come running to you. Or when they're exhausted and snuggle up next to you on the couch—fitting perfectly into your arms. You'll feel it when they light up when you come home from work—making you wonder how on earth you became so lucky.

And you'll feel it when they call for you after a bad dream, and you wipe their tears while rocking them back to sleep—putting their worries at ease, as only their mom or dad can. They're growing up so fast, but they need you now.

And we need this magical time too.

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As a former beauty editor, I pride myself in housing the best skincare products in my bathroom. Walk in and you're sure to be greeted with purifying masks, micellar water, retinol ceramide capsules and Vitamin C serums. What can I say? Old habits die hard. But when I had my son, I was hesitant to use products on him. I wanted to keep his baby-soft skin for as long as possible, without tainting it with harsh chemicals.

Eventually, I acquiesced and began using leading brands on his sensitive skin. I immediately regretted it. His skin became dry and itchy and regardless of what I used on him, it never seemed to get better. I found myself asking, "Why don't beauty brands care about baby skin as much as they care about adult skin?"

When I had my daughter in May, I knew I had to take a different approach for her skin. Instead of using popular brands that are loaded with petroleum and parabens, I opted for cleaner products. These days I'm all about skincare that contains super-fruits (like pomegranate sterols, which are brimming with antioxidants) and sulfate-free cleansers that contain glycolipids that won't over-dry her skin. And, so far, Pipette gets it right.

What's in it

At first glance, the collection of shampoo, wipes, balm, oil and lotion looks like your typical baby line—I swear cute colors and a clean look gets me everytime—but there's one major difference: All products are environmentally friendly and cruelty-free, with ingredients derived from plants or nontoxic synthetic sources. Also, at the core of Pipette's formula is squalane, which is basically a powerhouse moisturizing ingredient that babies make in utero that helps protect their skin for the first few hours after birth. And, thanks to research, we know that squalane isn't an irritant, and is best for those with sensitive skin. Finally, a brand really considered my baby's dry skin.

Off the bat, I was most interested in the baby balm because let's be honest, can you ever have too much protection down there? After applying, I noticed it quickly absorbed into her delicate skin. No rash. No irritation. No annoyed baby. Mama was happy. It's also worth noting there wasn't any white residue left on her bottom that usually requires several wipes to remove.


Why it's different

I love that Pipette doesn't smell like an artificial baby—you, know that powdery, musky note that never actually smells like a newborn. It's fragrance free, which means I can continue to smell my daughter's natural scent that's seriously out of this world. I also enjoy that the products are lightweight, making her skin (and my fingers) feel super smooth and soft even hours after application.

The bottom line

Caring for a baby's sensitive skin isn't easy. There's so much to think about, but Pipette makes it easier for mamas who don't want to compromise on safety or sustainability. I'm obsessed, and I plan to start using the entire collection on my toddler as well. What can I say, old habits indeed die hard.

This article was sponsored by Pipette. Thank you for supporting the brands that support Motherly and mamas.

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Military families give up so much for their country, particularly when they have small children at home. Those of us who have never witnessed this kind of sacrifice first-hand could use a reminder of it once in a while, which is just one of the reasons we're so happy to see the beautiful photoshoot Mary Chevalier arranged for her husband's return home from Afghanistan.

The photoshoot was extra special because while James Chevalier was serving a nine-month deployment, Mary gave birth to their second son, Caspian.

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"During the laboring and birthing process of Caspian, I was surrounded by family, but that did not fill the void of not having my husband by my side," Mary told InsideEdition.com. "He was able to video chat during the labor and birth, but for both of us, it was not enough."

While James had yet to meet Caspian, their 3-year-old son, Gage, missed his dad a whole lot, so this homecoming was going to be a big deal for him too. That's why Mary arranged for her wedding photographer, Brittany Watson, to be with them for their reunion in Atlanta.

Gage was so happy to see his Dad 

"[He] had no idea he was going to be getting to see his daddy that day," Watson wrote on Facebook. "The family met at the Southeastern Railway Museum for Gage to go on a special train ride... little did he know, he'd be doing it with daddy!"

Watson did a beautiful job capturing the high emotions of every single family member, from Gage's surprise, to the delight on baby Caspian's face. It's no wonder her Facebook post went viral last week.

"Caspian is natural, a very happy baby, but both James and I felt like Caspian knew who his father was almost immediately," Mary told Inside Edition. "He was easily comforted by me husband right off the bat and seemed to have an instant connection. It was very emotional."

The moment this dad had been waiting for 

If we're sobbing just looking at the photos, we can't even imagine what it was like in real life.

"We are all so blessed and take so much for granted," Watson wrote. "I cannot contain the joy I feel in my heart when I look at these images, and I hope you feel it too!"


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During both of my pregnancies, I was under the care of an amazing midwife. Every time I went to her office for check-ups, I was mesmerized by the wall of photos participating in what may be the most painfully magical moment of a woman's life: giving birth. But there was a painting that always drew my attention: a woman dressed in orange, holding her newborn baby with a face that could be described as clueless. The line above the canvas read, "Now what?"

I felt like the woman in the painting as I kissed my mother goodbye when my daughter was born. She came from my native Colombia to stay with us for three months. When she left, I realized that my husband had been working as usual during those first 90 days of our new life. My baby was born on a Friday and on Monday he was back at the office. (No parental leave policy for him.)

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After a few years in Miami, I had some friends, but it truly didn't feel like I had a village. Some were not mothers yet, most of them worked full-time and others didn't live close by. My nomad life left my best friends spread out in different places in the world. I found myself signing up for "mommy and me" classes in search of new mothers, immigrants like me, alone like me.

It seemed like a utopian dream to think about when my grandmothers became mothers. Both of them had 6 and 10 children and they were able to stay sane (or maybe not? I don't know). But at least they had family around—people cooking, offering help. There was a sense of community.

My mother and father grew up in "the village." Big families with so many children that the older siblings ended up taking care of the little ones; aunts were like second mothers and neighbors became family.

When I was about to give birth to my second baby, my sister had just had her baby girl back in Colombia. Once, she called me crying because her maternity leave was almost over. My parents live close to her, so that was a bonus. Hiring a nanny back there is more affordable. But even seeing the positive aspects of it, I wished I could have been there for her, to be each other's village.

The younger me didn't realize that when I took a plane to leave my country in search of new experiences 19 years ago, I was giving up the chance to have my loved ones close by when I became a mother. And when I say close by, I mean as in no planes involved.

It hasn't been easy, but after two kids and plenty of mommy and me classes and random conversations that became true connections, I can say I have a mini-village, a small collection of solitudes coming together to lean on each other. But for some reason, it doesn't truly feel like one of those described in the old books where women gathered to knit while breastfeeding and all the children become like siblings.

Life gets in the way, and everyone gets sucked into their own worlds. In the absence of a true village, we feel the pressure to be and do everything that once was done by a group of people. We often lose perspective of priorities because we are taking care of everything at the same time. Starting to feel sick causes anxiety and even fear because it means so many things need to happen in order for mom—especially if single—to lay down and recover while the children are taken care of. And when the children get sick, that could mean losing money for a working mother or father, because the truth is that most corporations are not designed to nurture families.

In the absence of that model of a village I long for, we tend to rely on social media to have a sense of community and feel supported. We may feel that since we are capable of doing so much—working and stay at home moms equally—perhaps we don't need help. Or quite the opposite: mom guilt kicks in and feelings of not being enough torment our night sleep. Depression and anxiety can enter the picture and just thinking about the amount of energy and time that takes to create true connections, we may often curl up in our little cocoon with our children and partners—if they are present—when they come home.

Now what? was my thought this week while driving back and forth to the pediatrician with my sick son. I can't get the virus, I have to be strong, my daughter can't get ill, my husband needs to be healthy for his work trip next week, we all need to be well for my son's fifth birthday. And so, it goes on. I texted one of my mom friends just to rant. She rants back because her son is also sick. She sent me a heart and an "I'm here if you need to talk."

I am grateful to have talked to her at that random postpartum circle when I first became a mother. She's a Latina immigrant like me and feels exactly like me. I will do it more, get out of my comfort zone and have—sometimes—awkward conversations so I can keep growing my own little village.

It may not look like the one I'd imagined, but still may allow me to be vulnerable even through a text message.

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