A letter to my sensitive child

Hello little love. My gentle soul. My sensitive child.

Sensitivity is not so easily come by these days, yet I see it emanating from your tiny spirit. There are so many unique things about you that will help you experience life so completely—you’ll embrace each day with fervor and absorb beauty like spring bud yearning for rain.

But your sensitivity will be a burden for you as well. Sometimes the rain will be too much for your little heart to bear, and you will feel inundated by this life.

Sometimes, it will be so good. And sometimes, it will be really hard.

You notice everything.

Nothing escapes you. You pick up on subtle, minute details that others miss. You point out the coloring on a caterpillar’s body that I would for sure not have noticed. You can look at a child across the playground and tell that she feels lonely (and then go over and start playing with her). You find beauty in everything.

Your attention to detail will be an invaluable skill, and you will make observations that manifest in groundbreaking outcomes.

But sometimes, this will be your burden.

Your brain is absorbing so much information, and you get tired easily. Other kids can go through their day with stamina, but you get overwhelmed and needs lots of break. And sometimes, you just can’t anymore. Other kids are playing and running at a party, and you just start crying because it’s all too much. And this will continue for you forever.

I know, it’s really hard sometimes.

You feel things very deeply.

There is nothing quite like watching you when you are happy. Your entire face smiles, your eyes sparkle like the sea, and joy seems to shoot out from your fingers and toes—it’s contagious.

Your heart will be wide open to the range of emotions available to you, and your life will be rich and full because of it.

But sometimes, this will be your burden.

You feel hard emotions deeply too. When you are sad you are profoundly sad. It’s not easy for you to “snap” out of it (not that I want you to). Your mood swings are powerful. And the first time you have your heart broken will hurt more than you can possibly imagine.

I know, it’s really hard sometimes.

Other people’s emotions are your own.

You are truly happy when you see others’ joy, and though you are so young, you show a level of compassion that many adults will never have. You love to help people, and really want the world to be a better place.

Others will come to you for comfort, because they feel truly heard and safe in your presence. You will form deep connections and bonds with people, and should you choose to become one, you will be an amazing parent.

But sometimes this will be your burden.

You will never be able to “shrug off” someone else’s pain. Please don’t misunderstand, it’s amazing to want to make others happy—but others’ happiness shouldn’t be your responsibility. Sometimes it’s simply not possible to make someone happy. And if you have children, you will feel their pain in your core.

I know, it’s really hard sometimes.

You are so very curious.

When you love something, you are passionate about it. You could spend four hours building a fairy hut out of sticks, or an entire afternoon “writing” a book. Your (never-ending) questions fascinate me, and your desire to explore the world around you is so inspiring.

I’m not sure if you’re going to be a scientist or an artist (or a fashion designer-rock climber, as you told me over dinner today)—but whatever you are, you are going to move mountains with your curiosity.

But sometimes, this will be your burden.

The world is a not-so-pretty place sometimes, and you will never be able to tread through the mess lightly. You will ask tough questions and hear very tough answers. You will entrench yourself in the challenges of life and the pain of humanity.

I know, it’s really hard sometimes.

Like all things in life, my sweet child, it can’t all be one way. Every up has a down, and everything light can suddenly shift and feel like the weight of the world.

I just want you to know that I will be there with you, through it all.

Through all of the overwhelm.

Through every sad moment.

Through every heartbreak.

Through every disappointment.

I will be there, to wrap your sensitive little self up in my hugs and love. I can’t take the burden away, but I can help you carry it.


Your sensitive mama

Who says you have to wait for birthdays or holidays to give your bestie a great gift? A sweet surprise that tells her you've been thinking of her might be the pick-me-up she needs in these more-than-trying times. We've rounded up some of our favorite go-to gifts that are certain to be a bright spot in her week. But be warned, you may want to snag a few for yourself. (You deserve it, mama.)

Here are some our favorite "just because" gifts to give our hardworking mama friends.

New Mother face + body care duo

volition face + body care duo

This correcting oil and stretch mark minimizer is perfect for the pregnant mama looking to keep her pregnancy glow. The correcting oil brightens the skin while reducing dark spots, and the stretch mark minimizer works to smooth her ever-growing belly.


Allover roller

esker allover roller

This jade roller goes beyond your typical face roller and can be used anywhere on the body. It works to increase stimulation and reduce puffiness and is perfect for applying any oils to the face or body. Plus, it feels like a mini spa treatment.


Kombucha making kit

farmsteady kombucha making kit

What could be a more perfect gift for the health-obsessed friend? This kombucha making kit comes with everything you need to brew your own homemade green tea kombucha. They'll think this is the tastiest gift ever.


Laetitia lipstick

cupid & psyche laetitia

This red lipstick is perfect for your makeup enthusiast bestie who is looking to spruce up her life in quarantine. Crafted in the United States, these bee and vegan-friendly and cruelty-free lipsticks are created to flatter all complexions. Cupid and Psyche Beauty makes finding the perfect red lip way too easy!


Jigsaw puzzle

inner piecec jigsaw puzzle

Mamas need to destress now more than ever during quarantine. This adorable jigsaw puzzle is perfect for the mama who needs a brain break! The 500-piece puzzle designed by artist Ray Oranges features an abstract gradient design that fits a standard frame when completed. Bonus: It's printed on recycled paper and the company donates $1 from every puzzle sold to youth mindfulness programs.


Matilda's Bloombox

matilda's bloombox

If we have to be stuck inside, we might as well have some gorgeous florals to brighten up the space. Matilda's Bloombox locally sources blooms, delivers them to her door and provides simple tips on how to arrange it into a beautiful bouquet.


'I Am Enough' bracelet

I Am Enough bracelet

Let this dainty bracelet serve as a constant reminder to your bestie that she is enough. She'll wear this on her wrist and read this daily oath to herself, "I Am Enough."


Glow assorted teas

vahdam low assorted teas

This tea gift box set covers the entire spectrum of flavors from sweet to spicy. Individually packaged in beautiful tins, your gal pal will feel like a queen sipping her morning tea. Originally $40, this set is currently on sale for just $24. We'll take two, please.


Find your voice journal

find your voice journal

Journaling is a great way to ease anxiety and will slow your bestie's racing mind before bed. This gift is perfect for first time journalists and includes prompts, daily quotes and coloring pages to help her unlock her potential and find her voice.


Premium frother

shore magic premium frother

This gift is fitting for your latte-sipping bestie who can't go a day without her coffee. All she has to do is add two scoops of collagen to her favorite drink, and she'll have a perfectly foamy drink ready in seconds. Skipping the drive-thru line has never been so easy!


Bath soak infusion kit

maude bath soak infusion kit

Say hello to hydration! She'll be feeling smooth and relaxed as ever after a long bath soaking in these salts. This vegan + cruelty-free set incorporates dead sea salt and dehydrated coconut milk powder for an ultra hydrating experience.


Tiny Tags 'mama' necklace

Tiny Tags 'mama' necklace

It's a hard-earned title she answers to a hundred times per day. Whether she's new to the club or a seasoned professional, this delicate script 'mama' necklace is guaranteed to be a perfect fit.


Superfood honey

Beekeeper's Naturals B.Powered honey

With a lack of sleep and jam-packed days, getting through the afternoon can be a real challenge. Send her a powerful pick-me-up in the form of a therapeutic blend of royal jelly, bee pollen, propolis and raw honey. It makes the ideal companion for tea, smoothies, yogurt or even on its on.


Calming midnight mask with melatonin

Who doesn't deserve a reminder to pamper themself every once in awhile? Even better, this mask does all its work at night while you're sleeping with no extra effort needed. It's an amazing plant-powered antioxidant-packed mask that has melatonin, wild dandelion leaf and hyaluronic acid to rehydrate, repair and reset facial skin. It's so good, you might want to gift it to yourself. We won't tell, mama.


We independently select and share the products we love—and may receive a commission if you choose to buy. You've got this.


One of our main goals as mothers is to encourage our children to learn, grow and play. They start out as our tiny, adorable babies who need us for everything, and somehow, before you know it, they grow into toddlers with ideas and opinions and desires of their own.

You may be hearing a lot more of "I do it!" or maybe they're pushing your hand away as a signal to let you know, I don't need your help, Mama. That's okay. They're just telling you they're ready for more independence. They want to be in charge of their bodies, and any little bit of control their lives and abilities allow.

So, instead of challenging your toddler's desire for autonomy, we found five of our favorite products to help encourage independence—and eliminate frustration in the process.

EKOBO Bamboo 4-piece kid set

EKOBO bamboo 4-piece kid set

This colorful set includes a plate, cup, bowl and spoon and is just right for your child's meal experience. Keep them in an easy-to-reach cabinet so they'll feel encouraged (and excited!) to get their own place setting each time they eat.


Puj PhillUp hangable kids cups

Puj PhillUp hangable kids cups

Before you know it, your little one will be asking (okay, maybe demanding) to fill their own water cups. This amazing 4-pack of cups attaches directly to the fridge (or any glass, metal, tile or fiberglass surface) making it easier for your child to grab a cup themselves. Just be sure a water pitcher or dispenser is nearby, and—boom!—one task off your plate.


Wise Elk puzzle tower blocks

Wise Elk puzzle tower blocks

These beautiful blocks, made from sustainably-sourced wood and water-based, non-toxic, lead-free paint, will keep your little one focused on their creation while they're also busy working on their fine-motor skills. The puzzle design will encourage patience as your kiddo creates their own building, fitting one block in after the next.


Lorena Canals basket

Lorena Canals Basket

This *gorgeous* braided cotton basket is the perfect, accessible home for their blocks (and whatever else you want to hide away!) so your kiddo can grab them (and clean them up) whenever their heart desires.


BABYBJÖRN step stool

BABYBJ\u00d6RN Step Stool

Your kiddo might be ready to take on the world, but they might need an extra boost to do so—cue, a step stool! An easy-to-move lightweight stool is the must-have confidence-boosting tool you need in your home so your growing tot can reach, well... the world.


We independently select and share the products we love—and may receive a commission if you choose to buy. You've got this.


As told to Liz Tenety.

Around the time my husband and I were turning 30, we had a genuine conversation about whether or not we wanted kids. I was the hesitant one because I was like, "Whoa, whoa, whoa, whoa. Let's just hold on. Okay, let's talk about this. Because we love our life. We like traveling. Is this what we want?"

My husband said, "Let's ask our three most pessimistic, crabby friends who have kids whether or not it's worth it."

And every single one of them was like, "Oh, it's unmissable on planet earth."

So when I got pregnant, I was—and I'm not ashamed to say this and I don't think you should be—I was as connected with the baby in my belly as if it were a water bottle. I was like, I don't know you. I don't know what you are, but you can be some gas pain sometimes, but other than that, we're going to have to meet each other and suss this relationship out.

But all the cliches are true that you just know what to do when the baby comes out. Some of the times are hard, some of them are easier, but you just gotta use your gut.

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