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My daughter is everything I ever wanted to be

Her confidence. It is unbroken, yet to be tarnished (god willing never will be) and completely self-generated.

My daughter is everything I ever wanted to be

How can it be that an almost 6-year old already possesses all of the qualities I have yet to find in myself? How can it be that my young daughter is a better person than me? How can it be that the person I admire most in this world is 24 years my junior?


I may be astonished by this, but I am not complaining. Not one ounce of me is embarrassed by this. I could not be prouder of the fact that my little girl is already everything I have wanted to be my whole life.

Why you ask? What is it about her? I'll happily tell you.

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Her confidence. It is unbroken, yet to be tarnished (god willing never will be) and completely self-generated.

Her innocence. She adorns it well and allows it to shield her from others' ever-present pessimism.

Her personality. Which you can't help but notice immediately and for which she never apologizes for.

Her zest for life. It is her trying to get every ounce of excitement and learning from each experience and activity she engages in.

Her yearning for adventure. Sparked and encouraged by her father, it is her desire to seek the journey, accept it and find a way to enjoy each part of it.

Her bravery. It is her willingness to get on stage and dance in front of hundreds of people with no care as to how her dance makes them feel, only how it makes her feel.

Her kindness. It is her welcoming, endearing and generous nature towards those that she knows and those that she doesn't.

Her intelligence and her hard work. It is her thirst for knowledge and the motivation and effort she maintains while gathering such.

Her heart; which is both strong, yet soft. It is her ability to show strength when and towards whom it is needed, but to maintain an endearing naivety and gentleness, simultaneously.

Her willingness to be flexible. It is the fact that she is able to adapt to and navigate unfamiliar or unexpected situations without it becoming a stressor for her.

Her compassion. It is her tenderness towards me and her father, her siblings and others who love her.

Her understanding. Her absolute and somewhat uncanny ability to consistently exude situational awareness, situational acceptance, and act on her awareness of others' need in any given moment.

Her sympathy and empathy for other people. It is her warmth towards her friends and strangers, that is not commonly exemplified by the general public these days.

Her curiosity. It is her inquisitiveness regarding anything and everything that is of interest to her.

Her strength. Which is quite possibly a byproduct of nature and nurture and which shows itself in her patience, in her persistence, in her thoughts and in her overall character.

Her passion. For her family, for her friends, for school and for her dance.

Her drive. To not be the best, but to do her best in absolutely anything she tries, which impressively always puts near the top.

Some people search all their lives to find themselves, while others search all of their lives to find another person to look up to; someone to aspire to be like. I, myself, have been lucky enough to be blessed with a daughter who I look up to and who I aspire to be like.

I am also grateful that spending every day with her, as her mother, is helping me to find myself—the best version of myself.

I've always been someone who is consistently looking to better myself and I have, for a very long time, looked to outside sources for inspiration, motivation and suggestions. Yet, oddly enough, even more than all my "self-help" books, what has contributed to any part of my personal improvement is this young lady.

Some might read this post and say that this is a tribute to my daughter. Some may read the post and see it as a tribute to myself, contending that I should get the credit for raising her to be who she is today.

Here’s what I think.

Rita Pierson has said, "Every child deserves a champion—an adult who will never give up on them, who understands the power of connection, and insists that they become the best that they can possibly be." I agree with this.

But, I also believe that every adult deserves a champion—a child who will never give up on them, who understands the power of connection, and insists they become the best that they can possibly be.

A thank you to my oldest daughter, Payton, for being the best she can possibly be and for being my champion.

These are the best bath time products you can get for under $20

These budget-friendly products really make a splash.

With babies and toddlers, bath time is about so much more than washing off: It's an opportunity for fun, sensory play and sweet bonding moments—with the added benefit of a cuddly, clean baby afterward.

Because bathing your baby is part business, part playtime, you're going to want products that can help with both of those activities. After countless bath times, here are the products that our editors think really make a splash. (Better yet, each item is less than $20!)

Comforts Bath Wash & Shampoo

Comforts Baby Wash & Shampoo

Made with oat extract, this bath wash and shampoo combo is designed to leave delicate skin cleansed and nourished. You and your baby will both appreciate the tear-free formula—so you can really focus on the bath time fun.

Munckin Soft Spot Bath Mat

Munchkin slip mat

When your little one is splish-splashing in the bath, help keep them from also sliding around with a soft, anti-slip bath mat. With strong suction cups to keep it in place and extra cushion to make bath time even more comfortable for your little one, this is an essential in our books.

Comforts Baby Lotion

Comforts baby lotion

For most of us, the bath time ritual continues when your baby is out of the tub when you want to moisturize their freshly cleaned skin. We look for lotions that are hypoallergenic, nourishing and designed to protect their skin.

The First Years Stack Up Cups

First year stack cups

When it comes to bath toys, nothing beats the classic set of stackable cups: Sort them by size, practice pouring water, pile them high—your little one will have fun with these every single bath time.

Comforts Baby Oil

Comforts baby oil

For dry skin that needs a little extra TLC, our team loves Comforts' fast-absorbing baby oil aloe vera and vitamin E. Pro tip: When applied right after drying off your baby, the absorption is even more effective.

KidCo Bath Toy Organizer

KidCo Bath Organizer

Between bathing supplies, wash rags, toys and more, the tub sure can get crowded in a hurry. We like that this organizer gives your little one space to play and bathe while still keeping everything you need within reach.

Another great tip? Shopping the Comforts line on Comfortsforbaby.com to find premium baby products for a fraction of competitors' prices—and follow along on social media to see product releases and news at @comfortsforbaby.

This article was sponsored by The Kroger Co. Thank you for supporting the brands that support Motherly and mamas.

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I never wanted to be a mom. It wasn't something I ever thought would happen until I fell madly in love with my husband—who knew very well he wanted children. While he was a natural at entertaining our nephews or our friends' kids, I would awkwardly try to interact with them, not really knowing what to say or do.

Our first pregnancy was a surprise, a much-wanted one but also a unicorn, "first try" kind of pregnancy. As my belly grew bigger, so did my insecurities. How do you even mom when you never saw motherhood in your future? I focused all my uncertainties on coming up with a plan for the delivery of my baby—which proved to be a terrible idea when my dreamed-of unmedicated vaginal birth turned into an emergency C-section. I couldn't even start motherhood the way I wanted, I thought. And that feeling happened again when I couldn't breastfeed and instead had to pump and bottle-feed. And once more, when all the stress from things not going my way turned into debilitating postpartum anxiety that left me not really enjoying my brand new baby.

As my baby grew, slowly so did my confidence that I could do this. When he would tumble to the ground while learning how to walk and only my hugs could calm him, I felt invincible. But on the nights he wouldn't sleep—whether because he was going through a regression, a leap, a teeth eruption or just a full moon—I would break down in tears to my husband telling him that he was a better parent than me.

Then I found out I was pregnant again, and that this time it was twins. I panicked. I really cannot do two babies at the same time. I kept repeating that to myself (and to my poor husband) at every single appointment we had because I was just terrified. He, of course, thought I could absolutely do it, and he got me through a very hard pregnancy.

When the twins were born at full term and just as big as singleton babies, I still felt inadequate, despite the monumental effort I had made to grow these healthy babies and go through a repeat C-section to make sure they were both okay. I still felt my skin crawl when they cried and thought, What if I can't calm them down? I still turned to my husband for diaper changes because I wasn't a good enough mom for twins.

My husband reminded me (and still does) that I am exactly what my babies need. That I am enough. A phrase that has now become my mantra, both in motherhood and beyond, because as my husband likes to say, I'm the queen of selling myself short on everything.

So when my babies start crying, I tell myself that I am enough to calm them down.

When my toddler has a tantrum, I remind myself that I am enough to get through to him.

When I go out with the three kids by myself and start sweating about everything that could go wrong (poop explosions times three), I remind myself that I am enough to handle it all, even with a little humor.


And then one day I found this bracelet. Initially, I thought how cheesy it'd be to wear a reminder like this on my wrist, but I bought it anyway because something about it was calling my name. I'm so glad I did because since day one I haven't stopped wearing it.

Every time I look down, there it is, shining back at me. I am enough.

I Am Enough bracelet 

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May this Oath Bracelet be your reminder that you are perfect just the way you are. That you are enough for your children, you are enough for your friends & family, you are enough for everything that you do. You are enough, mama <3

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