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Mama needs help, but she's not going to ask.

Because she thinks she should be able to do it all.

Even though she's one person, she thinks she alone should calm all the temper tantrums.

Answer all the work emails.

Clean all the rooms.

Make all the deadlines.

Schedule all the appointments.

Organize all the playdates.

But the truth is, it's exhausting to manage everything on her plate. On average, mothers work 98 hours a week. Throw in the mental load of motherhood (she's solving parenting dilemmas in her sleep, too) and you have a recipe for serious burnout.

Motherhood is meaningful and beautiful, but it's exhaustingly unrelenting.


Mama needs help.

Here are 50 ways you can lighten a mother's load. She might not ask for help, but if she did, this is exactly what she would want—

Partner with me

1. Be a true and equal partner

Women work more during the week (most of it unpaid home/ child-care work), do more chores on the weekend and burden more of the mental load of parenthood than most men. To my partner—please realize how much I am doing and find new ways to make this more equal for both of us. Even if you're away at work during the day, there is appointment-scheduling/item-purchasing/family management work you can do. Let's find more ways to be equal partners in this important mission of raising a family.

2. Be my village

Historically, women raised their families in the same homes and communities as their sisters, aunts, uncles, grandparents and extended relatives. We had extra people, warm hearts and lots of helping hands to do all the work of raising a family. Today, many moms are doing it alone, far away from where they grew up. Please reach out to ask how you can help—even across the miles. We need lots of support and I'd love your help, but only if you ask.

3. Make schools more family-friendly

Please understand that every complicated homework assignment you send home that my kid can't complete on his own becomes one more task on my list. Please don't assume that class parents are “class moms." Please make meeting times more friendly for working parents so that more moms and dads can attend. Consider start times and dismissal times that account for realities of modern family life. The more you can do to recognize everything mothers already have on their plates, and how to encourage more participation from fathers in the school environment—the better. It will help moms, dads and their families.

4. Make churches + places of worship welcoming

My kids are squirmy. They squawk. They need to breastfeed in the middle of services. Please don't side-eye me. Please don't tell me you wish I didn't come. (True story: that happened.) Please offer a friendly smile, a “good job, mom" and family-friendly amenities (changing tables, kids services, accessible walkways). I need this time to center myself. Make sure we feel welcome.

5. Send me all the delivery services

My actual partner in crime? THE UPS GUY. I haven't met a delivery service I didn't love. Grocery deliveries? Done. Stitch Fix? I'm wearing it. Diaper subscription? Bought it. If there can be a delivery service for it, I want it. I'm basically never leaving home again. (Looking at you, Starbucks...) ☕️

Encourage me

6. Speak words of affirmation

This whole motherhood thing is so much harder than I thought it was going to be. (Mom, how did you make it look so easy?) When you say, “You're a wonderful mother" and, “You're such a patient parent" I feel like I'm on the right path—and your positivity becomes the encouraging voice in my head on the very hard days.

7. Acknowledge my workload

Ask about my recent work trip. Recognize when I'm up late finishing tasks to help my family. Commend me on getting my kids to school with their pants on. (Not always the easiest task!) Motherhood is long and hard and my work can feel invisible. You encourage me when you acknowledge how much work I'm doing for myself, my kids and my whole family.

8. Show me some affection

I might be touched-out but there's nothing like a sincere bear hug from someone who knows you, loves you, and thinks you're doing awesome. Hug me. Squeeze me. Mean it.

9. Send me a note

You know that happy dance you do when you get a little ray of sunshine sent in the form of a “thinking of you" note to your mailbox? Those thoughtful gestures make me feel loved and remembered—and remind me that there is a world beyond my messy, tiring house run by tiny people. Thank you.

10. Assure me everything is okay and my kids are normal

Sometimes it feels like I'm a one-woman ringmaster and my kids are the circus. Assure me that this hard work and sacrifice and chaos isn't just worth it—it's normal.

Give me a break

11. Surprise me with an hour/night/weekend/week off

Show up. Take the kids. Whether it's for an hour, a day, a weekend or a week—you'll be my hero—forever. It's not that I don't love my kids, it's just that the work of motherhood is never-ending. This surprise break will help me rest and be the mom I want to be.

12. Say 'I've got bedtime tonight'

No seriously—there are no sexier words in the English language. Take over bedtime tonight (and every night?) and I'll feel ready to go to bed earlier, be done with evening chores sooner, and wake up refreshed thanks to the bonus snooze time.

13. Buy me a pedicure/massage/hair treatment

Splurging on myself used to be my thing—but lately I have to pay for pediatrician co-pays, organic chicken, preschool tuition, sky-high childcare, clothes my kids outgrow every six months, developmentally-appropriate toys, a replacement car seat cover after #theincident, gymnastic classes, kids seats on the airplane and toothbrushes that mysteriously disappear. While I need wellness treatments more than ever, my budget isn't in alignment. Help a sister out?

14. Ask me to plan my dream vacation

Studies show that the mere act of planning a vacation can relieve stress. If the budget allows, ask me what kind of getaway would leave me feeling rejuvenated. Time to bond as a family? Time alone to sleep late and think deep thoughts? Either can work. Plus, it doesn't have to be a fancy getaway to the tropics—even a few days stay-cation without kids would feel like the life of luxury. But let a girl dream.

15. Better yet—just plan the trip for me

I have a ton on my plate. If you haven't noticed, putting myself first isn't exactly my specialty. If you could step in and plan a relaxing getaway, confirm it on my calendar, and take care of the childcare logistics to make it happen, you'll be my forever hero.

Clean all the things

Just going to leave my never-ending list here below. Studies say that EVEN WHEN MOMS WORK FULL TIME, they do more housework than their male partners. If you really want to lighten a mother's mental load, can someone other than mom clean something? Everything?

16. Laundry

It never ends. HELP.

17. All surfaces + floors

Why are they so sticky? Wait, on second thought—I don't want to know.

18. Fridge

Things just get lost in there, man.

19. Car

It's basically a coffee cup and Cheerios storage center

20. Email inbox, if you dare

^Enough said.

Notice *me*

21. Don't just ask about my kids

After you ask “How are the kids doing?" ask me how I'm doing, too. (Please.) Since becoming a mom, I feel like I've become a little bit invisible—like, “Meet Liz, the human who brought you this child."

22. Ask me about how I spend my days, not if I'm “'just' a mom"

If you know I work a job, ask how it's going. Inquire about the new project I'm working on or that new passion project I'm throwing myself into. If I'm a stay-at-home mom, ask me about how I spend my days and what I love to do outside of being a mom. Show me you're interested in who I am as a person.

23. Keep me company

Listen without trying to solve anything. Be present in my life, even without specific hangout plans. Be a warm body when I'm feeling lonely. (And new motherhood can feel REALLY lonely.) Be present for me physically.

24. Ask for my opinion about something other than my kids

Don't get me wrong, I love my children more than anything and have very strong opinions about my favorite toddler products, but I'd love to be asked about my life outside of motherhood. I have done a lot of reading recently on [insert important political topic here] and I'd love to talk with you about it. But I feel almost-invisible when I'm only asked about my kids. Hello, real life adult human person here!

25. Specific compliments go a long way

You love my dress? Thank you! I haven't felt like a fashionista since 2008 but it's so appreciated. Adore my parenting style? Let me know! It will encourage me during the hard days. I need to hear that I'm doing something right in this challenging day-to-day life—so your compliments are oh-so appreciated.

Nourish me

26. Drop a fully made meal off

I am a one-woman cafeteria staff. These kids want to eat all. the. time. Not to mention how often I long for the days when 50 dishes weren't piled in my sink at all times. If you ever drop a meal off for me, I'd consider it the best ring + run of my life.

27. Run to the grocery store for me

Heading to Trader Joe's? Text me and ask if I need anything. Chances are I'm running of that ONE THING and skipping a grocery trip is a dream come true.

28. Take me out to eat

Better yet, just take me out to dinner. No planning, no clean up, no dishes to put away. THIS IS MY FAVORITE OPTION.

29. Nourish me in other ways, like a favorite podcast

I don't just need to be nourished by food—I need to feel like my brain is firing on all cylinders, too. Inspiring messages help fuel me. If you have any amazing podcast, send it my way. (I love Oprah's Super Soul Conversations—so enlightening!)

30. Inspire me with an awesome article

Not to brag, but Motherly has more than its share of pick-me-up pieces to inspire moms through the hardest days. Did you read one and think of me? I'd love to see it.

Change the system

31. Paid maternity leave

The fact that one-quarter of women head back to work out of economic necessity within two weeks of giving birth is a profound tragedy. Dozens of studies prove that providing paid leave to new mothers benefits mother, child, family and society in the long run. Let's finally do it, America.

32. And paid paternity leave

Paid leave for dads isn't just great for that father-child bond, it actually helps mothers. “Fathers taking parental leave helps not just children but moms, too, by changing who changes the diapers and the whole culture around work and family," a government report found. And studies show that women whose partners can take paid leave actually benefit professionally, since those dads are more likely to take on household duties in general and support a woman's career.

33. Accommodate family-friendly practices like flex work

Just because your company has always expected people to sit in a chair and work 9-5 doesn't mean that it must be that way. It's time to accommodate flex schedules and remote work for men and for women. It makes economic sense, too—and will help me fulfill my goals at home and at work.

34. End the “mommy penalty"

It's time to change the narrative around working motherhood and stop punishing talented women for becoming moms. Mothers are offered, on average, 16% less pay than non-mothers, because of an assumption that they would be less committed to their jobs. Yet other studies have found that moms of multiple kids are actually the MOST efficient workers.

35. Support stay-at-home moms

Many stay -at-home moms are highly educated. Some stay home out of economic necessity. Still others are taking time off from work with the intention of one day on-ramping back. It's time to support mothers regardless of what choice they make surrounding work—with no judgment, only understanding and an empathetic ear.

Improve parenting culture

36. Say goodbye to guilt

Whether you're a SAHM or a working mom or somewhere in between, our culture burdens women with feelings of guilt for whatever they choose. Let's make this millennial generation the generation that ditches guilt for good. We're all doing the very best we can, choosing the right thing for our families.

37. Stop the mom shaming

Let's be the generation that ends mom shaming for good.

38. Use social media for good

Ever see an innocent Facebook thread devolve into criticism,negativity and judgment of another mother? We're over it. Let's use the power of social media to encourage and lift other moms up. Be the Facebook 'like' you want to see in the world.

39. Get dads fully onboard

Parenthood is a team sport. Let's empower men to step into spaces previously only occupied by women. Let's stop gatekeeping and start inviting men, even if they change diapers differently or dress kids in “unique" outfits.

40. Pat ourselves on the back

PARENTING IS HARD. But you already know this. Let's celebrate the days you get to school on time or get your kids to eat vegetables. Because even on the most average of days, moms are clocking in 16 hours of childcare or work. Parenting is a relentless task, for decades on end. You're doing AMAZING, mama.

Be my friend—or my lover

41. Be my mom friend

So many days, I feel super lonely. Even though we're all in this together, sometimes it feels like motherhood incredibly isolating. I might need you to reach out, to invite me to join your playgroup, or to meet you for lunch at Chic-Fil-A. I might need you to suggest we go out for drinks, or even to drag me to Barre class.

42. Introduce me to your mom friends

The next best thing to being my friend is to introduce me to your tribe. If you've already found a group of girls who just GET IT, I want in. Perhaps I've moved to a new place and don't have a social network. Maybe all my friends don't yet have kids. Letting me into your friend group is clutch—thank you for the book club, group date night, or post-dropoff hangout.

43. Support me from afar

Even if we don't live nearby, I so value the support I get from friends. Your long-distance texts to check-in, make me laugh, and encourage me mean THE WORLD. Even if I write back a day (or a week later), it makes me feel so loved to know I've got support coming in from all around.

44. Encourage my hobbies

These days, it seems like I don't have time for fun. I used to cook! Paint! Write poetry! Go running! But too often, I don't make time for the things that truly recharge me.

45. Date night

I know it's a cliche, but I still need date night. I need time to connect with my partner. I need a reason to feel like my sexy self again. I need WINE AND CHEESE and no screaming children nearby. I know it's expensive to go out. I know we're super busy. I know we're exhausted. But we need this.

Last but not least: Fuel me

46. Water

Gotta stay hydrated but I often remember to hydrate everyone but me.

47. Wine


48. Coffee


49. Coffeeeee

At all times.


Starbucks delivery please!

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When it comes to holiday gifts, we know what you really want, mama. A full night's sleep. Privacy in the bathroom. The opportunity to eat your dinner while it's still hot. Time to wash—and dry!—your hair. A complete wardrobe refresh.

While we can't help with everything on your list (we're still trying to figure out how to get some extra zzz's ourselves), here are 14 gift ideas that'll make you look, if not feel, like a whole new woman. Even when you're sleep deprived.

Gap Cable-Knit Turtleneck Sweater

When winter hits, one of our go-to outfits will be this tunic-length sweater and a pair of leggings. Warm and everyday-friendly, we can get behind that.


Gap Cigarette Jeans

These high-waisted straight-leg jeans have secret smoothing panels to hide any lumps and bumps (because really, we've all got 'em).


Tiny Tags Gold Skinny Bar Necklace

Whether engraved with a child's name or date of birth, this personalized necklace will become your go-to piece of everyday jewelry.


Gap Brushed Pointelle Crew

This wear-with-anything soft pink sweater with delicate eyelet details can be dressed up for work or dressed down for weekend time with the family. Versatility for the win!


Gap Flannel Pajama Set

For mamas who sleep warm, this PJ set offers the best of both worlds: cozy flannel and comfy shorts. Plus, it comes with a coordinating eye mask for a blissed-out slumber.


Spafinder Gift Card

You can't give the gift of relaxation, per say, but you can give a gift certificate for a massage or spa service, and that's close enough!


Gap Stripe Long Sleeve Crewneck

This featherweight long-sleeve tee is the perfect layering piece under hoodies, cardigans, and blazers.


Gap Chenille Smartphone Gloves

Gone are the days of removing toasty gloves before accessing our touchscreen devices—thank goodness!


Ember Temperature Control Smart Mug

Make multiple trips to the microwave a thing of the past with a app-controlled smart mug that'll keep your coffee or tea at the exact temperature you prefer for up to an hour.


Gap Flannel Shirt

Our new favorite flannel boasts an easy-to-wear drapey fit and a flattering curved shirttail hem.


Gap Sherpa-Lined Denim Jacket

Stay warm while looking cool in this iconic jean jacket, featuring teddy bear-soft fleece lining and a trendy oversized fit.


Gap Crazy Stripe Scarf

Practical and stylish, this cozy scarf adds a pop of color—well, colors—to any winter ensemble.


Nixplay Seed Frame

This digital picture frame is perfect for mamas who stay up late scrolling through their phone's photo album to glimpse their kiddos being adorable. By sending them to this smart frame to view throughout the day, you can get a few extra minutes of sleep at night!


Gap Crewneck Sweater

Busy mamas will appreciate that this supersoft, super versatile Merino wool sweater is machine washable.


This article was sponsored by GAP. Thank you for supporting the brands that support Motherly and Mamas.

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There's a lot of discussion about the importance of early education—but what about soft skills like respect and kindness? How can mamas teach children important values like cooperation, gratitude, empathy or politeness?

These values are basic, foundational beliefs that help us know right from wrong, that give balance and meaning to life and that enable us to form community bonds with one another. These soft skills are crucial for kids to learn at any age, and it's important for them to be reinforced, both in the classroom and at home, throughout their childhood.

Here are fundamental ways to build character in your young children:


Performing random acts of kindness can have a positive influence on both the individual showing and receiving the kindness. As a family, think of ways that each one of you can show kindness to others. Some ideas may include baking cookies for the mail carrier, donating an unopened toy to a local charity, purchasing canned goods for a homeless shelter or leaving notes and drawings for the neighbors. Include your child in the process so they can see firsthand the joy that kindness can bring to others.



Children have a strong desire to mimic adult family members. Encourage your child to help complete simple chores in and around the house. Children feel a great sense of accomplishment when they can do their share and feel that sense of responsibility. Two-year-olds will enjoy folding towels, putting books away, putting paper in the recycling box and tending to the garden. Older children may enjoy helping out in the kitchen or with yard work.


Patience is the ability to demonstrate self-control while waiting for an event to occur. It also refers to the ability to remain calm in the face of frustration. This is a skill which develops in children as they mature. While it is important to practice patience, adults should also be realistic in their expectations, evaluate daily routines and eliminate long periods of wait time from the schedule.


Schedule a time when the whole family can sit down together for dinner. Model good manners and encourage older siblings and other members of the family to do the same. Use phrases such as, "Can you please pass the potatoes?" or "Thank you." Be sure to provide your child with guidance, by explaining what to do as opposed to what not to do.


Change your routines at home to encourage children to be flexible in their thinking and to try new things. Try being flexible in the small things: enjoy breakfast for dinner, eat ice cream with a fork, have your child read a bedtime story to you or have a picnic in the living room. Let your child know it is okay to do things in a different way.


Children are beginning to understand different emotions and that others have feelings. Throughout their childhood, talk about their feelings and share one's own feeling with them as well. By taking the time to listen to how children are feeling, you will demonstrate to them that you care and reinforce with them that you fully understand how they are feeling.


Coordinate playdates or take your children to events where they can practice introducing themselves to other children, and potentially with adults. Find games and other activities that require turn-taking and sharing.


Encourage your child to spend five minutes every day listing the things they are grateful for. This could be done together just before bedtime or after dinner.


As parents, our goal is to teach children to recognize that even though people have different likes and dislikes or beliefs and ideas, they must treat each other with manners and positivity. Respect should be shown when sharing, cleaning up, and listening to others. Always teach and model the Golden Rule: treat others the way you would like to be treated. Also remind children that respect can be shown towards things in the classroom. Treating materials and toys correctly shows appreciation for the things we have.
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Medical researchers and providers consider a woman's postpartum period to be up to 12 months after the delivery of baby, but too often, health insurance doesn't see it the same way. Nearly half of the births in the United States are covered by Medicaid or the Children's Health Insurance Program (CHIP) and while the babies who are born during these births are eligible for Medicaid or CHIP for a year, their mothers often lose their coverage 60 days after delivering their child. There is clear data showing 70% of new moms will have at least one health complication within a year of giving birth.


This week, members of Congress' Subcommittee on Health met to mark up H.R. 4996, the "Helping Medicaid Offer Maternity Services (MOMS) Act of 2019, and it was favorably forwarded to the full Committee.

What does this mean? It means that while this bill still has a ways to go before it potentially becomes law, its success would see states get the option to provide 12 months of continuous coverage postpartum coverage to mothers on Medicaid. This would save lives.

As we at Motherly have said many times, it takes a considerable amount of time and energy to heal from birth. A mother may not be healed 60 days out from delivering. She may still require medical care for perinatal mood disorders, breast issues like thrush and mastitis, diabetes, and the consequences of traumatic births, like severe vaginal tearing.

Cutting off Medicaid when her baby is only 2 months old makes mom and baby vulnerable, and the Helping Moms Act could protect families from dire consequences.

The United States has the highest rate of maternal deaths in the developed world, and according to the CDC, "about 700 women die each year in the United States as a result of pregnancy or delivery complications." This is not okay, and while H.R. 4996 is not yet signed into law this bill could help change this. It could help address the racial disparities that see so many Black mothers and Native American mothers dying from preventable causes in the first year of motherhood.

A report from nine American maternal mortality review committees found that there were three leading causes of death that occurred between 43 days and one year postpartum: cardiomyopathy (32.4%), mental health conditions (16.2%), and embolism (10.8%) and multiple state maternal mortality review committees have recommended extending Medicaid coverage to one year postpartum in order to prevent these deaths.

Basically, making sure that moms have have continuous access to health care the year after a birth means doctors can spot issues with things like depression, heart disease and high blood pressure at regular check-ups and treat these conditions before they become fatal.

The Helping Moms Act is a step forward in the fight for maternal health and it proves that maternal health is truly a bipartisan issue. Republicans and Democrats alike recognize the value in providing support for mothers during the postpartum period.

The Helping MOMS Act was was introduced by Democratic Congresswoman Robin Kelly of Illinois, chair of the Congressional Black Caucus Health Braintrust. It was co-lead by Texas Republican Michael Burgess (who is also a medical doctor), as well as Georgia Republican Buddy Carter, Washington Republicans Jaime Herrera Beutler and Cathy McMorris Rodgers and Ayanna Pressley from Massachusettes and Lauren Underwood of Illinois (both Democrats).

"Incentivizing postpartum Medicaid expansion is a critical first step in preventing maternal deaths by ensuring new moms can see their doctor. I'm proud that my colleagues, on both sides of the aisle, came together to put an end to the sad reality of American moms dying while growing their families," said Kelly. "We can't allow the perfect to be the enemy of the good. This is a good, bipartisan first step, but it must be the first of many."

It doesn't matter what your political stripes, reducing America's maternal mortality stats should be a priority.


Whether you're having a low-key Friendsgiving with your closest friends or prepping to host your first big Thanksgiving dinner with both families, figuring out all of the menu details can be the most overwhelming step. How much should I cook? What ingredients do I need? How does one actually cook a turkey this big?

But, don't worry, mama—HelloFresh is lending a helping hand this year with their Thanksgiving box in collaboration with Jessica Alba. Because you already have enough on your plate (and we're not talking stuffing).

Here are the details. You can choose from two Thanksgiving boxes: Turkey ($152) or beef tenderloin ($132). The turkey box serves 8-10 people while the beef one will serve 4-6 and both are $6.99 to ship. We got to try both and they're equally delicious so you can't go wrong with either one, but the turkey does require a 4-day thaw period so keep that in mind. And if you're wondering what the sides are, here's a sneak peek:

  • Garlic mashed potatoes
  • Green bean casserole with crispy onions
  • Ciabatta stuffing with chick sausage and cranberries
  • Cranberry sauce with orange, ginger and cinnamon
  • Apple ginger crisp with cinnamon pecan crumble

While someone still has to do the actual cooking, it's designed to take the stress out of Thanksgiving dinner so you can focus on spending time with your loved ones (or watching Hallmark Christmas movies). You don't have to worry about grocery shopping, portion sizes, recipe curation or forgetting that essential thing you needed to make the meal perfect. Everything is super simple to make from start to finish—it even comes with a cooking timeline.

Orders are open through November 21 and can be delivered anytime through November 24. Even better? You don't need a subscription to order.


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My mother's death propelled me to start the process of becoming a parent as a 43-year-old single woman. As my connection to her remained strong in spirit after her death, I was ready to experience the same bond with my own child. I began the journey with Intra Uterine Insemination (IUI), and after three failed attempts at getting pregnant, I decided to adopt.

The adoption process is a lengthy and humbling one—one that includes fingerprints, background checks, references, classes, doing a profile of yourself and your life that birth parents eventually use to choose adoptive families.

After my application was approved, a young couple chose me just a month later. I couldn't believe my fortune. But I had to get to work and prepare the house for my baby's arrival. I bought the best of everything—bassinets, clothes, diapers, car seats… the list goes on. I told close friends and family that it was finally happening.


But all of this was in vain. The day I was supposed to pick my daughter up, I learned that the birth parents had changed their minds. They no longer wanted to give their daughter up for adoption. As time passed, it was difficult to endure no interest from potential parents but the faith in believing what is meant to be continued. To increase my potential, I enrolled with a second adoption agency.

A few months later, as I was getting ready to try IVF for the first time, I received a phone call to let me know that a woman had selected me to adopt her child. So I opted out of IVF and found myself in a hospital delivery room with the birth mother, assisting her in the delivery of MY child. It was a boy! I was so thrilled, and he was just adorable.

After six years of losses and disappointments, I was able to bring him home and awaited the final word that the mother and father have given the needed consent. I was getting ready to watch the Super Bowl with him dressed in football gear, I got a phone call.

Once again, the adoption agency informed me that the birth mother had changed her mind. That evening, I had to return the baby to his birth mom. I was heartbroken, and my hopes were shattered.

What now? Going back to IVF meant starting from scratch, and that would take a minimum of six months before being able to really start getting pregnant. I was 49 years old, and the clock was ticking. I really wanted to be a mom by the age of 50.

I was in Chicago, recovering from a collapsed lung, when I received yet another phone call from the adoption agency. An expecting mom had chosen me and had already signed over all of her rights. This little girl was mine. For real, this time. But I had to get to Southern New Jersey by Thursday to pick her up from the hospital.

After negotiating with my doctor to give me the green light to leave while recovering from my condition, I hopped on a train, and 22 hours later, I arrived to New York City in a massive snow storm. I took longer than expected to get to her, but after navigating the icy roads of New Jersey, I met my daughter!

She is now 2 years old, and she has changed my life in ways that just can't be fully described. What I can say is that I now understand my mother's love even more and her devotion to me and my siblings, and as I am sharing the same with my daughter, my bond to my mother keeps on growing.

Becoming a mom at 49 was never what I had envisioned. But whether you are trying to conceive or have decided to adopt a child, the road to becoming a parent is rarely easy. I know that inner strength and believing in what was meant to be kept me moving forward.

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