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Just in case no one told you today— you are special, mama

We all want to be reminded that we are special and worthy, and that we make a difference in the lives of those around us.

Just in case no one told you today— you are  special, mama

If there is one thing everyone everywhere wants, it is to feel special.


I have news for you: You are.

It's easy to forget. It's easy to get lost in the day-to-day hustle and bustle of things and forget that you have worth.

It's easy to feel left behind when there are chores to do, meals to cook, places to go, work to be done.

It's easy to feel that we are solely in this workplace, this family, this life to do things for everyone else—even if it means forgetting to honor ourselves.

It's easy, but it's not okay.

Last week, Tween Queen and I had a Mom/TQ Day. She got to play hooky and have Mom all to herself for the entire day. She chose the activities we did, the foods we ate, and pretty much called all the shots with no nagging from moi.

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We watched YouTube, ate sushi, played with animals, went to the mall, ate subs, and came home at bedtime. I lavished my attention only on her, and she ate it up, right along with the sushi.

She's a lovely, responsible, kind and witty 12-year-old—and even if she wasn't, she would deserve such a day. A day where she is reminded that she means the world to me and that I completely and wholeheartedly love being her mother.

Today Little Princess and I had a Mommy/LP Day. Same deal: She ruled the roost. She, ahem, skipped school, we went to the library, got McD's, went to the park, went to Toys-R Us, and got to choose our evening meal—breakfast for dinner. She got all my attention and full focus today, and she soaked it all up.

She is an amazing, fun, sweet, hilarious 4-year-old—and, again, even if she wasn't, she would also deserve such a day. A day where she, too, is comforted in the knowledge that she is one of my dreams come true and that being her mommy means so very much to me.

Whether we admit it or not, we all crave this kind of attention and affection.

We all want to be reminded that we are special and worthy, that we make a difference in the lives of those around us.

We want to know that, even though there are many days we share everyone and everything around us, we aren't lost in the shuffle.

We want to know that we stand out and are cherished and treasured. It's not a weakness, it's a requirement.

I try to do these kinds of things with my girls every so often. Spend some special time with each of them, just the two of us. And it dawned on me that we all deserve that.

Me, I deserve it—I deserve someone to remind me I matter.

My hot husband, he deserves it. Even when he's annoying and I don't feel like admitting it—he deserves to be reminded that he is irreplaceable.

Our parents, our siblings, our friends near and far, they all deserve to be shown how much they mean to us. Whether it's a card, a call, or a day out, make it a priority to let them know that your life is better because of them.

And you. You are worthy, too. You should feel cared for and appreciated right along with everyone else—don't forget that you matter, too.

Life gets busy.

We mean to call and we don't.

We mean to get together, and we keep putting it off.

We mean to consciously pay attention to one another, and we get sidetracked. That's just how it is sometimes.

So tell those close to you how much they are loved. Take some time to visit, to chat, to share coffee and catch up. We truly do have the time and means to do the things we place the most importance on.

It's only when we get our priorities confused that we place our relationships on the back burner.

Let's get them back where they belong.

Original article by Sheri Schooleyon for Moms & Stories.

Every week, we stock the Motherly Shop with innovative and fresh products from brands we feel good about. We want to be certain you don't miss anything, so to keep you in the loop, we're providing a cheat sheet.

So, what's new this week?

Tenth & Pine: Gender-neutral and butter-soft basics for littles + bigs

In 2016, after a stage four endometriosis diagnosis and a 10 year battle with infertility, Tenth & Pine founder Kerynn got her miracle baby, Ezra Jade. As a SAHM with a Masters in Business, she wanted to create a brand that focused on premium quality, function, comfort, and simplicity.

She sought out premium, all natural fabrics and factories that shared her core values, practicing environmentally friendly manufacturing methods with fair and safe working conditions for employees. As a result, her made in the USA, gender-neutral designs check all the boxes. The sustainable, organic basics are perfect for everyday wear, family photos and any adventure in between.

Lucy Lue Organics: Sustainably and ethically-produced modern baby clothes

This family-owned and operated business was started by a mama who wanted out of corporate America after the birth of her son. Thoughtfully designed to mix-and-match, Lucy Lue's sustainably and ethically produced collection of modern organic baby clothes only uses fabrics that are "environmentally friendly from seed to seam." Their gorgeous, earthy tones and comfy, minimalist styles make the perfect addition to first wardrobes from birth through the first years.

Sontakey: Simple bracelets that speak your mind

Sontakey has been such a hit in the Motherly Shop that we knew it was time to expand the line. And since these beautiful mantra bands look so stunning stacked, more options = more fun.

Not sure where to start? Here's what we're adding to our cart:

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Motherly editors’ 7 favorite hacks for organizing their diaper bags

Make frantically fishing around for a diaper a thing of the past!

As any parent knows, the term "diaper bag" only scratches the surface. In reality, this catchall holds so much more: a change of clothes, bottles, snacks, wipes and probably about a dozen more essential items.

Which makes finding the exact item you need, when you need it (read: A diaper when you're in public with a blowout on your hands) kind of tricky.

That's why organization is the name of the game when it comes to outings with your littles. We pooled the Motherly team of editors to learn some favorite hacks for organizing diaper bags. Here are our top tips.

1. Divide and conquer with small bags

Here's a tip we heard more than a few times: Use smaller storage bags to organize your stuff. Not only is this helpful for keeping related items together, but it can also help keep things from floating around in the expanse of the larger diaper bag. These bags don't have to be anything particularly fancy: an unused toiletry bag, pencil case or even plastic baggies will work.

2. Have an emergency changing kit

When you're dealing with a diaper blowout situation, it's not the time to go searching for a pack of wipes. Instead, assemble an emergency changing kit ahead of time by bundling a change of baby clothes, a fresh diaper, plenty of wipes and hand sanitizer in a bag you can quickly grab. We're partial to pop-top wipes that don't dry out or get dirty inside the diaper bag.

3. Simplify bottle prep

Organization isn't just being able to find what you need, but also having what you need. For formula-feeding on the go, keep an extra bottle with the formula you need measured out along with water to mix it up. You never know when your outing will take longer than expected—especially with a baby in the mix!

4. Get resealable snacks

When getting out with toddlers and older kids, snacks are the key to success. Still, it isn't fun to constantly dig crumbs out of the bottom of your diaper bag. Our editors love pouches with resealable caps and snacks that come in their own sealable containers. Travel-sized snacks like freeze-dried fruit crisps or meal-ready pouches can get an unfair reputation for being more expensive, but that isn't the case with the budget-friendly Comforts line.

5. Keep a carabiner on your keychain

You'll think a lot about what your child needs for an outing, but you can't forget this must-have: your keys. Add a carabiner to your keychain so you can hook them onto a loop inside your diaper bag. Trust us when we say it's a much better option than dumping out the bag's contents on your front step to find your house key!

6. Bundle your essentials

If your diaper bag doubles as your purse (and we bet it does) you're going to want easy access to your essentials, too. Dedicate a smaller storage bag of your diaper bag to items like your phone, wallet and lip balm. Then, when you're ready to transfer your items to a real purse, you don't have to look for them individually.

7. Keep wipes in an outer compartment

Baby wipes aren't just for diaper changes: They're also great for cleaning up messy faces, wiping off smudges, touching up your makeup and more. Since you'll be reaching for them time and time again, keep a container of sensitive baby wipes in an easily accessible outer compartment of your bag.

Another great tip? Shop the Comforts line on www.comfortsforbaby.com to find premium baby products for a fraction of competitors' prices. Or, follow @comfortsforbaby for more information!

This article was sponsored by The Kroger Co. Thank you for supporting the brands that supporting Motherly and mamas.

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When Chrissy Teigen announced her third pregnancy earlier this year we were so happy for her and now our hearts are with her as she is going through a pain that is unimaginable for many, but one that so many other mothers know.

Halfway through a high-risk pregnancy complicated by placenta issues, Teigen announced late Wednesday that she has suffered a pregnancy loss.

Our deepest condolences go out to Chrissy and her husband, John Legend (who has been by her side in the hospital for several days now).

In a social media post, Teigen explained she named this baby Jack.

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"We are shocked and in the kind of deep pain you only hear about, the kind of pain we've never felt before. We were never able to stop the bleeding and give our baby the fluids he needed, despite bags and bags of blood transfusions. It just wasn't enough," she wrote.

She continued: "We never decide on our babies' names until the last possible moment after they're born, just before we leave the hospital. But we, for some reason, had started to call this little guy in my belly Jack. So he will always be Jack to us. Jack worked so hard to be a part of our little family, and he will be, forever."

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