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This pregnant doctor's tweet is going viral because it shows what they're going through right now

"I've heard from so many pregnant HCWs across the country in the past week who are being asked to make impossible decisions right now," tweets Dr. Kate Otto Chebly.

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Parents everywhere who are deemed essential employees—like nurses, doctors and other healthcare workers—are still going into work every day to do their jobs caring for sick patients as the coronavirus-infected numbers continue to rise. These people are putting themselves in direct line of contact with the coronavirus, on the front lines of fighting this pandemic.

Parents in medicine are sharing stories about self-isolating from their families, not having enough personal protective equipment, and for pregnant medical employees—they're talking about how the safety of their unborn babies is a top worry for them, not to mention their own health and what their birth might look like now in this new COVID-19 world. The sacrifices they're making absolutely qualify them for #herostatus in our books.

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Yesterday, Dr. Kate Otto Chebly tweeted out a photo of her co-worker and herself suited up in their scrubs and face masks, cradling their bumps as they report for duty, in solidarity with the many other pregnant medical employees in the world.

She said, "A quick note to say: pregnant healthcare workers, we see you and we appreciate you! As a physician and mama navigating this new COVID era, it's been quite a week."

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It sure has been. As we all try to navigate this new normal, Dr. Kate Otto Chebly shared how there's another level of fear and worry for pregnant medical staff members. She wrote about the "impossible decisions" pregnant healthcare workers are being asked to make in the middle of this pandemic, the "daunting" (and possible) scenario of giving birth alone and the "high stakes" associated with trying to strike a balance in this strange new COVID-19 world we're living in—what risks to take and which they're not comfortable with, based on their pregnancies.

Dr. Otto tweets:

"I've heard from so many pregnant HCWs across the country in the past week who are being asked to make impossible decisions right now.

"Do I keep working on the frontlines even without adequate PPE, enduring anxiety over the unknown consequences of my choice? Or do I step away from work entirely, feeling as though I've abandoned my colleagues and patients at a critical time (and being unpaid in the meantime)?

"Even for those able to arrange safer work conditions, many have partners who are HCWs exposed to COVID daily, and must now live separately from their loved one to optimize safety, at the expense of lacking essential prenatal social support.

"On top of this, many hospitals are now initiating no-visitor policies for prenatal care and even for women in labor. And while HCWs deeply understand these measures needed to stop the spread of COVID, giving birth alone feels like an impossibly daunting ask.

"Balancing mother/physician roles is a challenge at baseline: we are devoted to the beloved little human within us, and we are committed to our dear patients around us. How to ever get that balance just right?

"This is a universal working-parent dilemma, but in our bizarre new realities, finding the right balance feels even higher stakes."

We can't even imagine the heartache these parents are feeling right now as they sleep without their loved ones, as they worry about their health, as the pressure mounts for them to quickly and effectively care for their patients as hospitals fill up. The stress pregnant healthcare workers are feeling must be incredibly high.

We want to thank all of you for your service and sacrifice. Our hearts go out to each and every one of you in this uncertain and unsettling time. You are brave and incredibly selfless—and we see you, too.

And as Dr. Kate Otto Chebly says, "Keep making the decisions that are right for you and your family." Because that's all you can do right now, mama. There's no judgement here, only support.

Dr. Otto Chebly ends her Twitter thread with a pep talk we're sure all mama-healthcare workers can use right about now. "So for every mama-HCW navigating this new world: you are seen and appreciated. You are not alone. You are tough and you will persevere. Wishing you strength, health, and peace as we progress together!"

We wish you all the same. Including you, Dr. Kate!

I felt lost as a new mother, but babywearing helped me find myself again

I wish someone had told me before how special wearing your baby can be, even when you have no idea how to do it.

My first baby and I were alone in our Brooklyn apartment during a particularly cold spring with yet another day of no plans. My husband was back at work after a mere three weeks of parental leave (what a joke!) and all my friends were busy with their childless lives—which kept them too busy to stop by or check in (making me, at times, feel jealous).

It was another day in which I would wait for baby to fall asleep for nap number one so I could shower and get ready to attempt to get out of the house together to do something, anything really, so I wouldn't feel the walls of the apartment close in on me by the time the second nap rolled around. I would pack all the diapers and toys and pacifiers and pump and bottles into a ginormous stroller that was already too heavy to push without a baby in it .

Then I would spend so much time figuring out where we could go with said stroller, because I wanted to avoid places with steps or narrow doors (I couldn't lift the stroller by myself and I was too embarrassed to ask strangers for help—also hi, New Yorkers, please help new moms when you see them huffing and puffing up the subway stairs, okay?). Then I would obsess about the weather, was it too cold to bring the baby out? And by the time I thought I had our adventure planned, the baby would wake up, I would still be in my PJs and it was time to pump yet again.

Slowly, but surely, and mostly thanks to sleep deprivation and isolation, I began to detest this whole new mom life. I've always been a social butterfly. I moved to New York because I craved that non-stop energy the city has and in the years before having my baby I amassed new friends I made through my daily adventures. I would never stop. I would walk everywhere just to take in the scenery and was always on the move.

Now I had this ball and chain attached to me, I thought, that didn't even allow me to make it out of the door to walk the dog. This sucks, I would think regularly, followed by maybe I'm not meant to be a mom after all.


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Motherly editors’ 7 favorite hacks for organizing their diaper bags

Make frantically fishing around for a diaper a thing of the past!

As any parent knows, the term "diaper bag" only scratches the surface. In reality, this catchall holds so much more: a change of clothes, bottles, snacks, wipes and probably about a dozen more essential items.

Which makes finding the exact item you need, when you need it (read: A diaper when you're in public with a blowout on your hands) kind of tricky.

That's why organization is the name of the game when it comes to outings with your littles. We pooled the Motherly team of editors to learn some favorite hacks for organizing diaper bags. Here are our top tips.

1. Divide and conquer with small bags

Here's a tip we heard more than a few times: Use smaller storage bags to organize your stuff. Not only is this helpful for keeping related items together, but it can also help keep things from floating around in the expanse of the larger diaper bag. These bags don't have to be anything particularly fancy: an unused toiletry bag, pencil case or even plastic baggies will work.

2. Have an emergency changing kit

When you're dealing with a diaper blowout situation, it's not the time to go searching for a pack of wipes. Instead, assemble an emergency changing kit ahead of time by bundling a change of baby clothes, a fresh diaper, plenty of wipes and hand sanitizer in a bag you can quickly grab. We're partial to pop-top wipes that don't dry out or get dirty inside the diaper bag.

3. Simplify bottle prep

Organization isn't just being able to find what you need, but also having what you need. For formula-feeding on the go, keep an extra bottle with the formula you need measured out along with water to mix it up. You never know when your outing will take longer than expected—especially with a baby in the mix!

4. Get resealable snacks

When getting out with toddlers and older kids, snacks are the key to success. Still, it isn't fun to constantly dig crumbs out of the bottom of your diaper bag. Our editors love pouches with resealable caps and snacks that come in their own sealable containers. Travel-sized snacks like freeze-dried fruit crisps or meal-ready pouches can get an unfair reputation for being more expensive, but that isn't the case with the budget-friendly Comforts line.

5. Keep a carabiner on your keychain

You'll think a lot about what your child needs for an outing, but you can't forget this must-have: your keys. Add a carabiner to your keychain so you can hook them onto a loop inside your diaper bag. Trust us when we say it's a much better option than dumping out the bag's contents on your front step to find your house key!

6. Bundle your essentials

If your diaper bag doubles as your purse (and we bet it does) you're going to want easy access to your essentials, too. Dedicate a smaller storage bag of your diaper bag to items like your phone, wallet and lip balm. Then, when you're ready to transfer your items to a real purse, you don't have to look for them individually.

7. Keep wipes in an outer compartment

Baby wipes aren't just for diaper changes: They're also great for cleaning up messy faces, wiping off smudges, touching up your makeup and more. Since you'll be reaching for them time and time again, keep a container of sensitive baby wipes in an easily accessible outer compartment of your bag.

Another great tip? Shop the Comforts line on www.comfortsforbaby.com to find premium baby products for a fraction of competitors' prices. Or, follow @comfortsforbaby for more information!

This article was sponsored by The Kroger Co. Thank you for supporting the brands that supporting Motherly and mamas.

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Parents knowingly sent COVID-positive kids to school—and that's a sign society is failing families

Parents shouldn't feel as though they have no other choice.

Parents across the nation are adjusting to school being back in session during a pandemic. From converting dining rooms into virtual classrooms to totally derailing their careers, parents are finding ways to make it through this unprecedented crisis.

It turns out that there is yet another challenge to overcome: parents knowingly sending their COVID-19 positive children to school. Yes, it happened in Wisconsin this week.

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