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The joyful, life-altering benefits of a toddler dance party

The music could be heard throughout our home, as my daughter turned up the volume for her favorite singer. Justin Timberlake’s popular song created a catchy beat my child couldn’t resist.

As I was busy whipping up lunch in the kitchen, I heard Peyton hollar at me, “Mom! Come dance with me!” I was too busy, my mind set on our schedule of when to eat, when to sleep and when to shower or brush our teeth.

As I raced to get lunch on the table at our normal time, I felt a tug at my sweater. “Mom! I want to dance!”

I looked at my child’s face, her excitement and love for music wrapped up in her giant smile. At that moment, I dropped what I was doing and skipped over to the family room.

Hands flailing in the air, I jumped around with my daughter to the chorus of Can’t Stop the Feeling.

Several minutes later, as we collapsed on the ground in laughter, I had an epiphany: We all need a toddler dance party in our lives!

Dance parties are a fairly new thing in our household and it took some getting used to.

I’m a planner and cringe when things don’t go as scheduled. My type “A” personality is on full display in nearly everything I do. From our monthly calendar filled with appointments and activities, to our weekly menu options, I like to have a plan.

Pre-children, that worked magically. But, as I have learned post-children, chaos is the name of the game.

Some days, I don’t know how I survive. As a working parent, I balance my time between shuttling my 3-year-old around town, working a full time job in the television industry and running our family’s charity.

My day starts at seven in the morning when I hear a faint yell down the hall, “Mom! I’m ready! Time to get up!” From there, the hustle and bustle of life takes over–breakfast, preschool, gymnastics, then back home…and that’s all before lunch!

Before I know it, I’m kissing my daughter goodbye and heading off to work. Four hours later, I stop home for a quick bite to eat and kiss my family goodnight. Then it’s back to anchor the nightly news.

My day doesn’t end until I arrive home at 11pm, ready to relax on the couch with my computer and my only chance for quiet time. I head to bed, then a few short hours later, the cycle starts all over again.

While the controlled chaos of life is often exhausting, there is one thing that I always make time for: my daughter’s daily request for a dance party.

It’s a few minutes a day when our free spirit takes over; a time when the stress of the day gives way to carefree excitement.

Peyton has always loved music and dance, so much so, we enrolled her in ballet and tap class this year. She may not listen to her teacher, but she can be found happily dancing to her own beat.

At home, our life revolves around the stereo speakers. After years of Old MacDonald and Itsy Bitsy Spider, my ears are thrilled to have graduated to the likes of Adele and JT.

Much like the progression of music, our daily dance parties have matured. It started out with my child putting on a show, her uncoordinated body looking more like a girl with ants in her pants than an actual dance. But, the more I watched her, the more I adored her uniqueness.

I spent so many years worrying too much about what other people thought of me. As I witnessed my daughter throw caution to the wind, I embraced the unusual moves. My husband and I found ourselves dancing alongside her, our bumbling arms trying to mimic her moves.

Over the months, our dance moves have progressed, and so has my willingness to let loose. As long as there is music in a room, my daughter is guaranteed to bust a move.

A Bar Mitzvah with hundreds of people? No problem! You can find us in the middle of the dance floor creating our own choreography.

The grocery store? Sure! The elevator music is perfect to practice our ballet moves.

It doesn’t matter where or when, my daughter is always bouncing to the beat. And as I bounce along with her, I smile with pride.

It’s easy to get caught up in the rat race of life and it can be hard to slow down. But, life is too short.

I don’t want to be the mom watching from the sidelines, I want to be right there with her, crazy dances moves and all. And as long as Justin Timberlake keeps telling us to “Dance, Dance, Dance”, there’s no stopping me.

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Parents in New Jersey will soon get more money and more time for parental leave after welcoming a baby.

This week New Jersey Governor Phil Murphy signed off on legislation that extends New Jersey's paid family leave from six weeks to 12.

It also increases the benefit cap from 53% of the average weekly wage to 70%, meaning the maximum benefit for a parent on family leave will be $860 a week, up from $650.

It might not seem like a huge difference, but by raising the benefit from two-thirds of a parent's pay to 85%, lawmakers in New Jersey are hoping to encourage more parents to actually take leave, which is good for the parents, their baby and their family. "Especially for that new mom and dad, we know that more time spent bonding with a child can lead to a better long-term outcome for that child," Murphy said at a press conference this week.

The law will also make it easier for people to take time off when a family member is sick.

Because NJ's paid leave is funded through payroll deductions, workers could see an increase in those deductions, but Murphy is betting that workers and businesses will see the benefits in increasing paid leave benefits. "Morale goes up, productivity goes up, and more money goes into the system," Murphy said. "And increasingly, companies big and small realize that a happy workforce and a secure workforce is a key ingredient to their success."

The new benefits will go into effect in July 2020 (making next Halloween a good time to get pregnant in the Garden State).

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Whether you just need to stock up on diapers or you've had your eye on a specific piece of baby gear, you might want to swing by your local Walmart this Saturday, February 23rd.

Walmart's big "Baby Savings Day" is happening from 10:30 a.m. to 4:30 p.m. at participating Walmarts (but more deals can be found online at Walmart.com already and the website deals are happening for the rest of the month).

About 3,000 of the 3,570 Supercenter locations are participating in the sale (check here to see if your local Walmart is).

The deals vary, but in general you can expect up to 30% off on items like cribs, strollers, car seats, wipes, diapers and formula.

Some items, like this Graco Modes 3 Lite Travel System have been marked down by more than $100. Other hot items include this Lille Baby Complete Carrier (It's usually $119, going for $99 during the sale) and the Graco 4Ever 4-in-1 Convertible Car Seat (for as low as $199).

So if you're in need of baby gear, you should check out this sale. Travel gear isn't the only category that's been marked down, there are some steep discounts on breast pumps, too.

Many of the Walmart locations will also be offering samples and expert demos of certain products on Saturday so it's worth checking out!

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Any Schumer has not had an easy pregnancy. She intended to keep working, but if you follow her on social media you know she's been very sick through each trimester.

And now in her final trimester she's had to cancel her tour due to hyperemesis gravidarum, also known as HG. It's a rare but very serious form of extreme morning sickness, and on Friday evening Schumer announced she is canceling the rest of her tour because of it.

“I vomit every time [I] ride in a car even for 5 minutes," Schumer explained in an Instagram post.

Due to the constant vomiting she's not cleared to fly and just can't continue to the tour.

This is not the first time Schumer has had to make an announcement about HG. Back in November, just weeks after announcing her pregnancy, she had to cancel shows and again broke the news via Instagram.

She posted a photo of herself in a hospital bed with her little dog Tati, and spelled out the details of her health issues in the caption. "I have hyperemesis and it blows," Schumer wrote.

Poor Amy. Hyperemesis gravidarum is really tough.

Kate Middleton, Ayesha Curry and Motherly co-founder Elizabeth Tenety are among those who, like Schumer, have suffered from this form of severe morning sickness that can be totally debilitating.

As she previously wrote for Motherly, Tenety remembers becoming desperately ill, being confined to her apartment (mostly her bed) and never being far from a trash can, "I lost 10% of my body weight. I became severely dehydrated. I couldn't work. I couldn't even get out of bed. I could barely talk on the phone to tell my doctor how sick I was—begging them to please give me something, anything—to help."

Thankfully, she found relief through a prescription for Zofran, an anti-nausea drug.

Schumer probably knows all about that drug. It looks she is getting the medical help she obviously needs, and she was totally right to cancel the tour in order to stay as healthy as possible.

We're glad to see Schumer is getting help, and totally understand why she would have to cancel her shows. Any mama who has been through HG will tell you, that wouldn't be a show you'd want front row seats for anyway.

Get well soon, Amy!

[A version of this post was published November 15, 2018. It has been updated.]

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As a military spouse, Cydney Cooper is used to doing things alone. But when she delivered her twin daughters early after complications due to Influenza A, she was missing her husband Skylar more than ever.

Recovering from the flu and an emergency C-section, and trying to parent the couple's two older boys and be with her new infant daughters in the NICU, Cydney was exhausted and scared and just wanted her husband who was deployed in Kuwait with the Army and wasn't expected home for weeks.

Alone in the NICU 12 days after giving birth, Cydney was texting an update on the twins to her husband when he walked through the door to shoulder some of the massive burden this mama was carrying.

"I was typing up their summary as best I could and trying to remember every detail to tell him when I looked up and saw him standing there. Shock, relief, and the feeling that everything was just alright hit me at once. I just finally let go," she explains in a statement to Motherly.

The moment was captured on video thanks to a family member who was in on Skylar's surprise and the reunion has now gone viral, having been viewed millions of times. It's an incredible moment for the couple who hadn't seen each other since Skylar had a three-day pass in seven months earlier.

Cydney had been caring for the couple's two boys and progressing in her pregnancy when, just over a week before the viral video was taken, she tested positive for Influenza A and went into preterm labor. "My husband was gone, my babies were early, I had the flu, and I was terrified," she tells Motherly.

"Over the next 48 hours they were able to stop my labor and I was discharged from the hospital. It only lasted two days and I went right back up and was in full on labor that was too far to stop."

Cydney needed an emergency C-section due to the babies' positioning, and her medical team could not allow anyone who had previously been around her into the operating room because anyone close to Cydney had been exposed to the flu.

"So I went in alone. The nurses and doctors were wonderful and held my hand through the entire thing but at the same time, I felt very very alone and scared. [Skylar] had been present for our first two and he was my rock and I didn't have him when I wanted him the most. But I did it! He was messaging me the second they wheeled me to recovery. Little did I know he was already working on being on his way."

When he found out his baby girls were coming early Skylar did everything he could to get home, and seeing him walk into the NICU is a moment Cydney will hold in her heart and her memory forever. "I had been having to hop back and forth from our sons to our daughters and felt guilty constantly because I couldn't be with all of them especially with their dad gone. It was one of the most amazing moments of my life and I won't be forgetting it."

It's so hard for a military spouse to do everything alone after a baby comes, and the military does recognize this. Just last month the Army doubled the amount of leave qualifying secondary caregivers (most often dads) can take after a birth or adoption, from 10 days to 21 so that moms like Cydney don't have to do it all alone.

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