To the mama about to give birth—there’s magic in the waiting

I want to frame this moment in time. I want to remember this feeling of anticipation and excitement.

To the mama about to give birth—there’s magic in the waiting

I am 11 days away from my due date. (Not that I'm counting or anything.) I have two other kiddos, a job, and a really long to-do list (I mean…who doesn’t?).

We finally had some time to get the house in order. Our daughter’s bassinet is set up in our room, her baby clothes are washed and folded, the Rock ‘n’ Play was taken out of storage and cleaned up, and the car seat is installed.

I even have my hospital bag packed. (New pj’s and all! #TreatYoself, mama.) Our snack bag is packed, and we remembered big sister gifts for our daughters. Our “Who's going to come stay with the girls if I go into labor during the middle of the night?!” plan is in place. My maternity leave coverage is under control at work.

Basically, what I'm saying is that I'm feeling good. I'm feeling ready to meet my new baby.

So now...we wait.

We wait for her to decide it’s time.

We wait for those frequent contractions to start.

We wait for the cramping, the gut feeling that yes—I know this is really happening.

We wait to hear her cry and feel her body on our chest and in our arms.

We wait for this special, life-changing moment to happen.

But with waiting can come frustration, impatience and worry.

At this stage of pregnancy, the waiting seems like f-o-r-e-v-e-r.

It feels like the lower back pain will never go away. Like the discomfort of getting in and out of bed because of our large bellies and sore pelvic bones will always be part of our lives.

Like we will never fit into our clothes again because the baby will just set up shop inside of us for all of eternity and we'll just have to forgo clothes and only wear sports bras and sweatpants for life.

But we’ve got this, mamas.

I've decided that after all of the logistical prepping is done, I need to take some time to soak this moment in. I'm feeling like I have things semi-organized, so it's time to stop worrying and time to start preparing my heart for what's to come.

It’s time to start getting excited.

You see, I've basically been telling anyone I encounter that my due date is less than two weeks away, “Unless she wants to come sooner which would be fine by me!” But the truth is—we can't will our babies to come when we feel ready for them.

We have to sit. To wait. To be patient. Because they come when they want, when they're ready, and when our body gives them the OK.

So no more nesting. No more willing my daughter to come out.

No. Now is the time to appreciate the magic.

Because this is a surreal, intense moment that you only get to feel so many times in your life.

We are days away from meeting our daughter. Our new family member who will contribute amazing things to our family that we don't even know yet.

We are days away from holding our sweet, cuddly baby who will grow into a toddler, a child, a tween, a teen and an adult—who will have her own hopes and dreams, likes and dislikes, favorite colors and songs and activities.

We are days away from being introduced to someone who will change our lives for the better.

We are days away from making our (soon to be) middle daughter a big sister.

We are days away from watching my body do one of the most incredible things it can possibly ever do.

We are days away from smelling that intoxicating newborn smell.

We are days away from feeling our hearts stretch and grow and fill up with all the love in the world.

We are days away from truly witnessing a miracle.

So I want to slow down. I want to frame this moment in time. I want to remember this feeling of anticipation and excitement. Of hope and promise.

Because I've done this two other times before. I know how fast those first few weeks go by. I know (as clichéas it is) how I'm going to want all of this back one day.

Right now, I don’t have to wish for it to be back. It's right in front of me. I want to be in it, as much as possible. So I’m slowing down. I am focusing on being present with my girls, with my family. And I am waiting (as patiently as possible) to be introduced to my new sweet baby girl.

(But I can’t help shouting (via caps lock) to the internet—I. AM. EXCITED!)

Create a school-ready capsule wardrobe for your kids

Dress for success whether virtual learning or in the classroom!

Tina Meeks

Going "back to school" this year may be less of a literal statement than in years past—but there is just as much reason for your kids to celebrate moving on to new grades. Just like in every new school year, a big part of the fun is refreshing your kids' wardrobe with clothes that allow them to express themselves.

Even if finding back to school clothes this year doesn't include a trip to the mall, you can still make an event of it by shopping H&M's kids collection from your computer. Pull up another chair for your shopping buddy and get the cart started with these fave capsule wardrobe options we've already scouted.

Here are our favorite picks:

A t-shirt made for play

H&M t-shirt

Call them essentials, not basics. A graphic t-shirt aces the test when it comes to being perfect for school. And because your little student will probably want to wear something that expresses their personal style as often as possible, it's great to know the shirts can stand up to school time, playtime, downtime and everything in between!


Dressed-up casual shorts for total comfort

H&M boy shorts

Whether pulling up a chair for a virtual meeting with the class or heading back to the school for in-person learning, some comfortable, yet stylish, shorts will help your kid focus on the real tasks at hand: learning—and having fun while doing it!


Layers for when seasons change

H&M sweatshirt

When it comes to feeling comfortable at school, layers are the MVPs. Whether the AC is blasting or the day started off cool and is warming up quickly, having a unique sweatshirt to shed or add will help your kid look cool while staying warm.


A bit of flair with distressed denim

H&M distressed jeans

A school staple for generations, denim is both classic and continually fashionable with updates like distressing and new wash colors. If you're shopping online for jeans this year, take note of H&M's generous return policy—your kids can try on the orders at home and return anything that doesn't fit without a trip to the store.


A fashion statement piece

H&M girls skirt

What's better than expressing yourself through a stylish outfit when school is back in session? Still feeling perfectly comfortable and ready to tackle anything the day holds while looking so good. With so many fashion-forward looks available at budget-friendly prices, H&M's children's collection means every kid can find an outfit that speaks to them.


Some comfy kicks

H&M boys shoes

A sure way to put a little pep in your child's step this year, cool and cozy shoes are a staple on all back-to-school shopping lists for good reason. (Plus, it's fun to compare them to last year's shoes to see how much your kid has grown!)


Anything-but-basic blouses

H&M girls blouse

Whether in the classroom or showing up for a video call with the class, a styling blouse or button-down shirt is a great way for your student to comfortably dress up the day. Better yet? Style doesn't have to come at the expense of comfort with so many made-to-move tops designed just for kids.


A shirt ready to go whatever the day holds

H&M boys shirt

With "going to school" meaning anything from showing up in the classroom to doing a virtual session, it's important to have clothes that are perfect for anything the day holds. A classic, cotton shirt with a fashion-forward design is a great way to keep your student feeling ready to start the year with an A+ attitude.


This article was sponsored by H&M. Thank you for supporting the brands that support Motherly and mamas.

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