To the mama on the plane with the screaming baby—I understand

I know you feel conspicuous. I know you’ve said “I’m sorry” about 14,000 times in the last two hours and you’re about to say it 14,000 more. I know you feel like everyone is staring at you and I know you were mortified when your baby screamed at the top of his lungs during take-off.

I know that the last few hours have seemed like days and the next few will be even worse. I know that if I’m finding this flight long, you’re finding it interminable.

I know it was a long day even before you stepped through the aircraft door—timing feeds and missing his nap and enduring the line for liquid testing at security, after you’d single-handedly folded and unfolded your stroller with a baby on your hip, a heavy bag on your shoulder and no help from hurried “fellow” passengers who breezed past, tutting at you for holding up the line.

I know this isn’t your idea of a good time.

I know you’re avoiding eye contact with other passengers. I know you heard the silent or barely concealed “oh no’s” when you stepped on the plane and the sighs of relief when you passed the rows before yours without stopping.

I know you would have preferred not to have to nurse your baby in a tiny seat with a stranger sitting three inches from your elbow. I know you would have preferred not to have to bounce him up and down the aisle for an hour to try and get that burp out.

I know that you would have preferred not to be here at all—that if there was any other means for you to get to where you’re going you would have opted for it in a heartbeat.

I know that you know you have baby spit-up on your sweater but you can’t find a way to put the baby down long enough to change it—and anyway, you only brought spare clothes for him, not yourself (and I know you won’t make that mistake again!).

I know you won’t be eating anything (that tray table and a baby definitely don’t go together). I know that you’re dying to go to the bathroom and have spent the last hour trying to work out the logistics of that tiny cubicle with a baby in hand.

I know you’re wondering if you’d be overstepping if you asked the flight attendant to hold him for you for a moment while you go.

I know you have a book stashed away in your bag in the overhead locker which you packed optimistically and which you’ll never get the chance to open. I know that flying coach without an infant on your lap would—at this point—feel like a luxury vacation.

I know when you saw mothers traveling with babies before you had yours you had no idea how hard it would be.

I know. Because I’ve been there.

I’m looking your way not out of judgement, but out of solidarity. I’m looking your way because I sympathize.

I’m looking your way because if I could, I would tell you, “I’ve been there too.” I’m looking your way because I want to say: “Do not apologize.”

Because I also know that your baby has as much right to be on this plane as any other passenger. I know that his crying is an age-appropriate response to the unfamiliar things he’s experiencing: a confined space, pressure on his tiny eardrums, the unrelenting noise, his sense of your own stress levels. His response does not mean he shouldn’t be here.

Do not apologize.

I know if you could have avoided this flight you would have, but I also know you shouldn’t have to.

I’m looking at you not in judgement but because I know you’re a hero.

I know you’ve achieved the impossible already and you’re going to keep doing it because it’s the only option. I know that when this plane touches down you will be more relieved than anyone, and that you’ll spend the next several weeks dreading the day you have to step through that aircraft door again.

I know all these things. You’re not alone. Please, do not apologize.

Who says you have to wait for birthdays or holidays to give your bestie a great gift? A sweet surprise that tells her you've been thinking of her might be the pick-me-up she needs in these more-than-trying times. We've rounded up some of our favorite go-to gifts that are certain to be a bright spot in her week. But be warned, you may want to snag a few for yourself. (You deserve it, mama.)

Here are some our favorite "just because" gifts to give our hardworking mama friends.

New Mother face + body care duo

volition face + body care duo

This correcting oil and stretch mark minimizer is perfect for the pregnant mama looking to keep her pregnancy glow. The correcting oil brightens the skin while reducing dark spots, and the stretch mark minimizer works to smooth her ever-growing belly.


Allover roller

esker allover roller

This jade roller goes beyond your typical face roller and can be used anywhere on the body. It works to increase stimulation and reduce puffiness and is perfect for applying any oils to the face or body. Plus, it feels like a mini spa treatment.


Kombucha making kit

farmsteady kombucha making kit

What could be a more perfect gift for the health-obsessed friend? This kombucha making kit comes with everything you need to brew your own homemade green tea kombucha. They'll think this is the tastiest gift ever.


Laetitia lipstick

cupid & psyche laetitia

This red lipstick is perfect for your makeup enthusiast bestie who is looking to spruce up her life in quarantine. Crafted in the United States, these bee and vegan-friendly and cruelty-free lipsticks are created to flatter all complexions. Cupid and Psyche Beauty makes finding the perfect red lip way too easy!


Jigsaw puzzle

inner piecec jigsaw puzzle

Mamas need to destress now more than ever during quarantine. This adorable jigsaw puzzle is perfect for the mama who needs a brain break! The 500-piece puzzle designed by artist Ray Oranges features an abstract gradient design that fits a standard frame when completed. Bonus: It's printed on recycled paper and the company donates $1 from every puzzle sold to youth mindfulness programs.


Matilda's Bloombox

matilda's bloombox

If we have to be stuck inside, we might as well have some gorgeous florals to brighten up the space. Matilda's Bloombox locally sources blooms, delivers them to her door and provides simple tips on how to arrange it into a beautiful bouquet.


'I Am Enough' bracelet

I Am Enough bracelet

Let this dainty bracelet serve as a constant reminder to your bestie that she is enough. She'll wear this on her wrist and read this daily oath to herself, "I Am Enough."


Glow assorted teas

vahdam low assorted teas

This tea gift box set covers the entire spectrum of flavors from sweet to spicy. Individually packaged in beautiful tins, your gal pal will feel like a queen sipping her morning tea. Originally $40, this set is currently on sale for just $24. We'll take two, please.


Find your voice journal

find your voice journal

Journaling is a great way to ease anxiety and will slow your bestie's racing mind before bed. This gift is perfect for first time journalists and includes prompts, daily quotes and coloring pages to help her unlock her potential and find her voice.


Premium frother

shore magic premium frother

This gift is fitting for your latte-sipping bestie who can't go a day without her coffee. All she has to do is add two scoops of collagen to her favorite drink, and she'll have a perfectly foamy drink ready in seconds. Skipping the drive-thru line has never been so easy!


Bath soak infusion kit

maude bath soak infusion kit

Say hello to hydration! She'll be feeling smooth and relaxed as ever after a long bath soaking in these salts. This vegan + cruelty-free set incorporates dead sea salt and dehydrated coconut milk powder for an ultra hydrating experience.


Tiny Tags 'mama' necklace

Tiny Tags 'mama' necklace

It's a hard-earned title she answers to a hundred times per day. Whether she's new to the club or a seasoned professional, this delicate script 'mama' necklace is guaranteed to be a perfect fit.


Superfood honey

Beekeeper's Naturals B.Powered honey

With a lack of sleep and jam-packed days, getting through the afternoon can be a real challenge. Send her a powerful pick-me-up in the form of a therapeutic blend of royal jelly, bee pollen, propolis and raw honey. It makes the ideal companion for tea, smoothies, yogurt or even on its on.


Calming midnight mask with melatonin

Who doesn't deserve a reminder to pamper themself every once in awhile? Even better, this mask does all its work at night while you're sleeping with no extra effort needed. It's an amazing plant-powered antioxidant-packed mask that has melatonin, wild dandelion leaf and hyaluronic acid to rehydrate, repair and reset facial skin. It's so good, you might want to gift it to yourself. We won't tell, mama.


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