Being a mom is hard. Being a mom during a global pandemic is really hard. Add on top of that the uncertainty of school, work, childcare and it’s only natural that we—all of us—are feeling the pressure on our shoulders. That’s probably why this one minute video on TikTok has gone incredibly viral in the last week on a platform that is mostly known for dance mash ups and funny pranks.
In it “Momma/Bestie” (as her TikTok profile describes her) @swirl_life asks all other moms on TikTok how they are doing right now. She does it in a way that had me crying three seconds after it started and had my coworker watch it 10 times in a row. She sees us. She is talking directly to us and there’s something so powerful about it.
The video has over 2.7 million views on TikTok and has been shared across multiple platforms by other users. It also has over 65,000 comments from other moms thanking her for this video. “We all burst into tears when someone asks us how we are. No one asks us that question ever. Thank you” reads one comment. “So I’m 2 weeks postpartum… and I just burst into tears… I had to tell my husband I’m not OK today… and I need help. It’s not easy” reads another.
This is what the viral mama says in her video:
“Hi, this video is for the mother on TikTok right now. So if you are not a mother please continue to scroll and enjoy your For You page.
Hi. Now that we are alone… How are you? Did you get any sleep last night? I know you are worried. There’s so much pressure on you right now. I feel it too. But I want you to know that you are not alone. We are in this together. And you know what, we are gonna get through this. And I know nobody checks on you because you are so strong but I just want you to know that I’m here. I’m here for you sis. Keep going, you are amazing and I appreciate you.”
Thank you for checking in, thank you for the good cry you made me have just now, and thank you for reminding me to check in on all my mom friends to see how they are doing. That’ll be my priority today.