68 affirmations that’ll empower you to be the parent you want to be

“I am confident and growing in my parenting role.”

68 affirmations that’ll empower you to be the parent you want to be

Be honest—is there some aspect of parenting that could be better?

If you’re like most parents, the answer is YES! Parenting is an ever-shifting experience and there’s always something new to learn or improve upon.

How affirmations work

Affirmations are declarations of intent.

They help you focus your energy on what you want as though it already exists. (That’s why they’re written in the present tense!)

As you focus on what you want, you shift your beliefs and you set what you want into motion so that it becomes your reality. I recommend you listen to the 5-minute affirmation audio (below) 4-5 times a week until these affirmations become part of you.

Self affirmations

1. I am a great parent.

2. I am aware of my child’s nature and supportive of them living their truth.

3. I am willing to learn and grow.

4. I am grateful for the resources that continue to show up to help me be a great parent.

5. My spouse and I agree on healthy parenting approaches.

6. When something is out of balance, I seek answers and am led to solutions that make a difference.

7. I am confident and growing in my parenting role.

8. I listen to the spirit and I am guided.

9. I do what is correct for me and my children.

10. I support others in choosing the same.

11. Comparisons do not serve me—I notice when I compare myself to other parents and I quickly let them go.

12. I love being a parent.

13. I love how much joy this role gives me.

14. I am healthy and vibrant.

15. I take the time I need to care for my own needs—doing this supports me in being a better parent.

16. I get the rest I need.

17. I easily make changes when change is the best option.

18. It’s amazing how successful our family is.

19. We have a great time together.

Health and wellness affirmations

20. My children’s health is a priority to me.

21. I take the necessary steps to ensure I am supporting their health and wellness.

22. I find answers when something is out of balance.

23. I feed my children healthy food options.

24. They love eating healthy foods.

25. Dinner is an enjoyable experience we all look forward to.

26. I can afford the good food that my children love to eat.

27. I enjoy food preparation and can even find resources to support me when I need a break.

28. Life is good in my family.

29. We stay fit and love to exercise.

30. I am a good role model to my children on how to take care of my body.

31. I teach my children to love and respect their bodies.

32. We are all free of illness and disease.

33. We stay healthy all year round.

Home affirmations

34. Our home is a place of peace.

35. We enjoy each other’s company and know when to give each other privacy.

36. Our home is orderly and organized.

37. Everyone is willing to contribute to maintaining the order and function of our home.

38. My children do their chores willingly.

39. I know how to support their true natures by giving them jobs they can accomplish easily.

40. We have a lot of fun in our home.

41. We are making fond memories with the activities we enjoy in our home.

42. I love the traditions we have that support our day-to-day and holiday experiences.

Recreation affirmations

43. I am grateful that we take the right amount of time to play and recreate together as a family.

44. All of our recreational activities turn out to be very pleasant, enjoyed by everyone.

45. We allocate the correct amount of money to support recreational pursuits.

46. We enjoy spending time together in recreational activities.

47. Our family vacations are affordable for our budget and very memorable.

48. Our children appreciate the money that is allocated and learn how to budget and spend money on activities that are renewing.

49. We all have a great time together.

Communication and discipline affirmations

50. I am using discipline appropriately in a way that helps my children correct their behavior to learn new ways of approaching things.

51. I understand that discipline is a tool to help change behavior when the behavior is not congruent with what is best and my child’s potential and true nature is being compromised—I help them learn through correct discipline how to optimize their true self.

52. I approach all disciplinary functions with a peaceful honoring tone of voice and behavior that is respectful of my child.

53. I act in a way that shows respect for my children.

54. I have patience.

55. I am blessed with added patience when I am losing control.

56. I am blessed with patience and understanding before I lose control.

57. I always speak to my child in a loving, kind tone of voice.

58. All of my children feel safe and honored by me.

59. I have good communication skills.

60. I am a good listener.

61. My children come to me to share what they need support with.

62. I validate my child’s feelings.

63. I listen to understand.

64. I say “tell me more” frequently.

Cooperation affirmations

65. I am grateful for how much cooperation we experience as a family.

66. There is tremendous harmony in our family.

67. Our family makes an extra effort to get along and be each other’s good friends.

68. I am a role model, guide and friend to my child as their parent.

I am grateful for my family and the opportunity to be the parent to my children.

You are already a good parent because you care and want to improve. Your intent matters and makes a difference!

This article was originally published on The Child Whisperer.

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After 4 kids, this is still the best baby gear item I’ve ever purchased

I wouldn't be swooning over the BABYBJÖRN bouncer after eight years and four kids if it didn't work.

I have four kids 8 and under, so you might expect that my house is teeming with baby gear and kid toys.

But it turns out that for me, the more kids I have, the more I simplify our stuff. At this point, I'm down to the absolute essentials, the gear that I can't live without and the toys my kids actually play with. And so when a mama-to-be asks me what things are worth registering for, there are only a few must-haves on my list.

The BABYBJÖRN bouncer seat is on the top of my list—totally worth it and an absolute must-have for any new mama.

In fact, since I first splurged on my first BABYBJÖRN bouncer eight years ago (it definitely felt like a splurge at the time, but the five star reviews were really compelling), the bouncer seat has become the most-used product in our house for baby's first year.

We've actually invested in a second one so that we didn't have to keep moving ours from the bedroom to the living room when we change locations.

BABYBJÖRN bouncer bliss

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The utility of the seat might seem counterintuitive—it has no mechanical parts, so your baby is instead gently bounced by her own movements. In a world where many baby products are touted for their ability to mechanically rock baby to sleep, I get that many moms might not find the "no-motion" bouncer that compelling. But it turns out that the seat is quite reactive to baby's little kicks, and it has helped my kids to learn how to self-soothe.


Lightweight + compact:

The BABYBJÖRN bouncer is super lightweight, and it also folds flat in a second. Because of those features, we've frequently stored it under the couch, in a suitcase or in the back of the car. It folds completely flat, which I love.

Entertainment zone:

Is the toy bar worth it? The toy bar is totally worth it. Not only is the toy bar adorable, but it's one of the first toys that my babies actually play with once they discover the world beyond my boobs. The toys spin and are close to eye level so they have frequently kept my baby entertained while I cook or take a quick shower.

Great style:

This is not a small detail to me–the BABYBJÖRN bouncer is seriously stylish. I am done with baby gear and toys that make my house look like a theme park. The elegant European design honestly just looks good in my living room and I appreciate that parents can enjoy it as much as baby.

It's adjustable:

With three height settings that let you prop baby up to be entertained, or lay back to rest, we get years of use. And the bouncer can actually be adjusted for bigger kids and used from newborn to toddler age. It's that good.

It just works:

I wouldn't be swooning over the BABYBJÖRN bouncer after eight years and four kids if it didn't work. But I have used the seat as a safe space to put baby while I've worked (I once rocked my baby in it with my foot while I reported on a breaking news story for the Washington Post), and as a cozy spot for my second child to lay while his big brother played nearby. It's held up for almost a decade with almost-constant use.

So for me, looking back on what I thought was a splurge eight years ago, was actually one of the best investments in baby gear I ever made.

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This is my one trick to get baby to sleep (and it always works!)

There's a reason why every mom tells you to buy a sound machine.

So in my defense, I grew up in Florida. As a child of the sunshine state, I knew I had to check for gators before sitting on the toilet, that cockroaches didn't just scurry, they actually flew, and at that point, the most popular and only sound machine I had ever heard of was the Miami Sound Machine.

I was raised on the notion that the rhythm was going to get me, not lull me into a peaceful slumber. Who knew?!

Well evidently science and, probably, Gloria Estefan knew, but I digress.

When my son was born, I just assumed the kid would know how to sleep. When I'm tired that's what I do, so why wouldn't this smaller more easily exhausted version of me not work the same way? Well, the simple and cinematic answer is, he is not in Kansas anymore.

Being in utero is like being in a warm, soothing and squishy spa. It's cozy, it's secure, it comes with its own soundtrack. Then one day the spa is gone. The space is bigger, brighter and the constant stream of music has come to an abrupt end. Your baby just needs a little time to acclimate and a little assist from continuous sound support.

My son, like most babies, was a restless and active sleeper. It didn't take much to jolt him from a sound sleep to crying like a banshee. I once microwaved a piece of pizza, and you would have thought I let 50 Rockettes into his room to perform a kick line.

I was literally walking on eggshells, tiptoeing around the house, watching the television with the closed caption on.

Like adults, babies have an internal clock. Unlike adults, babies haven't harnessed the ability to hit the snooze button on that internal clock. Lucky for babies they have a great Mama to hit the snooze button for them.

Enter the beloved by all—sound machines.

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It's science: Why your baby stops crying when you stand up

A fascinating study explains why.

When your baby is crying, it feels nearly instinctual to stand up to rock, sway and soothe them. That's because standing up to calm babies is instinctual—driven by centuries of positive feedback from calmed babies, researchers have found.

"Infants under 6 months of age carried by a walking mother immediately stopped voluntary movement and crying and exhibited a rapid heart rate decrease, compared with holding by a sitting mother," say authors of a 2013 study published in Current Biology.

Even more striking: This coordinated set of actions—the mother standing and the baby calming—is observed in other mammal species, too. Using pharmacologic and genetic interventions with mice, the authors say, "We identified strikingly similar responses in mouse pups as defined by immobility and diminished ultrasonic vocalizations and heart rate."

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