Name: Sara Jane Mercer
Occupation: Wellness coach and expert
Baby’s Gender: Girl How would you describe your pregnant style?
My daytime style is definitely “urban mommy causal.” I have been living in my Citizens of Humanity maternity jeans (the only brand that really fits right as they only change the waist not the leg size for their maternity styles), oversized plaid shirts, slouchy t’s by either Hatch Collection or T by Alexander Wang and cool sneaker by Vinceor Golden Goose. In the depths of winter I threw some sweater’s from Hatch into the mix as well.At night or when I am not on mommy duty my style is more urban boho. Pregnant or not I love dresses by Isabel Marant, LoveShackFancyand Ulla Johnson paired with a great leather jacket like my Iro one.I pair them with either cool flat ankle boots (my Chloe and Isabel Marant ones are my favs) or my Stuart Weitzmanover the knee boots. I am not someone who likes to wear tights so the over the knee boots were great this winter to keep my legs warm!Have you had any challenges learning to dress your body during pregnancy?
My first pregnancy I definitely bought more maternity clothes as I thought I would need them. Once my daughter was born I was so sick of everything that I gave it all away very quickly. This time around I have only bought a few maternity basics such a jeans and some tee shirts. I have found it much more appealing to wear clothes that I either already own or that I know I will wear after this baby arrives. I have earned to embrace as more loose, slouchy, boho style this time as those are the types of clothes that look good with or without a bump!One major challenge this winter was finding a parka that was warm enough to handle the NYC chill and zipped up my bump. Many people suggested wearing my regular parka unzipped with a heavy sweater and a big scarf but this just wasn’t warm enough for me! After much searching I bought a Canada Goose parka a size up and plan to sell it via my mom’s list after I have the baby. There is nothing worse than being cold in NYC in February so this was a splurge that was worth it to me.So far, what has surprised you most during your pregnancy?
This pregnancy has flown by compared to my first one! With an almost 3-year-old to chase around I don’t have the time to focus on it as much. Alot of the little things that worried me with my first daughter such as odd aches and pains etc. have just rolled off this time as I know it is all temporary and will go away as soon as I give birth.Also, there has been alot less to do before this baby arrives. Last time I spent alot of time putting my “team” together. This time around everyone was already in place. We were lucky to find a wonderful birthing team all of whom I love so there was no interviewing and meeting people this time. What are you most looking forward to sharing with your baby?
Most immediately I am looking forward to nursing a baby again. I nursed my first daughter for 20 months and still miss that sweet bond. We are huge beach people and I cannot wait to introduce my daughter to the ocean and the sand. Her big sister is happiest barefoot with uncombed hair in a bathing suit and I hope this little girl follows suit. I am also excited to take her to all of the parks and playgrounds in our neighborhood. TriBeCa is really a little kid paradise, we have multiple playgrounds less than five minutes from our apartment and I cannot wait to show them all to her!What’s your 5 registry essentials?
Baby Bump Fitness Ball. This version of a yoga ball (with feet so it doesn’t roll) is a must have for me. I use it as a desk chair, will labor on it, and once the baby is born with bounce her on it to soothe her to sleep!
Baby K’tan. I wore my daughter Hermione in this wrap for the first few months of her life. I love the Baby K’tan because there is no complicated wrapping technique to learn (it’s all pre-done) and it can be used from birth. You can even nurse while your baby is snuggled up in a K’tan.
TANE Organics Swaddles. These super soft swaddles are a must have for me. They are a bit smaller than other swaddles out there making them perfect for a tiny newborn and the slight stretch make it possible to get a tight wrap every time!
TANE Organics Onesies. For simple, soft, organic baby wear nothing beats TANE. Their clothes are incredibly adorable, soft and chic. I think little, new babies look best in white so I like to stock up!
Blessed Nest Pillow. This nursing pillow is the best! Not only is it made from organic fabric and stuffed with buckwheat hulls ( no toxic nasties here!) but it actually conform to your baby’s back so you don’t have to hold them in place while you nurse. It is also great from tummy time, and to prop your baby up on!
DANIELLE M. WILSON is the Event Director for Well Rounded, former Elementary teacher & all around Mama Hustler who's all about the details! You can find her obsessing over bold street art & anything adorned in sequins, while living in the moment and persevering with Crohns disease. Cheeseball smiling alongside her hubby Mike & two
We spend a lot of time prepping for the arrival of a baby. But when it comes to the arrival of our breast milk (and all the massive adjustments that come with it), it's easy to be caught off guard. Stocking up on a few breastfeeding essentials can make the transition to breastfeeding a lot less stressful, which means more time and energy focusing on what's most important: Your recovery and your brand new baby.
Here are the essential breastfeeding tools you'll need, mama:
That said, if you do anticipate wanting to take a more modest approach to breastfeeding, a nursing cover is a must. You will find an array of styles to choose from, but we love an infinity scarf, like the LK Baby Infinity Nursing Scarf Nursing Cover. You'll be able to wear the nursing cover instead of stuffing it in your already brimming diaper bag—and it's nice to have it right there when the baby is ready to eat.
Also, in the inevitable event that your baby spits-up on you or you leak some milk through your shirt, having a quick and stylish way to cover up is a total #momwin.
Get your cozy space ready to go, and when your baby is here, you can retreat from the world and just nurse, bond, and love.
3. For unmatched support: A wire-free nursing bra
It may take trying on several brands to find the perfect match, but finding a nursing bra that you love is 100% worth the effort. Your breasts will be changing and working in ways that are hard to imagine. An excellent supportive bra will make this so much more comfortable.
It is crucial to choose a wireless bra for the first weeks of nursing since underwire can increase the risk of clogged ducts (ouch).The Playtex Maternity Shaping Foam Wirefree Nursing Bra is an awesome pick for this reason, and because it is designed to flex and fit your breasts as they go through all those changes.
4. For maximum hydration: A large reusable water bottle
Nothing can prepare you for the intense thirst that hits when breastfeeding. Quench that thirst (and help keep your milk supply up in the process) by always having a water bottle with a straw nearby, like this Exquis Large Outdoor Water Bottle.
5. For feeding convenience: A supportive nursing tank
Experts recommend that during the first weeks of your baby's life, you breastfeed on-demand, meaning that any time your tiny boss demands milk, you feed them. This will help establish your milk supply and get everything off to a good start.
What does this mean for your life? You will be breastfeeding A LOT. Nursing tanks, like the Loving Moments by Leading Lady, make this so much easier. They have built-in support to keep you comfy, and you can totally wear them around the house, or even out and about. When your baby wants to eat, you'll be able to quickly "pop out" a breast and feed them.
6. For pain prevention: A quality nipple ointment
Breastfeeding shouldn't hurt, but the truth is those first days can be uncomfortable. Your nipples will likely feel raw as they adjust to their new job. This will get better! But until it does, nipple ointment is amazing.
Psst: If it actually hurts when your baby latches on, something may be up, so call your provider or alactation consultant for help.
7. For uncomfortable moments: A dual breast therapy pack
As your breasts adjust to their new role, you may experience a few discomforts—applying warmth or cold can help make them feel so much better. The Lansinoh TheraPearl 3-in-1 Breast Therapy Pack is awesome because you can microwave the pads or put them in the freezer, giving you a lot of options when your breasts need some TLC.
Again, if you have any concerns about something being wrong (pain, a bump that may be red or hot, fever, or anything else), call a professional right away.
8. For inevitable leaks: An absorbing breast pad
In today's episode of, "Oh come on, really?" you are going to leak breastmilk. Now, this is entirely natural and you are certainly not required to do anything about this. Still, many moms choose to wear breast pads in their bras to avoid leaking through to their shirts.
Many women find that a breast pump becomes one of their most essential mom-tools. The ability to provide breast milk when you are away from your baby (and relieve uncomfortable engorged breasts) will add so much flexibility into your new-mom life.
If you will be away from your baby for longer periods of time (traveling or working outside the home, for example) an electric pump is your most efficient bet. The Medela Pump In Style Advanced Double Electric Breast Pump is a classic go-to that will absolutely get the job done, and then some.
10. For quality storage: Breast milk bags
Once you pump your liquid gold, aka breast milk, you'll need a place to store it. The Kiinde Twist Pouches allow you to pump directly into the bags which means one less step (and way less to clean).
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A viral video about car seat safety has parents everywhere cracking up and humming Sir-Mix-A-Lot.
"I like safe kids and I cannot lie," raps Norman Regional Health System pediatric hospitalist Dr. Kate Cook (after prefacing her music video with an apology to her children."I'm a doctor tryin' warn you that recs have changed," she continues.
Dr. Cook's rap video is all about the importance of keeping babies facing backward. It's aptly called "Babies Face Back," and uses humor and parody to drive home car seat recommendations from the American Academy of Pediatrics (AAP).
"Switching from rear-facing to forward-facing is a milestone many parents can't wait to reach," Dr. Cook said in a news release about her hilarious video. "But this is one area where you want to delay the transition as long as possible because each one actually reduces the protection to the child."
Last summer the AAP updated its official stance on car seat safety to be more in line with what so many parents were already doing and recommended that kids stay rear-facing for as long as possible. But with so many things to keep track of in life, it is understandable that some parents still don't know about the change. Dr. Cook wants to change that with some cringe-worthy rapping.
The AAP recommends:
Babies and toddlers should ride in a rear-facing car safety seat as long as possible, until they reach the highest weight or height allowed by their seat.
Once they are facing forward, children should use a forward-facing car safety seat with a harness for as long as possible. Many seats are good up to 65 pounds.
When children outgrow their car seat they should use a belt-positioning booster seat until the vehicle's lap and shoulder seat belt fits properly, between 8 and 12 years old.
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It's clear there is a mental health crisis in America and it is robbing children of their mothers and mothers of their children.
Medical professionals urge people to get help early, but sometimes getting help is not so simple. For many Americans, the life preserver that is mental health care is out of reach when they are drowning.
Democratic presidential candidate Pete Buttigieg just released a plan he hopes could change that and says the neglect of mental health in the United States must end. "Our plan breaks down the barriers around mental health and builds up a sense of belonging that will help millions of suffering Americans heal," says Buttigieg.
He thinks he can "prevent 1 million deaths of despair by 2028" by giving Americans more access to mental health and addictions services.
Buttigieg's plan is interesting because it could remove some of these barriers. He wants to make mental health care more affordable by ensuring everyone has comprehensive coverage for mental health care and by ensuring that everyone can access a free yearly mental health check-up.
That could make getting help more affordable for some moms, and by increasing reimbursement rates for mental health care delivered through telehealth, this plan could help moms get face time with a medical professional without having to deal with finding childcare first.
These are lofty goals with a lofty price tag. It would cost about $300 billion to do what Buttigieg sets out in his plan and the specifics of how the plan would be funded aren't yet known. Neither is how voters will react to this 18-page plan and whether it will help Buttigieg stand out in a crowded field of Democratic candidates.
What we do know is that right now, America is talking about mental health and whether or not that benefits Buttigieg's campaign it will certainly benefit America.
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If this wasn't powerful enough, scientists have discovered that babies who are fed breast milk have a stomach pH that promotes the formation of HAMLET (Human Alpha-lactalbumin Made Lethal to Tumor cells). HAMLET was discovered by chance when researchers were studying the antibacterial properties of breast milk. This is a combination of proteins and lipids found in breast milk that can work together to kill cancer cells, causing them to pull away from healthy cells, shrink and die, leaving the healthy cells unaffected.
According to researchers at Lund University in Sweden, this mechanism may contribute to the protective effect breast milk has against pediatric tumors and leukemia, which accounts for about 30% of all childhood cancer. Other researchers analyzed 18 different studies, finding that "14% to 19% of all childhood leukemia cases may be prevented by breastfeeding for six months or more."
And recently, doctors in Sweden collaborated with scientists in Prague to find yet another amazing benefit to breast milk. Their research demonstrated that a certain milk sugar called Alpha1H, found only in breast milk, helps in the production of lactose and can transform into a different form that helps break up tumors into microscopic fragments in the body.
Patients who were given a drug based on this milk sugar, rather than a placebo, passed whole tumor fragments in their urine. And there is more laboratory evidence to support that the drug can kill more than 40 different types of cancer cells in animal trials, including brain tumors and colon cancer. These results are inspiring scientists to continue to explore HAMLET as a novel approach to tumor therapy and make Alpha1H available to cancer patients.
Bottom line: If you choose to breastfeed, the breast milk your baby gets from your hard work can be worth every drop of effort.