*We’ve partnered with Baby K’tan to make life on-the-go with baby a little easier. There is nothing more rewarding than a weekend away with the kids, where you can experience new things, explore new places and create memories for years to come. But...packing for a weekend away with the kids is another story. You’ve got to think of anything and everything that might come up when you’re away from home base for your baby, your toddler, or sometimes both. With that challenge in mind, we gave a few of our fave Instagram Weekend Warrior mamas the new Weekender Diaper Bag by Baby K’tan and asked them to pack for a weekend away with their kids. Below, they share their packing secrets, along with a little inspiration to turn you into a family travel bug too! Priscilla Ann Soulé @kauailife Why do you love to travel with your kids? The world is a big place full of beautiful people and things, and there's something magical about how children take on new experiences. Their inherent sense of curiosity paired with a certain fearlessness inspires adventures and discoveries we may have never stumbled upon without them. Where’s your fave spots to travel? While the boys have explored all over Kaua'i, from climbing mountains and hiking along 3,000 foot ridges to swimming under countless waterfalls, they've become seasoned off-island travelers as well! Past vacations include Oaxaca, Sayulita, and Key West. We've also road tripped all over California and Utah. Best packing tip? Focus on experience, not things. Pack just the essentials. Whenever we travel (whether it's just a weekend or a couple weeks) we limit our belongings to carry-on luggage only. We want our keiki out and about exploring as much as possible so while I may carry a couple books for good measure, they know that any accessories or toys they want must fit in their own small backpacks -- for overnight trips this includes their blankets and baby dolls and/or stuffed animals. We prefer that they get creative with their surroundings. Less stuff means more to experience! Biggest packing mistake? Surely that's a tie between packing too much stuff and forgetting snacks! I prefer that everything in my diaper bag has a designated spot, so I love that Baby K’tan’s Weekender has 9 separate compartments. I don't like digging my hand into a black hole of a diaper bag and wondering where to find the things I need. I'll group like items together, utilize pockets with efficiency, and sometimes I'll even use a couple smaller bags (such as Aloha Collection's travel pouches) to separate things. Lastly: Can't. Forget. Snacks. Ever. Priscilla’s essentials: 1. Swimwear, a Turkish towel and sunscreen for the family because every day can be a beach day. Baby Baggies Shorts by Patagonia; Salt & Sea and Kaikini Bikinis and Hoa Kai Turkish towels. 2. A good swaddle is full of endless possibility. Our go-to is the island inspired Coco Moon Swaddle Blanket because it's oh-so-soft and large enough to use for practically anything. 3. Sugarbooger Lunch Sacks, they insulate well, clean up easily, and hold just the right amount of goodies to share. 4. Cloth Diapers by Fuzzibunz for both boys and didn't think twice about using them for baby girl. It's amazing how simple they are to use and care for even on the move--we've even used them on our backpacking trips! The Weekender by Baby K’tan has a water-tight, germ-resistant, built-in wet bag that’s perfect for dirty diapers. 5. We never leave the house without books because few things are better than story time and sandy toes. Rosie Maxhimer @rosiemaxhimer Why do you love to travel with your kids? It’s so important for their development. It takes them out of their normal surroundings and comfort zones and expands their understanding of the world. It provides us as parents the opportunity to show them new things around every corner. Whether it’s their first touch of snow, their first dip in the ocean, or their first time eating BBQ in Texas, these little experiences are huge. I feel like whenever we get back from trips, I instantly see developmental leaps. Where’s your fave spots to travel? We love our road trips to spots just a couple hours away, like San Diego, Santa Barbara, Joshua Tree, Palm Springs, Idyllwild and Big Bear. But have also flown with both of them to Austin and Las Vegas. And now that our littlest is a bit older, we have lots of other trips on the books! Best packing tip? If you forget something, it can probably be purchased at the other end! While not ideal, it’s just good to remember. We, as mamas, have about one billion things on our minds at any time. So yes, try to remember to pack everything, but if you don’t, don’t sweat it. You can probably buy a new sippy cup, or use it as an opportunity to have them practice with a “big kid” cup (yes, I may be speaking from personal experience!). Biggest packing mistake? Don’t forget to pack sunscreen, especially now that summer is upon us. We are a fair bunch, and I get so preoccupied with packing diapers, outfits, toys, and snacks, that sometimes sunscreen slips my mind... which often leaves us running to the store at our destination. Rosie’s essentials: 1. I love to get super matchy matchy with the wardrobe. It helps me kinda streamline my packing, and I know what my kids will wear each day because they match! And not gonna lie, it makes for cute photo ops, because lord knows if we are going on a mini-vacay, photos will be taken. 2. Baby K’tan Baby Carrier, so I can throw the baby on and get moving. 2. Entertainment for the car ride: Books, teethers and toys. 3. Allllll the snacks! Find out more about the Baby K’tan Weekender Diaper Bag here. Shop it below.
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Raising a mentally strong kid doesn't mean he won't cry when he's sad or that he won't fail sometimes. Mental strength won't make your child immune to hardship—but it also won't cause him to suppress his emotions.
In fact, it's quite the opposite. Mental strength is what helps kids bounce back from setbacks. It gives them the strength to keep going, even when they're plagued with self-doubt. A strong mental muscle is the key to helping kids reach their greatest potential in life.
But raising a mentally strong kid requires parents to avoid the common yet unhealthy parenting practices that rob kids of mental strength. In my book, 13 Things Mentally Strong Parents Don't Do, I identify 13 things to avoid if you want to raise a mentally strong kid equipped to tackle life's toughest challenges:
1. Condoning a victim mentality<p>Striking out at the baseball game or failing a science test doesn't make a child a victim. Rejection, failure and unfairness are a part of life.</p><p>Refuse to attend your kids' pity parties. Teach them that no matter how tough or unjust their circumstances, they can always take positive action.</p>
2. Parenting out of guilt<p>Giving in to guilty feelings teaches your child that guilt is intolerable. Kids who learn this won't be able to say no to someone who says, "be a friend and let me copy your paper," or, "if you loved me, you'd do this for me."</p><p>Show your kids that even though you feel guilty sometimes—and all good parents do—you're not going to allow your uncomfortable emotions get in the way of <a href="https://www.mother.ly/life/to-my-children-11-valuable-lessons-that-will-truly-change-your-life" target="_self">making wise decisions</a>.</p>
3. Making kids the center of the universe<p>If you make your entire life revolve around your kids, they'll grow up thinking everyone should cater to them. And self-absorbed, entitled adults aren't likely to get very far in life.</p><p>Teach your kids to focus on what they have to offer the world, rather than what they can gain from it.</p>
4. Allowing fear to dictate choices<p>Although keeping your kids inside a protective bubble will spare you a lot of anxiety, playing it too safe teaches your child that fear must be avoided at all times.</p><p>Show your kids that the best way to conquer fear is to face it head-on, and you'll raise courageous people who are willing to step outside their comfort zones.</p>
5. Giving their kids power over them<p>Letting kids dictate what the family will eat for dinner or where the family goes on vacation gives kids more power than they are developmentally ready to handle. Treating kids like an equal, or the boss, actually robs them of mental strength.</p><p>Give your kids an opportunity to practice taking orders, listening to things they don't want to hear, and doing things they don't want to do. Let your kids make simple choices while maintaining a clear family hierarchy.</p>
6. Expecting perfection<p>Expecting your kids to perform well is healthy, but expecting them to be perfect will backfire. Teach your kids that it's okay to fail. It's fine, and normal, not to be great at everything they do.</p><p>Kids who strive to become the best version of <em>themselves</em>, rather than the best at everything, won't make their self-worth dependent upon how they measure up to others.</p>
7. Letting kids avoid responsibility<p>Letting kids skip out on chores or avoid getting an after-school job can be tempting. Afer all, you likely want your kids to have a carefree childhood.</p><p>But children who perform <a href="https://www.mother.ly/child/age-appropriate-chores-for-your-toddlerfrom-14-months-to-5-years-old" target="_self">age-appropriate duties</a> aren't overburdened. Instead, they're gaining the mental strength they need to become responsible citizens.</p>
8. Shielding kids from pain<p>Hurt feelings, <a href="https://www.mother.ly/child/ease-your-anxious-child-6-simple-mindfulness-exercises-to-try-today" target="_self">sadness and anxiety</a> are part of life. Letting kids experience those painful feelings gives them opportunities to practice tolerating discomfort.</p><p>Provide your kids with the guidance and support they need to deal with pain so they can gain confidence in their ability to handle life's inevitable hardships.</p>
9. Feeling responsible for their kids' emotions<p>Cheering your kids up when they're sad and calming them down when they're upset means you take responsibility for regulating their emotions. Kids need to gain emotional competence so they can learn to manage their own feelings.</p><p>Proactively teach your child healthy ways to cope with their emotions so they don't depend on others to do it for them.</p>
10. Preventing kids from making mistakes<p>Correcting your kids' math homework, double checking to make sure they've packed their lunch, and constantly reminding them to do their chores won't do them any favors. Natural consequences can be some of life's greatest teachers.</p><p>Let your kids mess up sometimes and show them how to learn from their mistakes so they can grow wiser and become stronger.</p>
11. Confusing discipline with punishment<p>Punishment involves making kids suffer for their wrongdoing. Discipline, however, is about teaching them how to do better in the future.</p><p>Raising a child who fears "getting in trouble" isn't the same as raising a child who wants to make good choices. Use consequences that help your kids develop the self-discipline they need to make better choices.</p>
12. Taking shortcuts to avoid discomfort<p>Although giving in to a whining child or doing your kids' chores for them will make your life a little easier right now, those shortcuts instill unhealthy habits in your kids for the long term.</p><p>Role model delayed gratification and show your kids that you can resist tempting shortcuts. You'll teach them they're strong enough to persevere even when they want to give up.</p>
<p><em>Originally posted on </em><em><a href="https://www.inc.com/amy-morin/mentally-strong-kids-have-parents-who-refuse-to-do-these-13-things.html" rel="noopener" target="_blank">Inc.</a></em><br></p><h3 style="">You might also like:</h3><ul class="ee-ul"></ul><ul class="ee-ul"><li><a href="https://www.mother.ly/life/to-help-my-children-make-the-right-choices-i-want-them-to-remember-this-one-phrase" target="_blank">To help my children make the right choices, I want them to remember this one phrase</a></li><li><a href="https://www.mother.ly/life/to-my-children-11-valuable-lessons-that-will-truly-change-your-life" target="_blank">To my children: 11 valuable lessons that will truly change your life</a></li><li><a href="https://www.mother.ly/child/how-to-see-our-kids-problem-behavior-in-a-new-way" target="_blank">How empathy (even during meltdowns!) can actually teach your kids to do the right thing</a></li></ul>
13. Losing sight of their values<p>Many parents aren't instilling the values they hold dear in their children. Instead, they're so wrapped up in the day-to-day chaos of life that they forget to look at the bigger picture.</p><p>Make sure your priorities accurately reflect the things you value most in life, and you'll give your children the strength to live a meaningful life.</p>
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