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My darling,

On our wedding day, we had big dreams—dreams for our careers, dreams for our home, dreams for the family we'd build, dreams of travel—dreams and ambitions we still push each other to chase every single day. And I love that.

But I think sometimes we forget that on that magical day we had small dreams too. Dreams that were not grand or noteworthy. Dreams that would not make a bucket list. Dreams of the ordinary, everyday variety.

Dreams of waking up beside each other each morning. Dreams of starting a family. Dreams of raising our children in a happy home. Dreams of the mundane everyday.

Dreams which I now look around to find—almost without us even noticing—have come wonderfully, magically true.

Do you realize that, while we run after the big goals in this life, we have everything we ever wanted, after all?

We woke up beside each other this morning, and that is a dream come true.

Your daughters look up at you with your own blue-green eyes, wide with adoration, and that's a dream come true.

You make me laugh every single day, even as I berate you for leaving your socks on the floor, and that's a dream come true.

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On weekends, you and the kids make pancakes together, using every instrument you can find and leaving the kitchen looking like a hurricane has passed through when you've finished, and that's a dream come true.

Our eldest comes home from school each day with a new tale to tell about the continents, the lifecycle of a butterfly, the pyramids, the ouchie on her knee, and that's a dream come true.

Our daughters run fearlessly into the ocean, and that's a dream come true.

You've learned to make me the Perfect Cup of Tea, and that's a dream come true.

So I'm taking this moment, my love, to stop and appreciate all the wonderful things we already have. I'm stopping to take stock of all the dreams that have already come true, and I realize that, even as we reach for new horizons, goals and ambitions, this I know for sure: right here, right now, I have everything I've ever wanted.

Let us not miss these moments as we strive for the next ones.

Let us not let the perfect half-moon-shape of our youngest's eyelashes on her sleeping cheeks be overlooked.

Let us notice the way she runs up to kick a ball and how the enthusiasm of it knocks her right off her feet.

Let's laugh at their faces dripping with ice cream and their milk mustache.

Let's appreciate the moments we lie with them to read a bedtime story.

Let's see the magic in teaching them to suck a strand of spaghetti up through their lips so that the sauce splatters all over their cheeks.

Let our long-term plans not get in the way of our appreciation of right now: of this weekend and sandcastles built and jumped on, of Cocoa Puffs with Saturday morning cartoons and the tugging of a little hand at ours as she says, "I want to show you!"

Let's revel in the salty, sticky, exhausted little bodies that spill sand everywhere as we lift them into the car, half-asleep after a day on the beach.

Let's find joy in our ability to comfort a frightened little soul as she wakes from a nightmare in the early morning hours.

Let's be glad we never have a quiet moment to ourselves—our home is full of happy chaos, let's not wish it to be any other way.

It's everything we ever wanted.

So my darling husband, today—just for a moment—I'm standing still amidst the busyness of our everyday lives to truly notice what we have created together, both the outstanding and the ordinary.

And I love it all.

Right now at this moment, I don't want to look to the horizon, the next life milestone. I want to be right here, right now, with you, in the life I always dreamed of.

Now, how about one of those perfect cups of tea?

XO,

Your loving wife

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If there's one thing you learn as a new mama, it's that routine is your friend. Routine keeps your world spinning, even when you're trucking along on less than four hours of sleep. Routine fends off tantrums by making sure bellies are always full and errands aren't run when everyone's patience is wearing thin. And routine means naps are taken when they're supposed to, helping everyone get through the day with needed breaks.

The only problem? Life doesn't always go perfectly with the routine. When my daughter was born, I realized quickly that, while her naps were the key to a successful (and nearly tear-free!) day, living my life according to her nap schedule wasn't always possible. There were groceries to fetch, dry cleaning to pick up, and―if I wanted to maintain any kind of social life―lunch dates with friends to enjoy.

Which is why the Ergobaby Metro Compact City Stroller was such a life-saver. While I loved that it was just 14 pounds (perfect for hoisting up the stairs to the subway or in the park) and folds down small enough to fit in an airplane overhead compartment (you know, when I'm brave enough to travel again!), the real genius of this pint-sized powerhouse is that it doesn't skimp on comfort.

Nearly every surface your baby touches is padded with plush cushions to provide side and lumbar support to everything from their sweet head to their tiny tush―it has 40% more padding than other compact strollers. When nap time rolls around, I could simply switch the seat to its reclined position with an adjustable leg rest to create an instant cozy nest for my little one.

There's even a large UV 50 sun canopy to throw a little shade on those sleepy eyes. And my baby wasn't the only one benefiting from the comfortable design― the Metro is the only stroller certified "back healthy" by the AGR of Germany, meaning mamas get a much-needed break too.

I also appreciate how the Metro fits comfortably into my life. The sleek profile fits through narrow store aisles as easily as it slides up to a table when I'm able to meet a pal for brunch. Plus, the spring suspension means the tires absorb any bumps along our way―helping baby stay asleep no matter where life takes us. When it's time to take my daughter out, it folds easily with one hand and has an ergonomic carry handle to travel anywhere we want to go.

Life will probably never be as predictable as I'd like, but at least with our Metro stroller, I know my child will be cradled with care no matter what crosses our path.

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It's been more than a year since Khloé Kardashian welcomed her daughter True Thompson into the world, and like a lot of new moms, Khloé didn't just learn how to to be a mom this year, she also learned how to co-parent with someone who is no longer her partner. According to the Pew Research Center, co-parenting and the likelihood that a child will spend part of their childhood living with just one parent is on the rise.

There was a ton of media attention on Khloé's relationship with True's father Tristan Thompson in her early days of motherhood, and in a new interview on the podcast "Divorce Sucks!," Khloé explained that co-parenting with someone you have a complicated relationship with isn't always easy, but when she looks at True she knows it's worth it.

"For me, Tristan and I broke up not too long ago so it's really raw," Khloé tells divorce attorney Laura Wasser on the podcast. She explains that even though it does "suck" at times, she's committed to having a good relationship with her ex because she doesn't want True to pick up on any negative energy, even at her young age.

That's why she invited Tristan to True's recent first birthday bash, even though she knew True wouldn't remember that party. "I know she's going to want to look back at all of her childhood memories like we all do," Khloé explained. "I know her dad is a great person, and I know how much he loves her and cares about her, so I want him to be there."

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We totally get why being around Tristan is hard for Khloé, but it sounds like she's approaching co-parenting with a positive attitude that will benefit True in the long run. Studies have found that shared parenting is good for kids and that former couples who have "ongoing personal and emotional involvement with their former spouse" are more likely to rate their co-parenting relationship positively.

Khloé says her relationship with Tristan right now is "civilized," and hopefully it can get even better with time. As Suzanne Hayes noted in her six guiding principles for a co-parenting relationship, there's no magic bullet for moving past the painful feelings that come when a relationship ends and into a healthy co-parenting relationship, but treating your ex with respect and (non-romantic) love is a good place to start. Hayes describes it as "human-to-human, parent-to-parent, we-share-amazing-children-and-always-will love."

It's a great place to start, and it sounds like Khloé has already figured that out.

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Kim Kardashian West welcomed her fourth child into the world. The expectancy and arrival of this boy (her second child from surrogacy) has garnered much attention.

In a surrogacy pregnancy, a woman carries a pregnancy for another family and then after giving birth she relinquishes her rights of the child.

On her website, Kim wrote that she had medical complications with her previous pregnancy leading her to this decision. “I have always been really honest about my struggles with pregnancy. Preeclampsia and placenta accreta are high-risk conditions, so when I wanted to have a third baby, doctors said that it wasn't safe for my—or the baby's—health to carry on my own."

While the experience was challenging for her, “The connection with our baby came instantly and it's as if she was with us the whole time. Having a gestational carrier was so special for us and she made our dreams of expanding our family come true. We are so excited to finally welcome home our baby girl."

A Snapchat video hinted that Kim may have planned to breastfeed her third child. What she chooses to do is of course none of our business. But is has raised the very interesting question, “Wait, can you breastfeed when you use a surrogate?"

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The answer is yes, you sure can! (And you can when you adopt a baby, too!)

When a women is pregnant, she begins a process called lactogenesis in which her body prepares itself to start making milk. This usually starts around the twenty week mark of pregnancy (half way through). Then, when the baby is born, the second phase of lactogenesis occurs, and milk actually starts to fill the breasts.

All of this occurs in response to hormones. When women do not carry a pregnancy, but wish to breastfeed, they can induce lactation, where they replicate the same hormonal process that happens during pregnancy.

A woman who wants to induce lactation can work with a doctor or midwife, and start taking the hormones estrogen and progesterone (which grow breast tissue)—often in the form of birth control pills—along with a medication called domperidone (which increases milk production).

Several weeks before the baby will be born, the woman stops taking the birth control pill but continues to take the domperidone to simulate the hormonal changes that would happen in a pregnancy. She'll also start pumping multiple times per day, and will likely add herbal supplements, like fenugreek and blessed thistle.

Women can also try to induce lactation without the hormones, by using pumping and herbs, it may be harder but some women feel more comfortable with that route.

Inducing lactation takes a lot of dedication—but then again, so does everything related to be a mama. It's a super personal decision, and not right for everyone.

The important thing to remember is that we need to support women and mothers through their entire journey, no matter what decisions they make about themselves and their families—whether Kardashian or the rest of us.

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