Kim Kardashian shares surrogacy experience in heartfelt letter: ‘It was so hard’

Every parent should read Kim Kardashian’s candid letter about using a gestational surrogate.

Kim Kardashian shares surrogacy experience in heartfelt letter: ‘It was so hard’

Kim Kardashian has never shied away from speaking publicly—and candidly—about her pregnancy struggles. The Keeping Up with the Kardashians star has opened up publicly in the past about the high-risk complications she’s faced and the emotions behind choosing surrogacy.

Now, on the heels of the news that her baby girl is here, Kardashian is opening up with a beautiful, honest letter about the whole process of using a gestational surrogate.

In September, Kardashian confirmed she and Kayne West had found a surrogate to carry their third child. At the time, the 37-year-old reality TV star faced intense backlash for the decision—with some fans suggesting she chose surrogacy to “save her body.”


But Kardashian says nothing could be further from the truth: In a post published to her website Thursday, Kardashian writes, “I have always been really honest about my struggles with pregnancy. Preeclampsia and placenta accreta are high-risk conditions, so when I wanted to have a third baby, doctors said that it wasn’t safe for my—or the baby’s—health to carry on my own.”

When pregnant with son Saint, 2, Kardashian had suffered from placenta accreta, a complication where some of the placenta grows deeply into the uterus and prevents it from detaching after labor. And while carrying daughter North, 4, the KKW Beauty mogul developed preeclampsia, a condition characterized by high blood pressure and organ damage.

Her previous health issues, she explains, prevented her from carrying another child. So, Kardashian continues, after exploring their options, the power couple decided to use a gestational carrier—the term for a person who is not biologically related to the baby they’re carrying.

Unlike with a traditional surrogate, Kardashian adds, doctors implanted her fertilized egg in the woman whom they’d chosen as their gestational surrogate, so “our baby is biologically mine and Kanye’s,” she writes.

But the decision wasn’t easy—not by a long shot. Kardashian admits in her letter that, even though she “absolutely” loves her gestational carrier and it was “the best experience” she’s ever had, it’s still “definitely different” than traditional pregnancy.

“[A]nyone who says or thinks it’s the easy way out is completely wrong,” she writes. “People assume it’s better because you don’t have to deal with the physical changes, pain or complications with delivery, but for me it was so hard to not carry my own child, especially after I carried North and Saint.”

Kardashian doesn’t mince words in her letter over how emotionally difficult the last nine months have been. And that’s something every parent needs to understand. Couples who choose surrogacy don’t do so lightly, and there are so many factors that have to be considered before going forward. It also doesn’t mean they’re less of a mother or father.

Still, the Kardashian-West family is blessed, the mom of three adds.

“The connection with our baby came instantly and it’s as if she was with us the whole time,” Kardashian writes. “Having a gestational carrier was so special for us and she made our dreams of expanding our family come true. We are so excited to finally welcome home our baby girl.”

These are the best bath time products you can get for under $20

These budget-friendly products really make a splash.

With babies and toddlers, bath time is about so much more than washing off: It's an opportunity for fun, sensory play and sweet bonding moments—with the added benefit of a cuddly, clean baby afterward.

Because bathing your baby is part business, part playtime, you're going to want products that can help with both of those activities. After countless bath times, here are the products that our editors think really make a splash. (Better yet, each item is less than $20!)

Comforts Bath Wash & Shampoo

Comforts Baby Wash & Shampoo

Made with oat extract, this bath wash and shampoo combo is designed to leave delicate skin cleansed and nourished. You and your baby will both appreciate the tear-free formula—so you can really focus on the bath time fun.

Munckin Soft Spot Bath Mat

Munchkin slip mat

When your little one is splish-splashing in the bath, help keep them from also sliding around with a soft, anti-slip bath mat. With strong suction cups to keep it in place and extra cushion to make bath time even more comfortable for your little one, this is an essential in our books.

Comforts Baby Lotion

Comforts baby lotion

For most of us, the bath time ritual continues when your baby is out of the tub when you want to moisturize their freshly cleaned skin. We look for lotions that are hypoallergenic, nourishing and designed to protect their skin.

The First Years Stack Up Cups

First year stack cups

When it comes to bath toys, nothing beats the classic set of stackable cups: Sort them by size, practice pouring water, pile them high—your little one will have fun with these every single bath time.

Comforts Baby Oil

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For dry skin that needs a little extra TLC, our team loves Comforts' fast-absorbing baby oil aloe vera and vitamin E. Pro tip: When applied right after drying off your baby, the absorption is even more effective.

KidCo Bath Toy Organizer

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Between bathing supplies, wash rags, toys and more, the tub sure can get crowded in a hurry. We like that this organizer gives your little one space to play and bathe while still keeping everything you need within reach.

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