Choosing what to share or not comes down to each individual parent and what's right for their family.
Here's an alternative definition of parenting: The act of questioning your decisions 100 times a day. So often the choices we initially make don't quite sit right as time goes on—and there's nothing wrong with re-evaluating at that point.
That seems to be the position new mama Kylie Jenner found herself in recently. After initially sharing pictures of her newborn daughter's face with her 109 million Instagram followers, Jenner went back and deleted all the snaps that featured Stormi's face this past weekend.
"I'm not sharing photos of my girl right now," Jenner confirmed when fans questioned why she cropped Stormi's face out of a new picture.
This may have seemed like a 180-degree turn after Jenner previously shared pictures of Stormi (that continue to live elsewhere on the internet). But even for someone with such a large social media presence, Jenner made it clear early on that she wanted to keep some moments of motherhood just to herself.
"I understand you're used to me bringing you along on all my journeys," Jenner said when announcing Stormi's birth in February after never confirming reports she was expecting. "My pregnancy was one I chose not to do in front of the world. I knew for myself i needed to prepare for this role of a lifetime in the most positive, stress free, and healthy way I knew how... I knew my baby would feel every stress and every emotion so I chose to do it this way for my little life and our happiness."
Even for mamas without a hundred million Instagram followers, deciding what kinds of baby pictures or information to share online is no small matter. According to the 2014 C.S. Mott Children's Hospital National Poll on Children's Health, the majority of parents with young children report using social media not only to share pictures of their kids, but also to ask for advice and find community. Yet 74% of the parents said they knew of other moms or dads who went too far by sharing embarrassing information about their children, inappropriate photos or information that puts the child's safety at risk.
While 92% of American children had some kind of online presence before the age of two at the time of a 2010 study, the tide may very well be turning as there is more talk about the downsides of "sharenting." With campaigns such as @kidsforprivacy and high-profile examples from celebrities (now including Jenner) there are more reminders than ever before to adjust your privacy settings on social media or pause before posting children's pictures.
This is a worthwhile practice because, remember, as cute as a picture of your kiddo potty training may be to you, the internet doesn't forget—and that's probably not something she wants to turn back up 15 years from now: One in four preteens reported feeling embarrassed or anxious by the pictures their parents shared online.
But, as Jenner's example also proves, even if you've shared something you later regret, there's nothing wrong with taking it down. We're all learning as we go!