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The revelations that have come out during the past week about Harvey Weinstein’s sexual assaults on women are both horrifying and all too familiar. This is not just because of “one man” from Hollywood—but, rather, because of what his example reveals about the sexist issues that remain pervasive across all of society.


For some of us, these offenses have been direct.

For others, it’s the heartache of knowing the pain our mothers, sisters and friends have suffered.

For all of us, it’s the caution that we “must” dress modestly, walk to our cars with pepper spray within reach, never leave a drink unattended at a party, meet up with new people in public spaces and so on.

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The truth is that to be a woman is to be affected by sexual harassment. For proof, search no farther than the #MeToo hashtag that’s trending across all of social media.

Launched in earnest with a tweet from actress Alyssa Milano on Sunday afternoon, Twitter confirms the hashtag has since been used more than half a million times by people speaking out about their experiences with sexual aggression and violence.

And it hasn’t even been 24 hours.

This isn’t because we needed a platform to tell our stories.

It isn’t because we needed permission.

It is because, despite everything, we still have hope.

Despite the statistics from the Centers for Disease Control that show one in five women will be raped in her life...

Despite the finding that rape is the most under-reported crime in America...

Despite statistics that show 3.5 million American women endured non-contact unwanted sexual experiences in the past year...

Despite researched that showed 85% of women experienced street harassment before the age of 18...

Despite United Nations reports that 40 to 50% of women experience sexual harassment in the workplace...

Despite United Nations reports that 83% of American girls aged 12 to 16 experience sexual harassment at school...

We have hope because we are shaping the future.

In the conversations we have with our daughters and sons about consent, to what we model for them in healthy relationships, these are the lessons that matter. By simply bringing the prevalence of sexual harassment and violence to the light today, we are already taking a major step in the right direction because it is our voices and responses that give us power.

Today that looks like #MeToo, but tomorrow it could be history.

Back when my husband and I were creating our wedding registry, it was a fun, low-pressure opportunity to select some new dishes and linens. After all, I knew a thing or two about stocking my home and making the "wrong decision" with thread count was the only thing that posed any risk to my sleep at night.

Fast-forward a few years to when I created a baby registry before the birth of my first child—and I found the experience to have a much steeper learning curve. Unlike those sheets, it felt like a bad swaddle or bassinet selection would be catastrophic. Unsure of what to expect from motherhood or my baby, I leaned heavily on advice from friends who already ventured into parenthood. (Starting with their reminders to take deep breaths!)

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Now a mom of three little ones under the age of four, I'm happy to be in a position to pass along some baby registry wisdom.

Go shopping with a veteran parent

As first-time parents, my husband and I barely knew the difference between a bouncer and a swing, let alone what specific features we would want. So when a mom friend recommended we head to Walmart to build my registry together—because she found them to carry the trendy brands she loved AND make registering a breeze during her pregnancy—I leapt at the chance.

By walking through the aisles together and actually getting to see the products, I was much more confident in my registry selections. Thanks to that quick, in-store tutorial from my friend, I understood exactly how to match a perfect infant car seat with an extra base and stroller—which is something I would have been clueless about on my own.

Include items at a variety of price points

When it comes down to it, a registry is really a wish list. So, while I had a personal budget for a stroller if it had to come out of my own pocket, this was an opportunity for me to ask for the stroller of my dreams. And, wouldn't you know it? A few family members went in on it together, which made a bigger price tag much more manageable.

At the same time, it's nice to include some of the smaller ticket items that are absolutely essential. I can't even begin to tell you how grateful I was to skip buying my own diapers for those first few weeks. (With super cute patterns, these are also surprisingly fun to give, too!)

Think about the gifts you would like to give

The first time I bought a mom-to-be a gift after my own child was born, I knew immediately what to look for on her registry: a diaper bag backpack, which I had come to have very strong opinions about after battling falling straps with my first diaper bag. This allowed me to feel like I had a personal touch in my gift, even if I brought one pre-selected by her.

I also appreciate it when my friends clearly incorporate their style into their registry choices, like with adorable baby outfits or nursery decor—and there's no sweeter "thank you" than a picture from a friend showing your gift in use.

Ask for things to grow with your child

Even though it's called a baby registry, there's no need to limit yourself to gifts to use before their first birthday. (To this day, I still have people who attended my baby shower to thank for the convertible bed that my oldest child sleeps in!) Knowing that, I would have included more options with long lifespans into my registry—namely, a baby carrier that can be used during the newborn months, baby months and well into the toddler years. A well-designed baby carrier would have saved my back from serious pain because it would have allowed me to comfortably and ergonomically carry my toddler as she made her way into the 25lb+ club. One brand that's designed to grow with your baby and accommodates 7-45 pounds (up to about four years old) and offers both inward and forward-facing positions is Ergobaby. With several different design and style options, you can easily find one that caters to your parenting needs. From an all-in-one carrier, like the Omni 360, that grows with baby from the newborn stages into the toddler years or a newborn-specific carrier, like the Embrace (and don't worry you can later upgrade to a carrier for an older baby, I recommend the 360 Carrier). The best part? All ergonomic designs are supportive and comfortable for both baby and parent, offering extra lumbar support with breathable, lightweight mesh styles. Everyone (even grandparents!) can get a kick out of babywearing, which is a nice and welcomed break for parents. Having one of these on my registry would have certainly made those first few years so much easier.

Motherly is your daily #momlife manual; we are here to help you easily find the best, most beautiful products for your life that actually work. We share what we love—and we may receive a commission if you choose to buy. You've got this.

This article was sponsored by Ergobaby. Thank you for supporting the brands that support Motherly and mamas.


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