When we let our kids watch TV, we hope that they find role models in their favorite characters and that they learn how to better relate to the world around them.

A new study has found that some of the most popular cartoons, like Peppa Pig, Toy Story, and Frozen are actually teaching our kids harmful lessons when it comes to violence, pain, and gender. Researchers from the universities of Bath (UK) and Calgary (Canada) set out to analyze how popular cartoons aimed at 4 to 6-year olds depict pain and empathy.

They reviewed ten movies, including Despicable Me 2, The Secret Life of Pets, Toy Story 3 & 4, Incredibles 2, Inside Out, Up, Zootopia, Frozen, and Finding Dory. They also studied six television shows, including Sofia the First, Shimmer and Shine, Paw Patrol, Octonauts, Peppa Pig, and Daniel Tiger’s Neighborhood.

Researchers found almost 9 incidents of pain per hour of programming. Over two-thirds of those painful experiences were rooted in violence.

Examples of everyday pain or injuries, like a character falling over or bumping their elbow, were far less common. They made up only about 20% of the incidents.

Researchers also found that while boy characters were much more likely to experience severe pain, observers were more likely to respond or care if the victim was a girl.

Along those same lines, the study found an overall lack of empathy from the characters who witnessed someone else experience pain.

“We examined shows and movies that millions of young children in North America and beyond are watching. The findings were, frankly, shocking,” said lead researcher, Dr. Melanie Noel, Associate Professor of Clinical Psychology from the University of Calgary.

“It is undoubtable that the media is a powerful force in how children learn about the world,” she continued. “The way pain is unrealistically portrayed is teaching young children that pain is not worthy of help or empathy from others, and that it will be experienced and responded to differently if you are a boy or a girl. We have a responsibility to change these societal narratives about pain.”

Dr. Abbie Jordan, senior lecturer of the Department of Psychology and Centre for Pain Research at the University of Bath, agreed.

“”Part of the challenge in this is how we talk about pain. We know children spend increasing amounts of time watching these influential programs and films and that what they depict feeds through to their understanding and awareness of an issue. When it comes to pain, as we see from this study, the picture presented by these media is not reflective of children’s common experiences, instead focusing much more on extreme and violent pain,” she said.

So, what should parents do?

Knowing that our children are exposed to so much violence, even in cartoons, it’s important that we have ongoing conversations about pain and empathy with our kids.

We need to help them understand that pain, well, hurts. And that it’s okay to express when they’re hurting or upset.

We also need to let them know that it’s important to check on our friends who may be hurting.

Cartoons have many benefits. The right content can help aid in children’s intellectual, social, and emotional development.

We just need to make sure that our kids are taking away the right lessons. This study serves as a reminder that children’s shows and movies don’t always get everything right.

It’s on us to help our kids get it right, though. Let’s teach them about kindness, empathy, and pain in ways that they can understand.